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24 M Brooklyn, NY

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 21–29
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:40am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Other, and very serious about it
Dropped out of university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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An angel once told me that life is a series of chances. I meditate on that often.

Anyway. Hi, I'm Arthur. I am a polyamorous Neopagan feminist nerd. I just moved to Bushwick (I am become hipster, gentrifier of Brooklyn) and work in Manhattan. Times Square, specifically, as a tour guide on those buses that go all around town--so I know dozens of good restaurants and bars and where to find cool shit to do all over Manhattan as long as it's midtown or downtown. I'm one of those people who gets a nosebleed if I go above 59th St. Well, not really, because some of my friends live in Harlem since it became incredibly gentrified, although the sheer what-the-fuck-itude of "Harlem has become incredibly gentrified" still boggles my mind. "I gave hip-hop to white boys when nobody was lookin' / Found it locked in a basement when they gentrified Brooklyn" - Saul Williams

I don't have a lot of dealbreakers I don't consider "duh" quality to anyone I have a high match percentage with. I doubt the the anti-choicers or homophobes are gonna message me on here anyway because male privilege. Anyway, you must love cuddles, you must be no taller than 5'7'', and you must not be dommey during hookups.

I am open to dating individuals in ethically non-monogamous relationships, but if it goes anywhere serious I'll need to know I can get along with your partner(s).
What I’m doing with my life
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Dear God. I have had so many major transitions in my life happen so frequently since January 2013 that the answer to that question changes at least once a month.

As of 9/11/14 I am slouching towards a career change. Something less chaotic than hyperactively entertaining tourists on a wildly jerking bus.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Tap dancing.
Tarot reading.
Knowing what to do and where to go in New York City.
Listening (literally took training in effective listening).
Direct, blunt communication styles.
Failing horribly in the kitchen.
Loving touch.
Carrying on conversations with strangers.
Talking to children.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Note: This section is long, you can feel free to skip it.

I grew up on the classics of science-fiction. Robert Heinlein, Ray Bradbury, Isaac Asimov, Ursula K. LeGuin. Also a ton of Agatha Christie--I love that old book smell. I don't have a chance to read a lot of fiction these days, but I'm a huge fan of the Dresden Files books by Jim Butcher, although not the TV show. Illusions by Richard Bach is one of my favorite books ever, and I've read the entirety of Grant Morrison's The Invisibles, Warren Ellis's Transmetropolitan, and Neil Gaiman's The Sandman. In terms of non-fiction I have a reference library I'm always checking for spiritual stuff. Ted Andrews, Chantel Lysette, Scott Cunningham and Gustav Davidson, of course. I'm pretty sure if you know who any of those four authors are it's Scott Cunningham, and if you don't, it's cool. I pretty much assume anyone I match with at a high percentage is gonna disagree with me about religion and spirituality.

I am one of those people who doesn't own a TV. When I lived in a house with a TV I was writing for a TV blog doing recaps/reviews/musings-on for The Walking Dead until I moved and by then the writing had gotten so much better it was more disturbing than I wanted to deal with. I spend embarrassing amounts of time watching people play video games on YouTube.

I've been a gamer my whole life, cut my teeth on Pokemon and still occasionally have dreams about new Pokemon games. I play a lot of Minecraft, was obsessed with Skyrim for a month until I got to such a high level that it wasn't challenging anymore and had done everything I wanted to do anyway, and enjoy checking out interesting indie games that do something cool. Games like Starbound, A Dark Room, Thomas Was Alone, and The Binding of Isaac. Harvest Moon was a huge influence on me growing up.

Movies: Favorite movie is Singin' in the Rain. I love old musicals--Guys and Dolls, The Music Man, Top Hat, Summerstock, Kiss Me Kate (fuck Howard Keel though). Other movies include: Casablanca, Brick, Withnail and I, Young Frankenstein, Unforgiven, 3 Days of the Condor, The Naked Spur, Hellboy, Step Up, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, and Mozart and the Whale.

Music: Favorite band right now is The Glitch Mob. I expect nobody in my life to share my love of Glitch Hop. I also like: Ellie Goulding, Adventure Club, Depeche Mode (Someone was playing them when I made this profile, hence the name choice), VNV Nation, Infected Mushroom (not their older stuff), Ella Fitzgerald, Nina Simone, Pretty Lights, Lupe Fiasco, Puscifer, The Beatles, and bits and pieces of Jay-Z, My Chemical Romance, Rage Against the Machine, Radiohead, AC/DC, and Donovan. Most of the time I'm listening to music it's electronic, anything from dubstep to chillout.

I like sushi, New York City pizza, donuts, fresh fruit, fancy chocolates, beef cooked as rare as humanly possible, and if it meets my high standards for it, Mexican food. I love the Japanese places on St. Mark's Place and have never found a BBQ joint in this city that's good enough for me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Music
2. Tap dance
3. Anti-depressants
4. Touch
5. Good conversation
6. My mom (d'awwwwwww)

My mom is awesome. She got me a tattoo for my 18th birthday. She was shadow cast for The Rocky Horror Picture Show in the '80's. I didn't realize until I was an adult that "slut" is used as an insult by most people instead of a positive self-identifier. She taught me a lot about sex-positive intersectional feminism.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Anything and everything, really. I'm a medium, so I spend a lot of time that would otherwise be "alone with my thoughts" in conversation with angels, gods and goddesses, various assorted other entities from the spirit side of things. It's like having a team of life coaches who know you better than you know yourself around you all the time. It's profoundly annoying, especially since they're usually right.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Working. Yawn.

I love big, loud, crazy environments when I have a friend or partner to go out with and have mood swings at them on my own. I like quiet, intimate social gatherings of less than a dozen people hanging out in a room together for most of my social life. I enjoy conversation, finding out what's on your mind (besides sex, obviously) and who you are as a human being. It fascinates me. People fascinate me.

Lemme tell you something though. All these mothafuckas on the dance floor should be embarrassed that the one person on the floor who's sober is out-dancing all y'all. I get major mood crashes the next day if I drink and stuff, but I'll be damned if that's gonna stop me from partying my ass off and utterly obliterating the dance floor when that's what I'm out to do.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have no idea how to talk dirty successfully. Erotic prose is its own art form, one I've never learned. However, I will totally make you laugh during a hookup. Every time.
You should message me if
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If you want to message me, for the love of all that is holy but conservative Christians consider profane, please do. I want someone who's not afraid of being too forward, or if you're a little afraid, then someone who's willing to take that risk. I send first messages frequently, but I know sometimes there's this expectation like if you make the first move then the dude will never make a first move ever again. Romance should not be a turn-based strategy game. It should be more creative and co-operative than that--a multiplayer open-world sandbox game.

Please note that while it says I'm looking for casual sex, I'm not interested in fuck-and-forget. I'm interested in friends-with-benefits that are actual friends, with or without the possibility of a relationship in the future. I'm also interested in possible relationships. I'm open.