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25 • Orange, CA • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 18–40
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Mar 5
- 5′ 10″ (1.78m)
- Body type
- A little extra
- Mostly anything
- Graduated from university
- Strictly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids
- Likes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)
I'm a cis guy attracted to men. Physical stats are in the sidebar if they matter, though I'm more likely to be into you if they don't. I don't have any physical requirements when it comes to guys I'm attracted to, as long as their basic hygiene's up to snuff.
In terms of personality, I like all stripes there too. Self-assurance and self-confidence are sexy, a good sense of humor's great, and just being caring and attentive is just as nice.
I'm limited by my income on the kind of activities I can get up to, but I'm just as likely to be up for a night in watching TV as a walk in the great outdoors, or a session of window shopping. SoCal's got plenty to do, and as long as I've got good company, I'll be having fun.
Full disclosure: if all goes to plan I'll be heading off to Japan sometime in the summer. But don't let that stop you. I'm open to finding friends, hangout buddies, friends with benefits, pen pals, online friends, boyfriends, anything like that. I'm up for relationships both serious and casual, as long as the guy doesn't mind the fact that I'm trying to go live outside the country. I also already have one friend with benefits, and I'm not planning on giving him up, so anything that happens with me is going to be open/non-monogamous.
TL;DR: If you're interested, just send me a message. :) I'm not picky, I swear.
I earned a TEFL (Teaching English as a Foreign Language) Certification from UC Irvine Extension in 2013, with the goal of finding a teaching job in Japan. I'm currently in the process of applying for the Japan Exchange & Teaching (JET) Program, and if I'm successful, I'll be over there working as an assistant teacher in a public school starting in July or August 2015. If not, I'll be looking for a private job instead.
Aside from that, I want to do what I can to make a good living, learn as much as I can about as many things as I can, and ultimately live a good life with people I love.
I'm also a language geek: my minor is in linguistics, I've taken classes in Spanish, Japanese and Russian in the past, and I'm currently working on getting my skill in Japanese back. I love listening to music in other languages as well. I've even created a phonetic profile, a grammar, a few hundred words, and a handwritten script for a constructed language, though I don't know if it'll ever get used in any of my stories.
I've been a real couch potato for much of my life, but during college I became an avid biker, and I'm looking to start that up again, along with other cardio (like hiking) and strength training (as much as I can without a gym membership). I don't have a specific goal weight in mind, and I like my body well enough the way it is, but I also want to improve my overall fitness.
All in all, I like to do a lot of different things, and even if I've never done it before, I'll probably try it without much convincing. I'm always looking to make life more interesting, and I'd love to meet someone who can expand my horizons.
On TV, I watch stuff as diverse as Futurama, The Venture Bros., Frasier, Firefly, Bob's Burgers, Eureka, Parks and Recreation, The Amazing Race, and Good Eats, to name just a few. I'm also into anime, with some of my favorites including Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex, Dennou Coil, Eureka Seven, Eden of the East, Cowboy Bebop, Natsume's Book of Friends, and anything by Studio Ghibli or the late great Satoshi Kon.
As for movies, I'm up for anything, though I have a soft spot for gay flicks (even terrible ones), character comedies, and (of course) sci-fi and fantasy.
If I had to pick a favorite genre of videogame, it'd definitely be RPGs, both Western and Japanese. Dragon Age is one of my favorite series, and I like everything else I've played from Bioware nearly as much. I love a few Final Fantasy titles, Golden Sun, The World Ends With You and most Pokémon games. Outside of RPGs, I'm big into Assassin's Creed, The Legend of Zelda, Metroid, Paper Mario, Ōkami, and a bunch of indie games by Anna Anthropy and Christine Love. I'll give nearly anything multiplayer a try with some friends. And in recent months I've become pretty heavily involved in Final Fantasy XIV (on the Coeurl server).
I'm a longtime lover of music, and though these days I usually listen to rock/alt stuff (along the lines of 98.7 FM or 106.7 FM in SoCal), I can listen to and enjoy basically anything. I don't own a lot of music, and what I do have is mostly soundtracks (with Yoko Kanno's work taking up most of that space). I don't listen to a ton of classical nowadays, but I have an appreciation for it.
I'm not a picky eater, but lately I've been cutting down on soda, red meat, and a few other things just for the sake of feeling better. The major exception is that I don't eat fish that isn't deep-fried beyond recognition. Despite that, I'm a sucker for California/Baja Mexican food (Chronic Tacos especially), and I'll never say no to Japanese as long as they've got something other than sushi. I don't drink coffee, but I love a good cup/glass/gallon of tea. I'm not always adventurous at restaurants, but I can be persuaded to try anything once with enough prodding.
> My family. I'm a homebody, and up to now I've spent all the major holidays with my family if I could manage it. My parents were a key part of why I'm so optimistic and open to experience, and coming out to them was almost a non-issue.
> Music. Like I said above, I'm not very focused about it, but I couldn't imagine not having music in my life. To me, it's an inherent part of being human. If there's something playing, I have to move some part of my body with the rhythm, even if it's just tapping a foot.
> The internet. That sounds a little nerdy, but it's true. My life as I know it wouldn't be possible without it. It connects me to my friends and loved ones, and lets me constantly learn and expose myself to anything I want to know in the blink of an eye. That's pretty damn cool.
> Stories. On paper or on a screen, passive or interactive, fixed or mutable, I love stories. Even if I weren't planning on creating them myself, I'd still feel a little less human if I didn't have traces of all the stories I've experienced stored away in my head.
> My people. Whether intimately involved or not, whether in person or online, I value everyone who claims me as a friend.
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