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30 Berkeley, CA Man


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Indian, White
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
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Mostly anything
Buddhism, and somewhat serious about it
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Mostly non-monogamous

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My self-summary
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I just moved to San Francisco. So, hi :). We haven't likely met before :)

I've lived in Boston since going to college there at MIT. I got really interested in how people learn as a result of not loving the experience. I've since founded a few alternative / radical education non-profits out there, and seek to push that forward out here.

I am currently trying to better explore the boundaries of my own sexuality and what I want. After a long monogamous relationship with a woman I find myself wanting to reintroduce same-sex relationships into my life. This led me here.
What I’m doing with my life
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Right now transitioning. I spent the last year taking care of my mom in L.A., and just moved to SF as a way of being closer to her.

I hope to get back into the world of helping people learn well. Back in Boston I started two nonprofits about education in Boston. I don't know what's next.

I swear the nonprofits are interesting. Educational nonprofit doesn't scream Hollywood thriller. But trying to understand how creativity works and how to foster it is something.

I also find, suddenly having come out of the world of taking care of my mom for almost a year, and just spent the year in the world of cancer & chemotherapy, my artistic drive is at an unusually high level. I'm not sure if this will turn into music or multimedia art -- the latter being something I did seriously on the side in Boston.

My interests are really broad, sometimes in a very unwieldy fashion for me because they span so much (art, science, business, psychology.) But I am deeply moved by creativity both in my own life and as a personal and socially transformative force in others'.
I’m really good at
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Super Nintendo? That's a little out of date though.

Even though I consider myself introverted, I really really enjoy getting to know people and to climb inside of their experience and see what's happening in there. I hesitate to say really good at it, but I am really engaged by it.

I think the curse above of having many disparate interests is also a strength. i.e. I can program but am very interested in psychology and empathy, I am interested in keeping up with present-day science and medicine and understanding where that bridges with alternative medicine, and so on.

For those that get the reference, Starcraft's Sarah Kerrigan is someone I have looked to for successfully embodying polar opposites.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Big, big smile.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Oh my god, this seems like it could go on forever.

I will keep it to the past year.

One of my absolute favorite things which is a really good tell for my sense of humor, but is a webcomic ... The Perry Bible Fellowship! If you find this comic funny you should just go ahead and message me now.

Music: PJ Harvey has been a staple, but honestly this changes so much...

Movies: Cloud Atlas. I think that's my favorite. I've seen it 3 times which is about 2 more than any other movie.

Shows: Arrested Development. I also loved Firefly when I watched it.

Books: Grace & Grit. Grace and Grit -- a take on the author's wife dying of cancer is so good. Meaningful, bone-deep good. I think as I play with finding artistic voice for my mom's experience with cancer, I look to this book. It seems to me that stories about the dark things we all go through that make a future travelers' trek less lonely.

Food: spicy? pretty broad. I play the "optimal diet" game a lot, but within that everything is fun.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
meditation, optimism, curiosity, friends, a comfortable home, visions of hope.

I'm often surprised when people don't list something sexual here, yet lo and behold it turns out I didn't either! I suppose I, like many people, am always slightly surprised to find out what me-of-3-months-ago decided to write here. To me, the interesting thing is: can I live without it or was I being modest? Unclear!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think the triad of

having fun

finding meaning and joy in work and art

and what it means to make the world better but still being ok living in it.

(engagement / creativity / society.)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
...I don't know yet. I just got here :)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I really have less restraint in this regard than I suspect is good to play the online dating game well.

I am way less serious than this profile makes out. The Perry Bible Fellowship really is a good indicator of my conversational personality. I really like this one: . I know I already linked to it.
You should message me if
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You thought the Perry Bible Fellowship comic was funny! This is one of the best indicators of my personality I've found OR

You want to hang out, you're fun, you laugh a lot or you want someone to help you with that OR

You are obsessed with figuring out how you can help society do its self-actualization thing ... society-actualize... and the world is a little bereft because you don't have like minded folk OR

you love making things! and are deep down an artist or creator or whatever and you like making things OR

the world of psychology and spirituality interests you. Deeply.

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