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26 Grand Rapids, MI Androgynous, Gender Nonconforming, Man

Androgynous, Gender Nonconforming, Man

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 22–50
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 2:12pm
Queer, Gay, Pansexual
Relationship Type
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has cats
English (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm interested in forming new friendships, flings, romances, and any combination thereof with rad folks of any sex or gender presentation. Communication and consent are essential! Pretty much everything else is negotiable.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Building things, playing in graveyards at night, picking my banjo, riding my bike, going to meetings, hating everything, going to shows, wrenching at the community bike shop down the street from my house, hangin' out with all the wonderful people in my life.

Some pretty basic and consistent goals are to swim, read, practice music, and ride my bike more. I don't have or want a full time job so I'm always looking for new ways to hustle.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Skipping stones. Dancing. Making breakfast. Fixing bikes. Helping kids fix their bikes. Repurposing innertubes. Funky drumming. Super Mario Bros.

I'm really bad at time management.
The first things people usually notice about me
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I'm a smelly weirdo??
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Currently I am reading (and very much enjoying) The Golden Compass. I don't read as much as I would like and I have way more books than I will probably ever get around to reading. I love existentialism, sci-fi, apocalyptic/dystopian fiction and anarchist literature of all kinds. Some of my favorite fiction writers include Margaret Atwood, James Baldwin, Aimee Bender, Ray Bradbury, Albert Camus, Phillip K. Dick, Ursula LeGuin, and Randall Kenan. I don't generally have the attention span for non-fiction unless it is in short format. As far as zines go, Strangers in a Tangled Wilderness publishes some really great stuff (The Road to Either Or seriously changed my life). Oryx and Crake by Margaret Atwood and Invisible Man by Ralph Ellison are a couple of my favorite novels. Also, Calvin & Hobbes.

I don't care that much about movies. Documentaries, mindless comedies, and tasteful and/or campy horror will do. If I had to pick a favorite movie it would be a tie between Alien and 101 Dalmations.

I watch a lot of TV during the colder months. X-Files, Dark Shadows, Call the Midwife, Buffy, Battlestar Galactica, Futurama, Star Trek: TNG, Bob's Burgers, The Golden Girls, Twin Peaks, Adventure Time, etc. etc.

Music is so important to me! I'll dance to whatever's on the radio, but I prefer post-punk, RnB, jazz, funk, pop punk, darkwave, crust punk, hardcore, black metal, hip hop, noise, and Appalachian folk tunes. I can't resist digging through heaps of cheap used records. Some of my favorite Grand Rapids artists include Sapphic, Forever Grey, Dakhma, Pillars of Ash, Bermudas, Cemetery Circus, Dante Cope, and Willie the Kid.

I'll pretty much eat anything if I'm hungry enough, but some of my favorite foods are sweet potatoes, eggs, yougurt, dates, garlic, wild ramps, black beans, tempeh, spinach, asparagus, avocados, brussels sprouts, sauerkraut, blueberries, snap peas, lentils, pickled beets, hummus, licorice tea, breakfast, burritos, breakfast burritos, tofu, somen noodles, and green coconut curry. Oh, and PIZZAAAAAA!!! I love to cook (especially for friends), garden, ferment, and dumpster dive (though most often just for shitty pizza).

I like to play games as well. I really enjoy word games like Scrabble and Bananagrams. Euchre is fun. I just got Boss Monster and that's pretty great. I also live across the street from a basketball court and pretty close to a graveyard that's great for hide and seek and capture the flag. As far as video games go, my preferred platforms are NES and PC. Some of my favorite NES games include BaseWars, Faxanadu, and Kabuki Quantum Fighter. Thief: The Dark Project, Deus Ex, System Shock 2, Portal, and MineCraft are some of my favorites for PC.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My glasses. A knife. Music. A kitchen. A bicycle. A water bottle. A sense of humor. Yup, that's 7. Oh well, I'm a spoiled brat.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"What should I eat?" "Where did I put my [keys, wallet, water bottle, day planner, etc.]?" "I should really be [getting going, reading, riding my bike, hustling, making food, etc.] right now.... oh, well. I'll just [lay in bed, stare at my computer, work on this arbitrary and meaningless task, masturbate, listen to music] for a few more minutes...."

I try not to spend too much time thinking about how hopelessly fucked up everything is and focus on what I can do to improve my life and the lives of those around me. Sometimes I fail miserably at this.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At a punk show, dancing at the club, or dancing at a punk show.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm really more like 5'7" and a half. And at times I struggle with depression.
You should message me if
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You want to. I would especially like to hear from folks who are rad, queer, kinky (I'm doloresjo on fet), direct action takers, nerds, music makers, and, most importantly, not jerks (this includes -phobes, rich ppl, cops, the vast majority of dudes, and anyone who identifies as white and answered "Yes" to the question "Would you strongly prefer to date someone of your own ethnic background?").