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44 Somerville, MA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Jan 28
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Dislikes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Latin (Poorly), LISP (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Polyamorous Pagan in the Boston area Geek community. I am also enjoy brewing, fencing, the SCA and English Civil War re-enacting (we Cavaliers won, no really - or we should have). I enjoy reading, but mostly stick to non-fiction, mostly science and computer texts, and political analysis from Stragetic Forecasting. When I do go for fiction, it tends to be Science Fiction, though Humanist Fiction also rates highly. The Pagan path I am following is of the Celtic/Druidic variety, and I hope to get a chapter of the British Druids Order formed in Boston. People tell me that I am oddly rational for a spiritual person, but it was also my studies in physics that pulled me into Neo-Pagan beliefs. Seriously,
I very deeply believe in the unity of the physical and the sacred. The physical, the natural, and thus, that which can be understood scientifically, is the foundation of the sacred and the spiritual. And I mean that in the relative, not the hierarchical, sense. One does not dictate to the other, but once one understands them, they can not be is disagreement. Neither forces or imposes, and they come into unity by truly being themselves.
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to be a UNIX/Web app integrator, but my current employer wants me to be a junior level systems administrator, which, in terms of my career, is so ten years ago. Also doing theatrical lighting tech work as a hobby. Mostly for productions of Shakespeare associated with the SCA, or for a local Burlesque troupe, the Boston Babydolls. Involved with a reconstruction group trying to recreate the side sword (rapier) fencing style of Joachim Meyer, a 16th century German, as a living martial art. Trying to figure out how to get the financial freedom and time to return to school and finish my degree in Physics.

Just broke up with my girl friend. It was as good as a break up can be. We both agreed that we make better friends then lovers. And then she invited me to Christmas dinner with her family. Back to single life and trying to figure out the dating scene. So it goes.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
fencing and swordsmanship/swordfighting. My prefered weapons are rapier and dagger, but I am a fair hand with the Mortuary sword.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I just stepped out of a painting by Vermeer, or look it, at least. Or am trying too....
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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a) Just started "Brave New World" by Adlus Huxley. It's very good, but the society described is not that much of a totalitarian state. Also re-reading Michael Ondaatje, and the Lisa Randall book on string theory, Warped Passages.

b) Recently saw Stardust. It was ok. Also recently watched Dersu Uzala, which is an excellent movie. You should watch it.

c) My tastes are an eclectic mix, including historic music, ambient, goth, dark jazz, and classical. Recently, I have been listening to Wolgemut and The Cruxshadows.

d) Indian and Japanese are about my favorites. Though I am also a regular at Grendel's in Harvard Sq.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Physics and the nature of time, historic clothing, or going back to school.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
On the road to a SCA event or reenactment.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Once, a woman in a bar complimented my looks. She said that she liked my 'dashing librarian' style.

Swords were the last and definitive form of masculine jewelry made, and everything since has been pointless ornamentation that detracts from the overall form.

Ok, something actually private-ish, or, at least, contentious:

Ultimately, I am a gender and racial negativist. The assumption that these qualities are sufficient justification for ideologies of separation and identity ignores basic physical realities about what forms us as people. Socially pre-fab gender and ethnic identities does not inform us about who we are. Not only is the mirror lying to us, but even that is our interpretation of its interpretation of who we are.
You should message me if
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You have something to tell me. Or you are in the area and want to meet, either for a pint, to hear about fencing or the English Civil War, or any of my other interests. Maybe you want to try some rapier fencing or sword fighting as a gentlemanly martial study.

A quick word about what I am looking for. First off, I am naturally polyamourous, and would prefer a relationship that works within that dynamic. Beyond that, I am looking for a relationship that will not get to 'marriage' levels of seriousness, but still exists long term. Something like a 'friend with benefits' but actually friends and still around after a couple of years. Really want someone to go to the theater with, share food, movies, and evenings with. Also, looking for someone that has something interesting going on in her life that is either similar to or tangential to my interests. I can not sustain a relationship without that, I have tried. The sciences make for the best pillow talk.