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37 M Providence, RI

My Details

Last Online
Apr 19
6′ 5″ (1.96m)
Body Type
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
I have a very dry sense of humor, which often gets me in trouble in Rhode Island - because it is a very humid state. People often don't seem to know quite when I'm joking and when I'm being serious. When I say something inane in a deadpan, deliberate voice and a woman laughs I think: "I need to meet her."

In relationships - both friendly and romantic - I often pair well with someone who is quieter, more observant and perhaps a bit shy. I think shy, observant people are fascinating.
What I’m doing with my life
I work at a university.
I’m really good at
For fun I sometimes write poetry. It's not the dense, deep poetry you're going to read in the New Yorker. And no, I don't do open mic nights either. It's sing-songy stuff: the kind of light fare you might read in a book aimed at elementary school students.

Here's an example of a poem that I wrote recently for a friend when she was having a bad day:

When I am alone at night
And the dark is spooking me
I pretend I am a bat
Hanging in my tree.
As a bat I love the dark,
Deep darkness is my friend.
When I dream I am a bat
My fear comes to an end.

When the work world worries me
Or when I’m feeling blue
I think of Me at sixty-five
Old Me says: “Look at You!”
“You’re young and smart and healthy.”
“There’s so much that you can do!”
Old Me makes me feel better
Old Me thinks you’re cool too.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I read constantly for work, and most of what I read is well-written but not that spectacular. My career is remarkably similar to spending entire days reading OK Cupid profiles. Everybody is different; but at the same time there's a certain consistency to everyone's experiences and aspirations. I don't read novels as much as I used to, but when I do it's usually escapism: fantasy, science fiction and young adult fiction are my favorites. I will read literary fiction when I retire or maybe in the afterlife.

I also read magazines and newspapers. I read the New York Times daily and also like The Economist, New York Magazine and the New Yorker.

I don’t own a television, but I do consume some series all at once on DVD or Netflix: Dr. Who, Arrested Development, Battlestar Galactica and most recently GIRLS (on HBO). I also like watching really awful-but-inspired B movies (Barbarella, Hobgoblins, Garbage Pail Kids - the Movie, etc.).
The six things I could never do without
Dairy products, dental floss, dogs, espresso, exercise, fresh fruit
I spend a lot of time thinking about
When I'm driving alone I muse over all kinds of topics. Here's a typical list:

1. Will Libertarianism eventually change what it means to be a Republican in America, or will it continue to be a movement that merely aligns itself with Republicanism out of convenience?

2. Is feeling “in love” essential to the happiness and satisfaction of a long term relationship, or could it simply be enough that you and the other person just like and respect one another?

3. Might prisons be less violent places if prisoners were given some democratic freedom to vote on the conditions of their incarceration – some ability to control their personal environment?

4. Is there a connection between people’s sexual interests and their non-sexual lives? For instance, might practitioners of BDSM be inhabiting certain powered or disempowered roles to compensate for the amount of power they wield in everyday life?

5. Is happiness a feeling, or is it a kind of knowledge? Does one decide to be happy, or does being happy just happen?

6. What would it be like to grow up in rural, southern West Virginia?
On a typical Friday night I am
1. drinking coffee and reading something fantastic.

2. drinking gin & soda, getting tipsy with friends and dancing (badly, enthusiastically)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My profile name is an anagram for another popular two word phrase. Can you guess what it is?

Here's a hint: the answer is used somewhere in my profile.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if genuinely like people and are curious about their lives. have an unusual or gross sense of humor. love Northampton. are a teacher, social worker, doctor, therapist or someone who spends lots of time helping other people one-on-one.