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32 Amherst, MA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 25-39
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 16
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
5' 4" (1.63m)
Body Type
Special Diet
Not at all
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I've been described as a "cerebral hottie". The "cerebral" part is certainly true. The "hottie" part? Well, I suppose that's in the eye of the beholder. So... um... behold!

The spring and summer are my favorite times to meet new people and go out on dates.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm living on my own in an apartment in Amherst, keeping up with both a day job and a fledgling freelance career as a writer and editor.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
... getting a joke a second before everyone else in the room does.

... Standard English spelling, grammar, punctuation, and word usage. I try not to be the kind of person who nitpicks about these things in casual conversation, but I am, in fact, a copy editor and proofreader by trade. So if you're uncertain about, say, the difference between everyday and every day, I'd love you to ask!

... word games and trivia games. Any party I throw is guaranteed to involve Trivial Pursuit, Boggle, or Scrabble. I sacrifice at least 20 minutes of my life to every day. I'm good enough at trivia to have made it onto Jeopardy! ... and then lost on Jeopardy!. Really.

... certain yoga positions (but by no means all of them).
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
... is my wheelchair.

Yeah. Didn't expect that, did ya?

I'm not embarrassed or bitter about my disability, and I understand that it's the first thing about me that people see. But I'd like to find someone who's willing to look again and see the second and third and fourth things as well. (And, no, that's not a reference to my anatomy. Necessarily...)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
My favorite authors include David Sedaris, Ursula Le Guin, and Stephen King. I just finished Lionel Shriver's We Need to Talk About Kevin, which I found fascinating and thought-provoking, if not always believable.

Favorite movies? The Truman Show, Wayne's World, The Princess Bride, Parenthood, Little Man Tate, Trembling Before G-d, Brokeback Mountain, The Aristocrats.

Musically, I'm largely stuck in the '90s with the songs of my youth, and in the '60s and '70s with the songs from my parents' youth. But in recent years I've tried to venture into some new music. The current stars of my iPod include-- but are not limited to --Barenaked Ladies, They Might Be Giants, Talking Heads, Van Morrison, Joni Mitchell, Indigo Girls, Billy Joel, Cat Stevens, The Beatles, The Monkees, Arrested Development, Simon with and without Garfunkel, REM, Counting Crows, Natalie Merchant, Alanis Morissette, Better Than Ezra, and Florence + The Machine. I know and care more about comedy than about music.

I'm a vegetarian (but it's okay if you're not), I have a sweet tooth, and restaurant dining is one of my favorite pleasures in life. I lived for a year in England and therefore inevitably developed a taste for Indian food. Thai is also good. I've always liked tea, and now I have a moderate but deeply ingrained coffee habit. I don't claim to be a connoisseur of anything. I am, however, becoming a more skilled and more avid at-home cook.

I currently watch Bob's Burgers, Brooklyn Nine-Nine, Saturday Night Live, BoJack Horseman, and, of course, Jeopardy!. I'm also enjoying a re-watch of all the "Monster of the Week" episodes of The X-Files. My all-time favorite shows include Freaks and Geeks, The Twilight Zone, Friends, Arrested Development, Doug, The Adventures of Pete & Pete, Ugly Betty, Breaking Bad, and The Kids in the Hall.

In recent years, I've discovered that the mundane tasks of life (dish-washing, waiting for buses, spam-deleting, what-have-you) are much more pleasant when I can do them while listening to smart people talk about fun things. I listen to a lot of NPR podcasts, especially Wait Wait... Don't Tell Me, This American Life, Radiolab, Ask Me Another, and Pop Culture Happy Hour. And then there are some non-NPR podcasts: The Moth, Extra Hot Great, Risk!, How Did This Get Made?, Mystery Show, Mortified.... The list keeps growing.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. A sense of humor (my own and other people's).

2. My aforementioned wheelchair and electric scooter.

3. Buses. I don't own a car, and I hope never to have to.

4. My laptop.

5. My Bag of Everything. It holds my money, cards, keys, phone, passport, checkbook, and iPod. If I have it, I'm fine; if I lose it, I'm screwed. (Is it cheating, to list this as one thing?)

6. The Associated Press Stylebook. I don't agree with everything it says (and I'm aware that this profile doesn't adhere to its guidelines), but I'm duty-bound to it at work.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
...names. I'm strangely fascinated by people's names and lists of names. There's a baby name book on my shelf, and I've never been pregnant.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... planning what to do with the rest of the weekend. Sometimes I go to the gym, work on a freelance editing assignment, cook for myself, or watch Netflix.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
... is that my screen name, DukDucKat, consists of the first three letters of each of my names-- last, middle, and first. That this works out to three misspelled animals is just a nifty coincidence.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
... you don't mind someone taking a few days to respond. I often get very busy and need to prioritize other things over OKCupid correspondence.

You're most likely to get a response from me if:

1. You're fairly close to me in age-- say, between 25 and 39. I'm not interested in a relationship with anyone much older or much younger than I am.

2. You're fairly close to me geographically. We can get to know each other a little bit online first, but if we hit it off, I'm going to want to meet you. And for reasons I mention above (particularly lack of a car), for me to travel beyond the realm of the PVTA bus takes some planning and money. So I'm not interested in anything long-distance.


3. You write specifically to me, based on actually having read my profile. I typically don't bother responding to messages that say simply "Hey" or "How are you?" or "Want to chat?" And even if a message is long and full of pleasantries and compliments, I won't reply if I can tell that it's a generic form letter that the person probably sends out to dozens of strangers. I'm interested in interacting with individuals who have specific reasons to want to interact with me in particular. If something in my profile strikes you as intriguing / funny / attractive / relateable, mention it in your message, so I can tell that you've read the profile.