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31 Sheffield, UK Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 26–37
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Feb 17
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body type
Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Feminist, anti-capitalist Londoner who loves living in Sheffield.

Um, Which version of myself do I construct for this?
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Trying to avoid deciding what to do with my life.

In the meantime, an ok admin job at a university, and spending time with interesting friends, trying to keep learning things, dancing, politics, drinking beer and walking.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Spelling and grammar. Following instructions, which makes me not bad at baking, knitting and admin. Starting things. Making a mess. I'm very patient. Oh, and swearing. (Is that a skill? I'm worried now I've oversold my swearing. It's not THAT great.) Worrying. Thinking of the things I'd put in the 'I'm really bad at' box if there was one. Self-deprecating humour.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
...depends on the person and the perspective from which they are noticing me, probably.

Maybe that I've just dropped something?

A friend once described me 'posh voice, short skirt'.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Getting to the end of a book's a bit of a challenge at the moment. I've gone back to reading poems, because they're not as long. I'm also trying to read ALL OF THE INTERNET. I'm not sure how that's going.

I like films and the theatre. You wouldn't be surprised to see me at the showroom. Or the Crucible.

I've got out of the habit of listening to music (especially new music) but I have excellent taste and an open mind. I'm an indie kid at heart but like loads of things, as long as they aren't shit. I've got to the tragic point in life where most new music sounds bewildering and incomprehensible. I mostly want to listen to classic soul, blues, ska, and swing. I also love love love watching live music of most sorts, though I draw a line at tuneless oasis-impersonating buskers.

I don't eat meat, but love pretty much all the other foods. Like trying (eating and cooking and reading about) new things . Massive sweet tooth, love spicy foods. Good appetite.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good food, the internet, my bed, something to think about, my best friend. A scarf.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Pretty much everything seems to want thinking about.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Far more than I probably should. TMI is my MO.

...really? I'm probably not ready to start dating again. I am testing the water, and myself. We'll see...

Fuck, I've oversold my swearing.
You should message me if
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You are able to relate to women in a more nuanced way than just 'wife' and 'fucktoy'.
You don't use the word atheist in your profile to describe your identity.
You won't be offended if i feel the chemistry isn't there.
-you laughed at anything in my hilarious profile.
-You won't feel emasculated by me trying to be funny all the time.
-you reject the very notion of emasculation as reliant on an essentialised gender structure.

See you on the barricades?