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38 Gainesville, FL Cis Man

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 22-49
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Nov 28
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 8" (1.73m)
Body Type
Average build
Atheism and it’s important
Two-year college
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
English (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Hello. Thanks for stopping by.

Introductions are always hard, but I'll do my best to make this not too unpleasant. I'm a jack-of-all-trades, and master of none. I'm a tinkerer, a hacker, a thinker, and a fidgeter. I'm a lover, a rationalist, an activist, a feminist, and a pacifist. I have a sharp mind, but a short attention span.

I think of myself as a techno-hippie. I'm not religious, or spiritual in the traditional sense, but I am supremely interested in a stoic philosophy, social responsibility, democratic socialism, and ecological stewardship. When someone talks about chakras and magik, my eyes may glaze over a bit, but when they get back to practical concerns about how to live the most authentic and virtuous life, I'll be in the thick of conversation.

I'm a pretty silly guy. I laugh often, and have a deep appreciation for the absurd. I like witty jokes, dumb jokes, and painful puns.

Some of my favorite social interests are outdoor activities, camping, swimming, tubing, sitting by a fire, theme parks (I have passes to the Disney and Universal parks in Orlando), museums, dive bars, live music, and games of all types.

I identify as polyamorous. I've have been ethically non-monogamous since 2007. I currently have one partner, BunkiBoo (whom I've been married to since 2004). The other major person I'm my life is my son, who was born in 2010.

If you are unfamiliar with polyamory, it means that I foster multiple relationships in an open and ethical manner. My partners and I are able to date, fall in love with, and have sex with other people. Please note that this is not cheating, as we all make each other fully aware of our other partners, and even introduce them, and all do things together as our schedules permit. We believe that love and affection are not limited resources that must be hoarded to be preserved, but instead are wonderful gifts that can be given in abundance.
(For more information, see More Than Two.)

This isn't to say that I am completely idealistic, for while love is an unlimited resource, time and money are not, but I am pretty good at time-management, and live by my calendar. Poly-relationships are a lot of work, but it's totally worth it.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
In February 2014, I started work for local company as a web developer, which means that I can take a picture of a website, and turn it into something that appears in your browser when you type in the URL, including all of the programming stuff for complex sites. I love making things, and programming gives me a way to do that. I've been writing software since basically childhood. I think that I am pretty good at what I do, but one of the best things about this line of work is that I am always learning something new.

My family is really he most important thing to me. This includes not only my birth family, and the people that I live with, but all of my family of choice. Being a great dad is extremely important to me. I try to make sure that I do everything that I can to help my son be as awesome of a person as I can imagine. So far, things are going pretty well.

Don't like kids or anything to do with computers? Don't worry, there is certainly a lot more to me than that.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm generally very good at fitting into most social circles. I'm empathetic and diplomatic, and strive to achieve social harmony with the people that are around me, and am good at defusing tense situations.

I'm a great listener. I find it easy to connect with people, and find common ground, and am completely non-judgmental. I share freely, and invite those I talk with to do the same.

I'm also good at finding creative solutions for problems. It may not be pretty, and it may not be permanent, but it will get you by in the meantime.

Puzzles and games. I once for a very brief time had the highest world score in Angry Birds Seasons. I also am a decent Words with Friends player. I'm usually very quick to solve puzzles as well, often intuitively grasping the solution before I even have it fully figured out.

Being barefoot. 👣
The first things people usually notice about me
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My curly hair and eyes. My eyes are kind of weird in that they seem to shift hue based on what I am wearing and what is surrounding me. Sometimes they look blue, others green or gray.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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While I read a lot of books, these are the ones that I am mostly likely to go back and reread (if I haven't already): The Wheel of Time series; The Dark Tower series; The Name of the Wind; Harry Potter series; The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy trillogy; The Lord of the Rings series; Southern Vampire Mysteries series; Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality (also known as HPMOR), anything by Dean Koontz, Stephen King, John Sanford, Jasper Fford, Cory Doctorow, and Christopher Moore; and The Ethical Slut.

