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30 • Ann Arbor, MI • Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 18–36
- Near me
- Who are single
- For short-term dating, casual sex
- Last online
- Today – 2:39am
- 5′ 9″ (1.75m)
- Body type
- Mostly anything
- Other, but not too serious about it
- Aquarius, but it doesn’t matter
- Graduated from high school
- Strictly non-monogamous
- Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
- English (Fluently)
I am a Burner, a Morris Dancer, a Maker, a Dancer, a Cuddle Fanatic, Tactile, a Hooper, a Night Owl, Sexual, Adventurous, Loving, Funny, Sociable, Kind], Emotional, Stoic, Zen, an Introvert, Outgoing, Self-Contradictory, Well Spoken at times, a Blundering Fool at others.
Looking for the "selling features"? I'm Honest, Straight Forward, Caring, Well Endowed, Understanding, Intelligent, Independent, 420 Friendly, Financially Stable and I get great Gas Milage. Okay, the last one is a fallacy, drinking gasoline would probably kill me, let's not try it.
We all have our flaws, I am no exception, flaws make us who we are, perhaps more than our strengths. I sometimes lack tact; I'm particular, hedonistic and forgetful; I suffer migraines and fatigue; I fail at mornings and getting places on time; I'm forgetful and competitive; I'm not into spectator-sport culture. I'm annoyingly self aware; not a flaw you say? I beg to differ.
Myers Briggs says I'm a ENTP and while it is, like all classifications, a generalization, it is spot on. I'm very honest and happy to be blunt, if there is anything you'd like to know about me, my intentions, my desires or my dreams, start a conversation and ask me.
I work as a Software Engineer and have been in the field for 8 years. I have many, widely varied hobbies. A few of my recent ones are Sound Tech, Electrical Engineering, Sewing, Gaming (Computer, Board and Card) and Dancing.
In a lover, I'm looking for someone Adventurous, Durable, Sexual, Unique, Complicated, Busty, Clever, Positive, Cuddly, Eloquent and Interesting. I want someone who is more prone to taking more risks than I am and will talk me into doing things outside of my comfort zone.
I'm smart and responsible, but I like to take risks, to do things outside of my confort zone. Whether friend or lover, I like people of a similar tribe.
Sometimes you read, watch or see something and there is a person you become totally absorbed by, an individual that you feel lessened for not being able to know, to have in your life. It's rare, but there are people that you get instantly drawn into. I'm looking for that person.
You can grow into love, into friendship, into comfort and familiarity, but what I'm looking for is someone with that instinctual attraction, that unexplainable know-it-when-you-feel-it click. Someone I can feel connected to, feel desire for and desire from, someone who will be my friend, my lover and my companion.
I'm looking for someone to be with, but I am not looking for any particular type of relationship or structure. I'm not monogamous by nature. What I'm looking for is probably closest to a "primary", but I like to let relationships develop naturally and become whatever fits.
I believe the most important thing to do with ones life is to learn to exist, to enjoy the world, to better yourself and to explore.
I've listed hobbies in the above section, so lets talk "work". Professionally I'm a Software Engineer and have been since 2005. At this point I'd say I'm pretty successful, though that obviously doesn't mean I've lost interest or aren't evolving my skills anymore. I'm working full time for a company in New York City, as mentioned above.
I also own a small, independent business that works in the iOS and Android markets as a development contractor. I do very little work for said company, given my day job and how much of my time I invest in my hobbies and side projects, but for tax reasons I do keep the company running and active.
Otherwise I'm good at many things and above average at many more, I tend to be a jack-of-all-trades. I have a talent for picking things up easily and as a result change secondary interests often.
I'm particularly good at Air Hockey....wanna play?
Physically, I have no idea. It's not something I've really asked anyone and it's not something people just walk up to you and say. I'm told that I have nice legs, but that's more of a general observation than a first impression.
If you ever meet me let me please let me know what the first thing you notice is, maybe it will give me something better to put on here.
A few of these lists, the short ones, need completing. I'm not really very good at off-the-cuff lists, so these get added onto when I'm feeling like thinking.
Also, opinions on me listing things one-item per line? Too long? Easier to read? So far I have yet to have a single person comment on that fact, just that my profile needs shortening. I haven't even had a single person comment on my request in the previous sentance to let me know. I can only assume no one reads this.
