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26 Grand Rapids, MI Androgynous, Gender Nonconforming, Man

Androgynous, Gender Nonconforming, Man

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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18–50
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 12:54am
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Open relationship
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and has cats
English (Okay)
My self-summary
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I'm interested in engaging in consensual cuteness and/or debauchery with rad folks of any sex or gender presentation. I have a few people I'm sweet on right now and I develop crushes rather frequently. I have a lot of love and a lot of loves.
<3 <3 <3
What I’m doing with my life
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Building things, playing in graveyards at night, picking my banjo, riding my bike, going to meetings, hating everything, going to shows, wrenching at the community bike shop down the street from my house, hangin' out with all the wonderful people in my life.

Some pretty basic goals are to swim, read, and ride my bike more than I have been.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Skipping stones. Dancing. Making breakfast. Fixing bikes. Helping kids fix their bikes. Repurposing innertubes. Funky drumming. Super Mario Bros.

I'm really bad at time management.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Smelly, dressed in all black, gay as hell, short shorts/skirt, dirty knees, filthy hands, fabulous fingernails.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I don't read enough. I love existentialism, sci-fi, apocalyptic/dystopian fiction and anarchist literature of all kinds. As far as zines go, Strangers in a Tangled Wilderness publishes some really great stuff (The Road to Either Or seriously changed my life). Oryx and Crake by Margaret Atwood and Invisible Man by Ralph Ellison are two of my favorite novels. Also, Calvin & Hobbes.

My favorite movies are Alien and 101 Dalmations.

I watch too much TV. X-Files, Dark Shadows, Call the Midwife, Buffy, Battlestar Galactica, Futurama, Star Trek: TNG, Bob's Burgers, The Golden Girls, etc. etc.

I'll listen to whatever's on the radio, but I prefer RnB, jazz, funk, pop punk, goth rock, crust punk, black metal, hip hop, and Appalachian folk. I have a lot of records. Some of my favorite local music includes Sapphic, Dakhma, Bermudas, Cemetery Circus and Willie the Kid.

I'll pretty much eat anything if I'm hungry enough, but some of my favorite foods are sweet potatoes, eggs, dates, garlic, wild ramps, black beans, tempeh, asparagus, avocados, brussels sprouts, snap peas, lentils, pickled beets, hummus, licorice tea, breakfast, burritos, breakfast burritos, and green curry. Oh, and PIZZAAAAAA!!! I love to cook for friends, garden, ferment, and dumpster dive (though usually just for shitty pizza).

I like to play games. I really enjoy word games like Scrabble and Bananagrams. I went from hating to loving euchre after getting the hang of it. I just got Boss Monster and that's really fun. I also live across the street from a basketball court and pretty close to a graveyard that's great for hide and seek and capture the flag. As far as video games go, my preferred platforms are NES and PC. Some of my favorite NES games include BaseWars, Faxanadu, and Kabuki Quantum Fighter. Thief: The Dark Project, Deus Ex, and System Shock 2 are some of my favorites for PC. Portal and Minecraft are pretty cool too.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My glasses. A knife. Music. A kitchen. A bicycle. A water bottle. A sense of humor. Yup, that's 7. Oh well, I'm a spoiled brat.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
"What should I eat?" "Where did I put my [keys, wallet, water bottle, day planner, etc.]?" "I should really be [reading, riding my bike, hustling, making food, etc.] right now...."

I try not to spend too much time thinking about how hopelessly fucked up everything is and focus on what I can do to improve my life and the lives of those around me. Sometimes I fail miserably at this.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At a punk show, dancing at the club, or dancing at a punk show.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm really more like 5'7" and a half... and at times I struggle with depression.
You should message me if
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You want to. I would especially like to hear from folks who are rad, queer, direct action takers, nerds, music makers, and, most importantly, not jerks (this includes -phobes, rich ppl, cops, the vast majority of dudes, and anyone who identifies as white and answered "Yes" to the question "Would you strongly prefer to date someone of your own ethnic background?").