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Last online
Nov 13
5' 10" (1.78m)
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Post grad
Has kid(s)
English (Fluently), Dutch (Fluently), French (Somewhat), German (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I am an immigrant, a scientist, a hiker, an aspiring, unpublished novelist, an engineer, an adoptive father of two Guatemalan boys, an avid reader, a registered Democrat, a patron of the arts, a committed and loyal friend, an adventurous cook, a world traveler, a sensual lover. But none of these aspects defines me. As much as I like to hike--be it in Yosemite, Big Basin, the Grand Canyon, or Pinnacles, or ascending an active volcano in Guatemala--there can be months that it just does not happen. I like rational reasoning, but can put aside my scientist hat and indulge in sweet nothings. Cooking gourmet food is a passion, but an outing to the local Tony and Alba's pizzeria is a treat as well. I love to touch and be touched endlessly, but know that the alarm clock will often be our brutal master. I do research in one of the highest-tech industries on the planet, but you will probably have to explain to me how your smart phone works.

What never changes, though, is my wish to get the best out of life, as long as it does not go at the expense of others. Fortunately, my wish has been granted many times over, sometimes by luck, more often by dint of hard work and the willingness to take certain risks. My latest treasure are my two young sons, ages 8 and 10. They are truly my wish come true, and I am looking forward with excitement to all the adventures that we will experience. But there is a bubbling font of affection in me that I would like to share, not only with my children, but with a romantic companion as well. There is more than enough to go around. I am not looking for a mother for my sons, we got our routine down pretty well and keep our household humming. But it would not really be possible for a woman to be my partner and not have the children play a large role in her life as well. If this is a scary prospect for you, we may not be the best match. But if you relish the thought and are young and playful at heart (the age range I put in my profile really is one of the spirit), drop me a line and be prepared to join me on this splendid adventure of life.

I have often felt an amateur in most of my undertakings, but things have gone so well for me for so long that I can no longer make a credible case for that. Still, I feel that I have enough humility to listen to advice and criticism, don't take it personally (well, I try not to, and usually succeed), and make the best use of it. I also believe that we learn from and adapt to our partners. While I have been divorced for quite a few years, I feel my ten years of marriage were not wasted. I learned a lot, and hope I will learn from you. Maybe you can begin by teaching me how to rid my house of a perennially bubbling font of little black ants that enjoy the occasional bath in my kitchen sink.
What I’m doing with my life
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In my latest career switch I have been a researcher at Intel. Before that, I worked at NASA in Moffett Field for a dozen years, and before that it I was at a research lab in Amsterdam. Make that two research labs in Amsterdam, separated by four years of grad school in California. I have also lived for some time in Hong Kong and Japan.
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Music plays a large role in my life. I am always open to new ideas and styles, and often swap music tips with colleagues. My friends jokingly call my music collection 'office supplies,' since I listen to music whenever I am at my desk. My classical collection is quite small--some education required in that department--but I can thoroughly enjoy both Western and non-Western classical music. I can be as easily in awe with a violin concert of the kind I attended in an old church in Venice when I was visiting there a few years ago, as with an Indian classical dance performance with live orchestra. I also enjoy jazz and blues. Most of the time, though, I listen to rock and its various derivatives. One great advantage of being a stranger in a strange land is that I can easily tune out rude lyrics in English, which allows me to enjoy bands that might otherwise put me off. I'm no prude, but wouldn't really wish to take Nine Inch Nails literally.
My other passions in the arts are film (I like Kieslowksi, Tarkovsky, Welles, Jarmusch, Hartley, some Kurosawa), painting (Dufy, Bacon, Freud (the grandson), Macke, Marc, Hopper, Matisse, well, way too many), literature (mid-twentieth century Dutch, British and American classics and moderns, but I have also been impressed with the amazing works by modern African writers, of which I've read a few: Ngugi Wa Thiongo, Achebe, Kwei Armah. Their subject matter alone puts many Western writers' efforts to shame, and their power is almost unsurpassed. But one of my latest finds--I am a bit ashamed to admit this very late discovery--was Dostoyevsky's The Idiot. I found it a fascinating and inspirational book. Especially the main character, Prince Muishkin, who is such a keen observer, yet such a guileless person. Well, maybe not completely guileless, but he simply must do the right thing, even if that is to his own detriment. I am surely not as good a person as the Prince (and not as tragic, fortunately), but I do derive inspiration from his character).