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  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
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Last online
Today – 11:08am
5' 6" (1.68m)
Body Type
Atheism and laughing about it
Might want kids
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Big 3: I own my car, I have a steady job with a large company that pays well and has great benefits, and I have my own place in Elizabeth. So car, job, not living in parents’ basement: Check, check, and check.

My friends would describe me as odd, funny, a bit awkward maybe, a bit off definitely. Also: Trustworthy, loyal, nice, and they would most likely point out that I now stay crunchier in milk. I would describe myself as most of the same things, I suppose. Except the milk thing. I don’t know where they come up with crap like that.

I like some nerdy/geeky things like science, science fiction (speculative fiction), Dune, Dr. Who, Star Wars, Fringe, books, learning, and technology, but my biggest geek-out points tend to be craft beer and music. Oddly, I’m not a gamer. Don’t own any sort of gaming system. Well, not a video gamer. I play poker. Texas Holdem and Omaha, primarily. I’m a decent player. I went out in 36th place out of 499 in a non-ring tournament at the WSOP event in Cherokee, NC in April of 2013.

If you’re into the Meyers-Briggs thing, I tend to bounce between INTJ and INFJ. Which makes me driven, but patient and empathetic. Check that...reverse it: Being driven, yet patient and empathetic makes me bounce between INTJ and INFJ. I’ve changed a lot in the past decade in several ways. For instance, I’m no longer imprisoned by a horde of genetically engineered, hyper-intelligent super asps on their secret island fortress. Suffice to say, that was unpleasant. I’ve also learned a good bit about myself:

1) I’m an introvert. This doesn’t mean I keep myself constantly cordoned off in my place, avoiding contact with the rest of everyone. Instead, it means that I like to socialize with friends for a much longer period of time than I can handle a large crowd of strangers. Unless I’m at a show, that is. I’ll wander into a concert alone for a good band. For more on that, check out this link (if I can paste a link in here):

I don’t know that this is especially scientific, but I can say that it all pretty much applies to me. Except for part of #9…I really want to jump out of a plane.

2) The worst part of asking someone out, for me, is picking where to go/what to do. My one and only goal on a first date is to meet you and get to know you and see if we have a good time together, click, etc. Being introverted, though, I can be easily distracted in loud, crowded places. Not agoraphobia, just information overload. I have to fight my natural urge to stand back and observe rather than interacting. This same thing can lead me to overcompensate and talk too much. So, I tend to like smaller, quieter places or places I’ve been before for a first date. Coffee or drinks after work is great. Then next time maybe do something specific like a brewery tour or a trip to Belgium. Ha!

3) I generally just don’t care where we eat. I like pretty much everything. I have a certain diet I need to stick to, but I can generally find something to eat anywhere, whether we’re settling for Generica (nationally recognized corporate food) or hitting up some small, local joint. I love sushi. If I don’t want anything else in particular and you ask me what I want for dinner, I’m probably going to say “sushi.” So, tell me what you like and don’t like and I’ll choose a place if you want me to choose. Once I know what you like, I’m good at applying that knowledge.

4) I’m allergic to cats. I actually learned this longer-ago than just this past decade, but I still keep meeting women with cats. So, there ARE some cats to whom I have had no allergic reactions. They are few and far between, but they do exist. I don’t dislike cats, though. So if you have a cat and you and I seem to hit it off on a date, you should probably invite me to meet the cat at some point. That sounds like some loosely-veiled double entendre, and it probably is, but you should still invite me over to meet your cat. Well, you should suggest going back to your place for drinks after dinner and since your cat is at your place, I will meet it in the process. At this point, I have become unable to separate my actual intent for this paragraph and my mind being in the gutter, so I’ll just stop writing.
What I’m doing with my life
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Finding the opportunity presented by the problem. If you only focus on the problem itself and how much it sucks, then you're letting the problem win. And, I mean, fuck that. Some people look at everything as if it was a battle between life and death. That's dumb. Death is going to win in the end anyway. It's a battle between you and life and you want to just beat the crap out of life while you can because life will certainly be trying to do the same back to you.

So, I've been trying to get out there and carpe some of that diem.

I also like reading, cooking, going to concerts, and drinking the fancy beers. And if you can imagine your life being just fine without music, then we won't get along very well.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking, finding new music, being able to explain why a situation sucks and then point out the up side (I call myself a silver-lining cynic), enjoying a quiet moment, laughing, enjoying a loud moment, improvising like a muthabitch, making somewhat obscure references, being sort of a nerd, being open minded about things, over-thinking things, sudoku, etc.

Also: Over-sharing (see Self Summary, above).
The first things people usually notice about me
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My conjoined twin. Actually, maybe I'm the first thing they notice about him. In either case I'm making it up. I'm guessing the first thing people notice about me is the wavelengths of light I reflect, thus giving them the ability to see me. I know that the third thing people notice about me is my right earlobe. Weird.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I've made huge lists of artists and authors and actors and cooks and the things they've created that I've enjoyed, but I'm not doing that this time. I love funk music. I love the rhythm section. So, most bands with solid rhythm sections and some sense of soul I will like. I'm not talking about a genre, more of a feeling. For a genre-related view, I dislike the vast majority of country and Top 40 anything. I love hip hop, but I dislike generic ring-tone rap. If the song is one stupid catch phrase repeated 300 times, I probably don't like it. I like electronic music, but not so much house. Outside of that it's pretty wide open. The last show I went to was Man Man at the Chop Shop. Awesome!

For books and movies and TV shows, it's mostly either science or science fiction. I like interesting perspectives. I love good speculative fiction...given this is how we are now, maybe we'd be like this at this later point in time if we encountered this set of circumstances.

I love food. See #3 above for more on that. I also love to cook and bake. My specialties include peanut butter cheesecake, sweet potato/andouille hash, and this pasta salad with summer sausage, fresh mozzarella, cheese tortellini, halved cherry tomatoes, and sliced kalamata olives mixed in a homemade pesto and topped with parmesan cheese (salt and pepper to taste).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- Some way to listen to and/or create music.
- Something interesting to read/study/learn about.
- Some place and way to decompress from time to time.
- A really comfortable bed.
- My morning coffee.
- A nice, long, hot shower.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.

Well, a lot of things. I over-think things, so they run around and around in my head for a while. This means that my beliefs are generally well researched and well thought out. Which pretty much explains why I'm an atheist, too, actually.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
It depends on the week. Maybe having dinner and drinks with friends, maybe playing poker, maybe at a show, maybe at home on the sofa watching a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Given the choice, I'd really rather just be totally straight-forward, direct, and honest with people. I don't like games, and it seems to me that when you get to the point where you like a person and are trying to decide what the right next move is, you're turning it all into a game. So, it just makes sense to be direct about things.

Also: Everytime I see "clt" as part of a screen name on here, Charlotte is NOT the word I hear in my head. My inner 12 year old giggles a lot...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.'re interested in giving away large sums of money. I mean, seriously: If you're looking for someone to just give a heap of money to, by all means you should message me. That would be sweet! can't resist a man who's been held prisoner by super asps.'re not emotionally unavailable or bat-shit insane. found my keys. read this thing and think I seem like an interesting fellow.'re looking to meet a guy who'll do nice things just because he likes you and isn't afraid to tell you that. love live music and want to go to shows with me. don't have a bunch of cats (allergies). like to cook, be cooked for, and cook with others.
...I cannot stress that money thing enough. I mean, I'm not materialistic, but I've got student loan debt to pay off. misread that as "massage" and are looking to massage someone. think I'll like you. think you'll like me.