These are the movies that if I ever see them come on, I will watch them:
Labyrinth, The Dark Crystal, anything from Pixar, The Matrix series, Star Wars, The Shawshank Redemption, The Princess Bride, Little Shop of Horrors, Pi, Once, The Fifth Element, the Harry Potter series, any of the Mell Brooks Movies, Indiana Jones, The Lord of the Rings series, Fight Club, The Sixth Sense, Unbreakable, the Alien series (minus the third one), Predator, Defending Your Life, Young Frankenstein, A Knight's Tale, Ghost in the Shell, Ninja Scroll, and the Terminator series.

I don't like reruns most of the time, but I'll watch them for these shows:
Gotham, The Flash, Heroes, every Star Trek series, House, Chuck, Sherlock, The Walking Dead, Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Lie to Me, The Big Bang Theory, Once Upon a Time, The Daily Show, The Colbert Report, Modern Family, Raising Hope, Fringe, Firefly, Stargate Universe, The Universe, The Family Guy, Grey's Anatomy, Private Practice, Alphas, Warehouse 13, Doctor Who, Eureka, Myth Busters, Good Eats, Dexter, Hung, Sex and the City, Dead Like Me, True Blood, The Game of Thrones, NOVA, Medium, Terminator: The Sarah Connor Chronicles, Cowboy Bebop, Animaniacs, Pinky and the Brain, Freakazoid,The Muppet Show, Doctor Who, Lost, Battlestar Galactica.

My music tastes are varied, and I mostly just listen to Pandora when I want to listen to music. I maintain several stations including blues and jazz, heavy metal, EDM, alternative, ambient, classical, folk, acapella, reggae, punk, ska, contemporary crooners, nerd-core, and kid's songs

There are few types of food that I don't like, and even fewer that I am unwilling to try at least once. Some of my favorite dishes are Thai, Indian, and Caribbean, as I enjoy bold flavors.

This American Life, Serial, Radio Lab, Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality: The Podcast, Pedestrian Polyamory (inactive), Polyamory Weekly, the Savage Lovecast, You Are Not So Smart.

I read a lot of webcomics. They all just magically appear in my feed reader, and I love it. Here are my favorites: Alphie, Chester 5000 XYV, Dresden Codak, Girl Genius, Go Get a Roomie, Hyperbole and a Half (inactive), Kimchi Cuddles, Luci Phur's Imps (inactive), Ménage a 3, Nic Buxom (inactive), Oglaf!, Oh Joy Sex Toy, Omake Theatre, Questionable Content, Real Life Comics (Rarely updates), Rutabaga: Adventure Chef (inactive), Strong Female Protagonist, The Meek, The Oatmeal, The Rock Cocks, and Tune (inactive)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Friends and Family - My relationships are important to me, and I work hard to maintain them.

2. The Internet - The Internet is how I stay connected to those I love whom I don't see every day, and it also serves as a supplementary brain, storing important information, both personal and public.

3. Books - Both a source of information and entertainment. I love getting lost in a good book. I enjoy them as physical paper books, ebooks, and audiobooks.

4. Swiss Army Knife - I carry this everywhere, and has most of the tools that I use for daily activities. I've been called "Ever-Ready" and "MacGuiver" by friends and family by always seeming to have a tool they need at a moment's notice. This is just the central piece of my every-day carry kit.

5. My iPhone - This is my connection to the Internet while I am away, and it also allows me to know what the locals know wherever I go, maintain's my calendar, helps me keep in touch with friends and family, allows me to document important events in my life, and provides me other tools (including even as a flashlight).

6. Games - Whether they are video games, board games, puzzles, or role-playing games, I love exercising my mind with a challenge.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My brain is a bit of a mess. I tend to flit from subject to subject all the time. One minute I'll be thinking about my relationships, the next about the latest Zelda game, then cognitive science and rationality, then the beach, then gender politics and on and on.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I play in a D&D game on Friday nights, typically. It's a great way to spend time with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I was severely bullied as a child. It affected me in a lot of ways, both good and bad. It wrecked my self esteem (which has mostly healed), but gave me a strong sense of justice and capacity for empathy, which has served me well throughout my life since.
You should message me if
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• you are interested in fun and silly geeks.
• you are not a jealous type, and open to my lifestyle.
• you enjoy playing and being silly.
• you know the difference between a megabyte and a megapixel (no I won't quiz you on that).
• you appreciate the surreal.
• you feel like it.