What never changes, though, is my wish to get the best out of life, as long as it does not go at the expense of others. Fortunately, my wish has been granted many times over, sometimes by luck, more often by dint of hard work and the willingness to take certain risks. My latest treasure are my two young sons, ages 8 and 10. They are truly my wish come true, and I am looking forward with excitement to all the adventures that we will experience. But there is a bubbling font of affection in me that I would like to share, not only with my children, but with a romantic companion as well. There is more than enough to go around. I am not looking for a mother for my sons, we got our routine down pretty well and keep our household humming. But it would not really be possible for a woman to be my partner and not have the children play a large role in her life as well. If this is a scary prospect for you, we may not be the best match. But if you relish the thought and are young and playful at heart (the age range I put in my profile really is one of the spirit), drop me a line and be prepared to join me on this splendid adventure of life.
I have often felt an amateur in most of my undertakings, but things have gone so well for me for so long that I can no longer make a credible case for that. Still, I feel that I have enough humility to listen to advice and criticism, don't take it personally (well, I try not to, and usually succeed), and make the best use of it. I also believe that we learn from and adapt to our partners. While I have been divorced for quite a few years, I feel my ten years of marriage were not wasted. I learned a lot, and hope I will learn from you. Maybe you can begin by teaching me how to rid my house of a perennially bubbling font of little black ants that enjoy the occasional bath in my kitchen sink.
My other passions in the arts are film (I like Kieslowksi, Tarkovsky, Welles, Jarmusch, Hartley, some Kurosawa), painting (Dufy, Bacon, Freud (the grandson), Macke, Marc, Hopper, Matisse, well, way too many), literature (mid-twentieth century Dutch, British and American classics and moderns, but I have also been impressed with the amazing works by modern African writers, of which I've read a few: Ngugi Wa Thiongo, Achebe, Kwei Armah. Their subject matter alone puts many Western writers' efforts to shame, and their power is almost unsurpassed. But one of my latest finds--I am a bit ashamed to admit this very late discovery--was Dostoyevsky's The Idiot. I found it a fascinating and inspirational book. Especially the main character, Prince Muishkin, who is such a keen observer, yet such a guileless person. Well, maybe not completely guileless, but he simply must do the right thing, even if that is to his own detriment. I am surely not as good a person as the Prince (and not as tragic, fortunately), but I do derive inspiration from his character).