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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 34–50
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 7:41am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), French (Okay), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
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I am back in San Francisco, my home, after another long trip to Argentina.

I can tie a proper bow tie, find my way through the jungle, talk my way past corrupt cops and keep three lit torches in the air. I've lived on four continents and traveled in sixty countries, ridden a horse across Tibet and sailed the Caribbean, but keep coming back to the Bay.

I bike, backpack, play jazz, read, manage an occasional gallery/event space, yoga, ride horses and motorcycles, and garden on my roof. I usually have a creative project or six in the works. I keep up on current events in a serious way, bordering on obsessive. My latest passion is polo, and I will soon start lessons locally. Near warm water, I dive. Near cold water, ski. I think about returning to a few old hobbies, such as sculpting, but not just yet. My preference is old-school figurative, though I did weld a bit on the metal figures in the photos, which were originally exhibited, temporarily, in a dramatic desert environment.

At the moment - cliche alert - I am running one startup and advising another. I will not kid you - my work life is hectic and unpredictable. I hope that it will calm soon, but there is no telling when that will be.

I have great friends, many of whom I've known for a very long time. I believe that chivalry is not dead, loyalty is not out of style and in leaving the world better than we found it. Give me interesting thoughts, a perfect line, the right touch, the one true note. Snuggling is good, too.

I've officiated at nine weddings.

Things I'd like to practice/improve these days: music, Spanish, French, archery, and enough soccer skills to join a pickup game without looking like I wandered onto the field accidentally.

The part that I was told to include by a female friend: 'smart, charming, clever, kind, sweet, edgy, slightly nuts and wonderful.'
The first things people usually notice about me
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That I speak quietly, most likely. Mischieveous intelligence, perhaps?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: Let's see… Strolling over the bookshelves (old-fashioned accessories that cover an entire wall), I spy various volumes of history, with a concentration toward the far right on Italian and Church history for a project from some years ago. There are books on sailing, raising bonsai trees, a shelf of oversized tomes lying flat because the shelves are only so high. Among the literature: The Bear Comes Home by Rafi Zabor (the best book about playing jazz ever), Sometimes A Great Notion (the Great American Novel), Cloud Atlas, Winter's Tale by Mark Helprin, all nineteen of the Aubrey/Maturin novels, Wolf Hall, most of Neal Stephenson's lifetime output. One Salinger, several Le Carre, an Octavio Paz, a haiku collection, and some carefully curated graphic (as in pictures) efforts. A bunch more, because they are large bookshelves.

At least five books by friends and one by a friend of my father. Back issues of Lapham's Quarterly to take on trips, and New Yorkers which I pass on, after I've read them, to a literate homeless gentlemen who frequents my street.

Music: I was listening to the same ol' tunes for a long while. A streaming services which lets you see playlists from your musically-cultivated friends then broke my world wide open again. Now, nothing is off-limits, though I can only take death metal and klezmer for thirty seconds per month. The usual is jazz or long things with clever words.

I can sing the lyrics to an astonishing number of songs, which is sometimes good, sometimes not. I am self-aware that way.

Movies: Certainly.

Food: Yes.

[I'll come back to those last two as the situation warrants…]
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- My saxophone, six months older than I am. A guitar nearby is good, too.
- Passport, maps, the usual accoutrements.
- The Outside. The World. The World Outside.
- New things to learn. It's a habit.
- Books. Magazines. Things to read.
- My rooftop garden, humble though it may be.
- Serious amusement
- People. OK, certain people.
I make that to be six, precisley. My profile, my rules.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
For the past few weeks, it has usually started packing the car and crossing a bridge. Other times, other themes...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have an unpublished novel in a drawer. On a hard drive, actually. Heavily encrypted.
You should message me if
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These words describe you: creative, compassionate, courageous, curious and cool. You have a deep understanding, an unexpected side, and a desire to still take on the world.

Shakespeare could have been talking about you when he wrote: 'Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale / Her infinite variety: other women cloy / The appetites they feed: but she makes hungry / Where most she satisfies'