I'm healthy, sane, basically happy, and have quality friends. I am in a good way with my family, pay my bills on time, and have straight teeth. I'm not entirely straight but probably more than not in that my major long-term relationships tend to be with women.

I am passionate about spirituality/religion and have been studying all that for the last 15 years, often from the inside-out with various teachers and traditions and practices. I'm not dogmatic about it, to the contrary, but if you're phobic about things spiritual or religious we're probably not a good match as it's just part of the fiber of my being and something I love about the human experience.

Similar with the Earth; if you hate bugs or don't like wilderness or get anxious just being outside the city, we're probably not a good match. I love this goddess whose body we are born from and would die defending the Earth if it really seemed helpful, my first and primary love really.

I'm from the Midwest but settled in the Bay Area for almost a decade now. I've lived on four continents but travel less these days. It's a bit urban for me in the Bay Area but I make it work and love the land here. I'm grateful to be alive, committed to really being here, and want to live for a long healthy time.

I just finished up my PhD in psychology this June (praise the Lord), and I spend most of my time working with people doing earth spirituality kinds of stuff (sessions, ceremonies, workshops). What I love has become my day job which is fantastic, I feel really blessed in that way.

I'm a licensed psychotherapist (MFT) and have a love/hate relationship with the field within a base of overall respect for the healers who are therapists and really helping others. I'm not currently seeing clients for therapy per se but I might again. I don't try to therapize people in my personal life or stuff like that.

I'm working on a book about ancestors and shamanism. I just finished a big bead project. I play basketball at the gym, am not especially good at it, but like being sweaty and competitive with the guys. I'm learning the local plants. I spend a lot of time hiking, being outdoorsy, and recently got certified as a Wilderness First Responder.

I'd like to think I'm good at taking in feedback, learning from mistakes, self-correcting, getting the message, at least about most things.

Helping people to feel seen and understood. Good listener when I want to be.

Massage although I don't do it for work anymore because my arms got stressed out and I did the therapy training. I still love bodywork.

Organizing whatever gets near me. Just part of my temperament, can't help it. Identifying patterns. Naming, speaking, writing. I love maps.

Working with dreams, I journal them still and love hearing others' dreams, sometimes making them into art, stories.

I love singing including with others and in groups but don't know that I'm unusually good at it.

is that I've already noticed them. Of course not always, but some combination of paranoia, tracker-mind, and spatial awareness means I usually notice others first. About once a week I see people I know in public who (presumably) haven't noticed me and am able to slide on by.

Bobcats are different. Only once so far have I noticed a bobcat before it noticed me. They are really stealth.

Books: Secrets of the Talking Jaguar by Martin Prechtel, Kushiel's Dart by Jacqueline Carey, poetry by Rilke or Margaret Atwood, The Fruitful Darkness by Joan Halifax, Jung's writings in general, R. Scott Bakker's recent trilogy was juicy.

Movies: Kundun, Farewell my Concubine, Spirited Away, I actually liked the Matrix trilogy (sorry), Lord of the Rings (wow I'm kinda mainstream), Milk. I like the scenes toward the end of Contact. I like good stories and dramatic historical stuff and even some action movies. I liked The Good Shepherd for example. I like watching people navigate ethical binds.

Food: I enjoy most anything to be honest. Especially: Mexican, Ethiopian, Indian, Italian, Thai, Mediterranean.

Wilderness. At least every once in a while for a few days to reset the compass and remember my place.

The phone to connect with people that love and understand me but don't live anywhere near me.

Ceremony, ritual, creative spontaneous ways of expressing Divinity and Relatedness and All That Jazz.

Sex I know it's cliche and I *can* live without it but the life force is just so damn powerful that it has to make the list.

Hope that we humans really can get it together and live well on this planet.

The mountains and rivers and contours of the land here and how much of the stories and songs were lost and how we can weave sane ways of living together with the 8 million other monkeys around this lovely Bay.

Relationships in general and intimate ones in particular. Ended a 4-month relationship in May after nearly a year of single, introspective time before that. I want a connection to grow into and deepen with. I can do single but it doesn't compare to being in a happy relationship.

I tend to work a lot of weekends, at least weekend days so Friday night is kinda like my Sunday night. I don't really party (not a snob about it, just doesn't have draw for me). I love just spending quality time with friends or a partner.

What to say? I have a fairly minor at this point insecure streak that I outwardly manage really well. I'm kind of a perfectionist but it's softened over time. I do most of my crying and a lot of my singing while driving. There are aspects of kink/BDSM that I would love to explore further in the right context. I'll try most things at least once.

You feel resonance with my profile.

You are a woman, probably aged 28-37, who is also looking for a connection that could grow into something long-term.

You are comfortable with a possible partner being bi. Maybe you're even not totally straight yourself so you get it directly. Or maybe you're just a really cool gender fluid straight person who gets it in a different way.

You envision in the long-term for yourself having children. I'm pretty darn sure I want kids, not an urgent kind of way, not even necessarily in the next few years, although who knows, but eventually. If you're super clear you don't want kids, I think it's probably one of those differences that's good to acknowledge up front. I'm open to dating people who already have kids as long as there aren't like 7 kids and you're not in the midst of an epic, life-consuming custody battle or something.

OK, here's where I'm gonna lose some people, but it's better to be up front....you ideally are open to various expressions of conscious, safe, loving, non-monogamy that have nothing to do with avoiding real intimacy, commitment, and working through issues. You are fine with being exclusive (as am I, have been for years at a time) and you are commitment-oriented. And also you prefer the option for maturely negotiated non-exclusive ways of relating that are based in love, communication, and mutual respect. If you are bi you maybe get this point easier, maybe not. I am personally really non-controlling and would *love* to be with someone who has the maturity to go deep in relationship without needing for it to necessarily always be exclusive. Honest, upfront, loving, and safe: absolutely. Sigh. No matter how I say it I'm gonna lose people on that one. I *am* looking for a primary, committed life partner and I have as little tolerance when I'm in relationship for cheating or whoring around as the next person. Anyways, either you get that part or I've lost you.

Despite all that, I'm not looking to dive blind and deep into relationship and am into just meeting kindred spirit people too.

And as for the guys, I'm kinda more focused on dating women at present and could be open to the possibility of a friend/lover if there is real connection, so if you're feeling it and resonate with my profile, drop me a note. I'm probably bad (dating) news for men looking for a primary life partner to marry and spend their life with in light of the desire for family with a woman and kids. Being really bi is tricky, I end up feeling like I want it all.