I often don't initiate the first contact since I'm rarely online (major personality contradiction, I know), so your job is to send a note...but I'll take things from there! Promise. (I do reply to nearly every LOCAL message I get! (No small talk, though, please! Tell me who you are.) I'm really rather friendly. Rather.) :)
**Really pleased you've stopped to read! If anything catches your eye, please start the conversation from there. "Hi," "how are you," and all the rest are not necessary, and will probably not result in much! I wither under the tedium of small talk so you'll be far better off telling me your deepest wish...or why you gel (or don't) with something on the profile! Would love to meet some strong, independent women. Do they exist in the USA? Cheers.**
There's a proper intro following this, but some quick traits: ENTJ/ENFJ straddler. Oxford grad. Lived in Tokyo, Doha, the UK, Bangkok, and (of course) all over the USA. I speak a degrading version of Japanese (renshuu shiyou!). I write, research, gym, and chug my coffee every day. I'm an ardent would-be intellectual and a total sapiosexual.
Oh...and I'm pomo (as in pomosexualnot "bi"...Google it!). It's not "pansexualism". It means I'm personality-driven, not gender-bound. Also means I'm way more into your brain than your body...at least at first...So I don't do hookups. Or FWB. Or FB. Ever. Monogamy rocks.
I want a partner. That means I'm NOT looking to "date." Not in the typical, misogynistic sense. I'm looking for friends with or without the potential for more to grow. Is that because I'm not long-term-oriented? Exactly the opposite, comrade! I want a "life-till-we-cryofreeze" partner, babe. I'm that partner-oriented, 100% dedicated, totally romantic, studly nerd you've always dreamed of. I'd love a lifelong partner. I just don't believe in the dominant vs submissive custom of "dating." (Doesn't mean I won't pick up the tab, though--so long as I'm sure you're itching to do the same.) It's ineffective. Doesn't work. (Spent two years researching what DOES work in relationships, though, for a job I had in the Middle East. Now THERE's some fun conversation!!) I'd like to get the REAL you now...not in six months. So no swapping dinners, compliments, or perfumes. Just bring YOURSELF.
I'll be honest in that I'm quite particular in who I find "fun." If you frequently find yourself discussing pop culture, music, films or friends--we probably will not get on. (If you love "Gaga, Perry, and Rihanna...one of us is going to die.) On the other hand, if your tongue twists around words like "existentialism," your hands cramp at cramming sentences with too many compound clauses, and the idea of an ideal evening includes a critical examination of (fill in the blank), we might have something to offer each other. I ain't no genius, but, like a zombie....I want your brains.
If your ideal idea of a night with a friend involves protracted conversation while learning something new...wait...(shudder)...I just had a mind orgasm...
That being said, while I'm not here to "date" (in the conventional sense), the hope is always that one friendship will truly mature into what might be a partnership. Being pomo means it really is about your essential qualities (not about gender or even entirely about looks). Even so, when it comes right down to it, I do prefer fitter folks. And, I'll say it, the less hair where it shouldn't be, the bigger my smile is. And if you're an XY, I do prefer that you don't act like a XX (in speech, swag, or star tattoos). And if you're an XX, I enjoy feminists over feminines. :)
I'm a fun sexual partner, rather dominant, but very concerned about my partner's needs.