Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


45 Sunnyvale, CA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 35–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

Similar Users

My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am a traveler, and an adventuress, and a leader. I am sometimes funnier in my head than out loud, a writer, a chef, a musician, a computer security goon, and a compulsive floor sweeper. I've been known to write poetry and laugh at inappropriate things.

I'm a Jill of all trades, master of a few. I'm a lover of way too much, but I prefer a world I can be enthusiastic about. I love trying new things, but will order the same couple of items at my favorite restaurants once I establish them.

I genuinely like myself and other people. I learned the hard way how to be nice, and how to let other people be human, flawed, as we all are. But I still hate lima beans. I do however love golf and am passionate about playing hockey these days. I love to go ballroom dancing. Or swing though I'm not good at it. Board games or card games, and I'm in. Except Poker. I might as well just give you some cash and let's go to the movies instead.

I am articulate, quirky, and an extrovert
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Okay, I'm re-writing this section to be honest about how much I play hockey. It's proving challenging to meet people who all seem to think there should be time to hook up on Fridays, Saturdays, or Sundays, when in fact those are prime hockey-playing hours for my three leagues. For other friends, LiveJournal and Facebook connect my global friend network, and reading about each others' day to interject smart remarks keeps us in closer touch than without it.

I read less than I used to; anything from philosophy and history through sci fi and fantasy or even steampunk. I'm interested in any story that's told well with good writing and a plot. I don't like a lot of TV, but during Football season I'll go anywhere with a widescreen and wings. When I find a show I really like I'll tend to just binge watch from Netflix or Amazon to avoid commercials.

Work.. is that pleasant pastime during the week that enables me to travel. But lately I've been trying something completely new, combining my love of storytelling with the ability to look stuff up. Marketing. Who knew? I am having a ball! More important I am convincing my boss that I can live and hang out anywhere - that my physical presence is less important than what I can achieve. It's liberating.

I'm getting much better at finishing projects and avoiding procrastination, and refuse to even consider penguins or flying monkeys. I'm finding myself more active in getting out of the house, but less creative and not sure how I feel about the trade. I need to practice music and write more. AND keep waltzing. Hm. What to give up?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Bridge. Volleyball - grass or court, not sand. Writing. Cooking. Fucking. Dancing. Fencing. Playing board or card games. Making music. Cheering people up. Telling stories. Having adventures/Getting in trouble (depending on how one looks at it). Making speeches from the soapbox du jour. Just started playing ice hockey, which is my new addiction.

Being with people. Being alone. I cannot comprehend how people could ever get bored.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm tall for a girl at 5'9".

My hair curls all by itself, especially when I don't want it to.

I express myself very clearly and usually concisely. I can speak extemporaneously about nearly anything, whether or not I agree with it.

I can be pushy when its about something important.

Wait, the first thing girls notice or guys? Guys either like busty girls or they don't. Girls notice different things. Go ahead, ask one.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Authors - I used to list them here. Now let's just say that I like reading stories that have plot, where stuff happens. Which is more rare in the stuff getting pumped out than I wanted to believe for a while. I'm over my supernatural smut phase, but still have my Sherlock + Cthulhu love.

Movies - Musicals (Man of La Mancha - best), Master & Commander, Oscar Wilde based movies, anything Kenneth Branagh's involved with, Bull Durham, Patton, Kelly's Heroes, Tombstone, The Godfather, Murder by Death, The Lion in Winter, the Sharpe's Rifles series. Oo, and Nero Wolfe.

Music - I used to list what I wasn't fond of here, until OKC's imprecise game started matching people with it on key words. (So you like X, I see! No, no I really don't.) I tend to like melodies, and things written and performed by humans. I'm informed that makes me quite racist. Piss off, Musikalisches Würfelspiel!

Foods - Southern and eastern Asian cuisine, sushi being right up there with Thai. Indian. Moroccan. Danish/Swedish. Good Italian/French. All things seafood. If it isn't American Diner food, I'll tend to like it. I'm a firm believer that the only thing that should be 'chicken fried' is chicken, and white lumpy gravy scares me. I don't eat a lot of pasta or bread these days.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.





People. Pronounced "Penguins".
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.


Money, or rather the freedom it represents.

Power, and how to use it properly.

Politics, and how to play those annoying games I can't stand.

Philosophy; what are the tenets that should define my life.

Mysteries. When the fleet left La Rochelle, did it divide and go to Scotland and the Hanseatic league both? Why were there so many new masonic texts written in the 1920s? Did artists leave clues in paintings or is that all tripe? What the hell is happening to all my favorite socks to have them divorce one another, and leave one lonely with me while the other skips town on a bus?

On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing hockey. At Friday Night Waltz in Palo Alto. Catching a movie. Possibly home working on projects. With friends. Alone. On an airplane. I'm three sigmas off typical and happy to stay that way.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Really most of the above qualifies as private. Isn't it all stuff we'd normally tell someone in person after knowing them a while?

I write poetry, and put it online. That's somewhat embarrassing, one supposes. Of course, the porn online I've written might also qualify as a private thing. Who can say.

And is it a deal breaker if I say I automatically look a little askance at you gents my age that say you're looking for girls that are in their 20s for a lower age range? Really??
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You can read - carry on a coherent conversation - have something to say for yourself - you're not waiting to be rescued, not waiting for something to make your life start - have a sense of proportion, and don't mind someone else having lived a very full life thus far, un-apologetically. If you are nice, civil, kind to strangers and those with different opinions I'll probably like writing with you. If you're funny it's double likely I'll write back. Extra points if you can deal with the occasional run on sentence.

I'm looking for friends, and the possibility of romance that can blossom out of getting to know someone. By all means, write and make me laugh.

Oh - I'm betting that if you write to me and say I seem like 'a real sweet gal' I'm going to assume you didn't actually read my profile.