I am passionately in love with God/Spirit, my boys, my career, and my life.
I am becoming more and more in love with life, I consider myself uncommonly happy. I am trying to become more congruent by living more in harmony with my ideal. I still enjoy trying to become the man that I dream of. This approach in dating is new and exciting, and I am looking forward to it, at least for a while until I find someone to adore. I spend my time: at work, taking care of my boys, and doing my spiritual practices. (I especially enjoy talking to my boys or watching them in their various sports, football, basketball, ultimate Frisbee, and badminton; actually any excuse to spend time with them is my blessing). I am looking forward to finding someone who enjoys the things that I like to do, so our relationship would be natural and easy, like Deepak Chopra describes as the “law of least effort.” I like: spending time with my family (six sisters), listening to books, doing spiritual practices, going for walks in nature, etc.
If I haven’t lost you so far, and you’re still interested.
I’ll get more specific:
My task right now is on finishing raising my boys. My oldest son is going to school, at U.C. Berkeley; my middle son is graduating from high school this year and will be off to college, my youngest is finishing his freshman year of high school, so he is my priority. I like to: hike, exercise, read, pray, talk, think, listen to music, and enjoy a nice fire. The thought of making a romantic dinner together, then cleaning it up, following that with watching a nice movie cuddling on the couch is my idea of a great evening. I love the thought of going for a walk in the Redwoods, or along the coast, or maybe a weekend camping at Yosemite. Going to the gym with someone, or maybe a yoga class would be fun (I haven’t been faithful on going to the gym but believe that would be different if I had someone to go with). Just about doing anything sitting in front of a fire, would be delightful, reading a book, or listening to someone like, Abraham, or NVC by Marshall Rosenberg, studying the enneagram, listening to music, learning about how to grow Spiritually, mentally, or emotionally, would be wonderful. I'm hoping to meet someone who wants to begin with friendship, not too fast, letting things mature a little more slowly, and if it feels right move forward romantically. I have spent a lot of time trying to grow into someone I feel good about; I would like to find someone who has spent time this way too. I am not excited about a lot of drama, so I’m looking for someone who feels good about them self, and is functional, (drugs, alcohol, being too busy to spend four to eight evenings a month probably wouldn’t work for me). I want to be more authentic, compassionate, empathic and vulnerable; becoming a terrific listener is one of my major focuses right now. The “Four Agreements” make sense to me and is another area I am developing. Eventually I want to grow in love with someone who would one day become my soul mate.