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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 27–47
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Aug 17
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Spanish
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm well read, smart, self-deprecating, and very driven to pursue my goals. I appreciate smart folks that have something to say but also know how to listen. I'm loyal if I like you, I listen even if I don't and I would love to meet other similar people to round out my circle of friends. I believe that the only thing we really have is a choice regarding how we spend our time -- everything else can be lost and is not within our control--we can only influence outcomes. I believe in making deliberate choices and sticking with things all the way to the end. Sometimes the end means finding out that a project didn't work and that's ok. If you don't like me or we don't click I won't hold it against you. Creative types, intellectuals, scientists, and smarty-pants are all welcome for conversation. Bonus points if you are a into photography or like to think or write about creative works and the creative process.
What I’m doing with my life
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Making a novel out the many ways online dating can go wrong -- tallying the oversharing, dipsomia, DSM-V entries, and myriad other amusements. Some come and go with grace, many do not. The names of the innocent and non-innocent will be kept in confidence so have no fear.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Cooking, the law, reading voraciously, and burning the candle at both ends.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Right now I collect a lot of photo books. Favorites at the moment are Subway (Bruce Davidson), 10 Years (Zoe Strauss), Solitude of Ravens (Fukase). I've read Cormac McCarthy's novel Suttree until the spine wore out. The photography references are worth googling -- if you like what comes up when you check them out we will probably have something to talk about.

Music -- wide ranging, could be Carlos Gardel, the Misfits, or Calexico depending on the day.

I'm leaving out the other parts of this question -- need something to discuss on a first date. . .
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I could never do without deep friendships, good food, creative outlets, solitude (in doses), fountain pens (for handwritten letters) or the mute button for conference calls.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to do fewer things better.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Unwinding with co-workers or gearing up for an adventure.
You should message me if
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You are fine on your own -- you are strong and tend towards thinking over feeling, but have a creative edge.