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37 Emeryville, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 24–46
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Dec 23
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, and might want more
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm interested in a future of possibilities: adventure, forbidden pleasures, guilty pleasures, deep connections. Life can be harsh and competitive, so I'm looking for a woman that is dangerous, naughty ("Tsk, tsk") and vulgar--in equal measure. Where are you on the "goody-goody to roguery/evil" scale? BTW, I'm also open to meeting new female friends (not only romantic partners).
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm searching for three things in a girlfriend: beauty, wit, and an old soul. Focused on a future of adventure. Interested in stories with a surprise finish. You don't believe that growing older means compromising youthful ideals. Shy, practical, puritanical types need not apply. You are bewitching. Maybe you have incredible dancing skills. Your sense of curiosity is much stronger than your sense of doubt. Last, some seasoning/maturity is always welcome. I'm esp. interested in meeting people that may have experienced real challenge, significant loss, etc., and gained additional sincerity and perspective (and even liberation) through those experiences.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Managing my parasympathetic nervous system (through a combination of hot vinyasa yoga and cold water swimming--also, lots of quality natural serotonin and dopamine release :)), playing guitar (esp. country and blue grass), putting on terrific community parties for my peeps in Oakland (w/artist and film friends), reading for both content & clarity, attracting wonderful people into my life :).
The first things people usually notice about me
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My je ne sais quoi.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm reading "The Price of Altruism" right now. And "The Victory Lab." And just started "Going Clear" (brilliant investigative journalism by Lawrence Wright about Scientology). My reading tastes span biography (recent bio on Teddy Roosevelt exploring the Amazon), neuroscience, positive psychology, architecture and literary fiction. I love And I read Slate, The Economist, and misc. views on the Middle East (Ha'aretz, Daily Star, etc.). I don't own a television, but I'm not all sanctimonious about it. I will watch Dexter with you. Because it's beautifully addictive. I love Radiohead and Martha Argerich and Bill Evans and I listen to LOTS of different kinds of music, esp. jazz and classical and bluegrass. My new favorite song is Patricia Barber's version of "Norwegian Wood" (Beatles). Check it out on GrooveShark. I like to eat stuff that's fresh, creative, and nutrient-dense.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
This question always reminds me of Steve Martin's character, Navin R. Johnson, in "The Jerk": "Well I'm gonna to go then! And I don't need any of this. I don't need this stuff, and I don't need *you*. I don't need anything. Except this. [picks up an ashtray]. And that's the only thing I need is *this*. I don't need this or this. Just this ashtray... And this paddle game. - The ashtray and the paddle game and that's all I need... And this remote control. - The ashtray, the paddle game, and the remote control, and that's all I need... And these matches. - The ashtray, and these matches, and the remote control, and the paddle ball... And this lamp. - The ashtray, this paddle game, and the remote control, and the lamp, and that's all *I* need. And that's *all* I need too. I don't need one other thing, not one... I need this. - The paddle game and the chair, and the remote control, and the matches for sure. Well what are you looking at? What do you think I'm some kind of a jerk or something! - And this. That's all I need."
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
whether there is a biological basis for consciousness, how binaural beats work on the mind (for concentration, sleep, relaxation, etc.), what plant medicines can reveal to us, what kind of piano teacher I'm going to find, parenting (I have two sons), how the Internet is impacting our abilities for long-form thinking.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
usually doing something cultural (film, theatre...who wants to come see "Toil and Trouble" at Berkeley's Impact Theatre w/me?!?!) or having friends over to the loft for dinner/performance. I want to check out all of the awesome cultural offerings of Oakland, including Pecha Kucha Night, docs at The New Parkway Theatre, Oakland Nights Live!, Mortified!, and Art Murmur. I also like to go break dancing and roller skating at CellSpace in SF.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My cooking repertoire is somewhat limited, but I will cook for you and will love cooking for you.
You should message me if
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you're a bit of a smart ass (or a major league smart ass), imaginative, really fun, easy-going, kind/real, and have a good heart. You might also have some kind of contemplative practice (meditation, yoga, surfing, etc.). In a perfect world, you would live in the East Bay! But I don't want to tempt fate... . Also, while I do have children (and LOVE my children), they are with me only 20% of the time. So I have lots of time/space for a real relationship and I'm not hunting for a stepmother for my children. In other words, I'm definitely cool w/going out w/women that do not have children...and I don't think it's an issue. If you are definitely sure that you want children (out of YOUR birth canal), then we may or may not be a great fit. I'm not sure that I would have more children, but I suppose it depends on loads of factors.