I'm here looking for people who like rope bondage. I'm pretty good at tying people up, even though I've only been doing it for a little over two years. My bondage style is post-BDSM, non-kinky, and non-sexual. I aim for relaxation and stress reduction. I call my style "somatosensory bondage" or "rope-based bodywork."
I'd like to find people who want to trade gardening help for bondage. Or other kinds of help around the house, if you don't like to garden.
So, let me tell you some of my ideas about bondage as therapy.
Because my (sadly) former sweetie enjoys bondage, and I loved my sweetie, I decided to learn how to do rope bondage. I chose to focus on rope bondage because rope is inexpensive, easy to store, readily available, and versatile. I also like the challenge of learning the techniques and learning new knots. These are transferable skills that have practical uses.
As I got to know more people who enjoyed bondage and learned more about how bondage works for the bindee, and I began to realize that for many, it was a lifelong need--something that started very young. I began making some connections and doing more research on this.
I was a 4-H leader (I still would be, but all the kids in my club moved away and I haven't found a new group) and just by chance most of the kids in my group had some kind of developmental disability--about half fetal alcohol syndrome and half Asperger's syndrome (a type of high-functioning autism). In researching these conditions, I came across information about sensory integration dysfunction and sensory integration therapy. (For more information about this, do a web search on "sensory integration therapy."
I also read a lot of books and articles by Temple Grandin (you may have heard of her; she's the famous animal behaviorist who is also autistic) and read about her "squeeze machine" or "hug box." (For more about Temple and her hug box, do a web search on "Temple Grandin" and "squeeze machine".)
My former sweetie likes bondage (all kinds, not just rope) and sensory play. After a while, I noticed that he shared some characteristics with the Asperger's Syndrome (AS) kids I had known. My friend had tried different sensory experiences since childhood. I found that was true of other people who were in the BDSM scene, also.
Many of the sensations and experiences that people into the BDSM scene seek seem to be very similar to the experiences and activities used in sensory integration therapy. People's descriptions of the feelings of relaxation and calm they experience sound a lot like how Temple describes her feelings about using her squeeze machine.
I also found that applying bondage is, for me, very similar to giving a massage, which I've been doing for decades. In fact, I think of it as "giving someone bondage." (An interesting side note--I started out doing massage and more recently have been learning to do bondage, and I have a friend who used to be a professional Domme, who later became a professional massage therapist. I wonder if there's a connection. My friend commented that for some of her clients, bondage was a "comfort and security thing.")
So, I think at least some people who find their way into the BDSM scene are here because they are seeking ways to deal with sensory integration issues. I also think that perhaps getting this discussion more out into the open might help people who need these kinds of sensory experiences feel less "weird" and less embarrassed or shy about seeking them out.
I have found that I really am not interested in the power exchange aspects, but I like doing bondage and sensory play as therapy. I combine bondage with aromatherapy, using herbs, massage and other kinds of touch, sensory play (flogging, spanking, feathers, other textures and sensations) and music. The essential bondage elements seem to be restriction of movement and deep pressure, same as with Temple's squeeze machine.
My former sweetie is transgendered, and through hir I became interested in the transgender community and I like to give support and encouragement to transgender, transsexual, and intersex folks of all varieties.
I am polyamorous, trans-friendly, and eco-friendly