-| Books |-
Alice's Adventures in Wonderland Lewis Carroll
Atlas Shrugged Ayn Rand
Dirk Gently's Holistic Detective Agency (Series) Douglas Adams
The Fountainhead Ayn Rand
Fragile Things Neil Gaiman
Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy (Series) Douglas Adams
House of Leaves Mark Z. Danielewski
Ishmael Daniel Quinn (Thank you verita_bella)
Johnny the Homicidal Maniac (Series) Jhonen Vasquez
Neverwhere Neil Gaiman
Mogworld by Benjamin "Yahtzee" Croshaw
Myst (Series) Rand and Robyn Miller
Rememberence of Things Past (I haven't finished this yet but it's really good) Marcel Proust
Robot (Series) Various
The Sandman (Series) Neil Gaiman
Smoke and Mirrors Neil Gaiman
Symphony of Ages (Series)
Through the Looking-Glass, and What Alice Found There Lewis Carroll
The Witch Watch by Shamus Young
-| Music |-
16 Bit Lolitas
Ace of Base
Alan Parsons Project
and but a single stone remained
Andrew LLoyd Webber (Composer)
Armin van Buuren
Barenaked Ladies (Seen Live)
Belle and Sebastian
Black Eyed Peas
Boa (The UK Band)
The Dead Hours
Denny Elfman (Composer)
Der En Grey (Seen Live)
The Dresdon Dolls
E Muzeki (Seen Live, doesn't exist any more)
Five for Fighting
Gaelic Storm (Seen Live)
The Glitch Mob's
Gögol Bordello (Seen Live)
The Goo Goo Dolls (Seen Live)
Hot Banana Milk
Infected Mushroom (Seen Live)
Iron & Wine
Joe Knaapen (Non-published)
Jupiter for Sarah (Seen Live, doesn't exist any more)
Kyary Pamyu Pamyu
Neutral Milk Hotel
Nine Inch Nails
One Ring Zero
The Pretty Reckless
Ra Ra Riot (Seen Live)
Rage Against The Machine
Shiny Toy Guns
Simon & Garfunkel
Tatu (Preference for russian songs)
Tegan and Sara (Seen Live)
That Him! That's The Guy! (Seen Live)
The Tic Tok Men
They Might Be Giants
Trans-Siberian Orchestra (Seen Live)
Vitamin String Quartet
VNV Nation (Seen Live)
The White Stripes
-| Movies |-
Alices Adventures in Wonderland
Back to the Future
Being John Malkovich
The Chronicles of Riddick
City of Lost Children
Ghost in the Shell
Ghost in the Shell: Solid State Society
Grave of the Fireflies
The Hole: 2000 Seen By
Interview With a Vampire
The Last Samurai
Lone Wolf and Cub
Memoirs of a Geisha
Monty Python and the Holy Grail
Phantom of the Opera
Requiem for a Dream
Run Lola Run
Serial Experiments: Lain
Star Wars - The original trilogy.
-| TV SHOWS |-
(This is only a list that I started writing recently, it is a baby list and by no means complete)
Are You Being Served
Ghost in the Shell
Star Trek (All of them, though I've only seen a single episode of enterprise and none of the animated series)
The Sarah Connor Chronicles
The Simpsons (Though I haven't seen an episode in years)
Witch Hunter Robin
Lately I wonder if the ease of survival in modern society inures the soul. We live easy lives, yet we create such malady and strife for ourselves. I think that, on a deep level, we are unable to accept the simplicity of our situation, the ease of surviving. I think that we need to fight for our survival, It’s in our nature to fight, to work relentlessly to secure the right to exist and the right for a future. We never feel so at peace or content as when we are fighting a battle of need and overcome. Out in the forest, hunting for food, did our ancestors get this constant tug that there was something important that was missing from life - or did they exist content and assured of their place in the world and their reason for being?
Since this section makes NO sense, I instead present you with a number of non-private facts that just aren't likely to come up in normal conversation and which I find interesting:
-I like to shower in the dark, I don't remember exactly when I picked up the habit, I just find it extremely relaxing and meditative.
-Incidentally, I have very good spacial skills.
-I like to make my bed, but don't every day. Getting into a nicely made bed is very enjoyable though.
-I really like music in languages I can't understand.
-I get migraines, they are the DEATH.
-I like watching pro Tennis, but not any other spectator sport.
-While I think cats are really cute, I think that Chipmunks might be more cute, I <3 Chipmunks. After that, Giraffes might be a third, I don't know why, but Giraffes are awesome.
-I like playing pretty much all sports, even though I don't like watching them. I'm not good at most of them, but that doesn't stop me from enjoying them.
-I am against the oxford comma, I don't know exactly why. I don't believe it is objectively better not to use it, I just prefer it's absence.
-I've always wanted to have sex outside in a thunderstorm. If you are interested, that constitutes an invitation.
-I own way more clothing than most people do.
-I've got quite a bit of body hair, my heritage is pretty much all from cold, snowy places.
-I'm a breasts man, both in that I'm extremely attracted to breasts and that I like very large breasts.
-Also, I've very attracted to redheads.
-I like being asked personal questions, it's fun to know all of the answers! Ask me something :p
-I am great at recalling facts for esoteric or useless things, but only when they aren't relevant.
-I'm well-endowed (7"+ Long, 6"+ Around]).
I want someone who knows that it's sometimes hard to tear down the walls we build for ourselves and someone to help me tear those walls down. I want someone to adventure with, someone to help me to explore this maddening world. I want someone to make bad choices with, someone to pull me along on a journey I'm still to afraid to make alone.
Message me if you're an old soul; you're unique, with all the good and the bad that come with it; you feel deeply; You know there's more out there; You need to explore; you're willing to take risks; you think life is about more than keeping up appearances; you want to know.
If you have a lot of "explanations" on your questions, kuddos, I love the explanations, the little window into the way people think, far more than most peoples profiles. If I messaged you or you message me, I promise you I'm gonna read all of those little answers of yours.
Let me know if you think you'd like me, you're interesting and you'd like to grab dinner or a drink sometime, even if you aren't usually the sort that start conversations. I know girls don't have to do shit on here, everyone I the planet messages you. But I want to know who you are, because people are interesting and who knows, maybe we'll fit. It's worth finding out.
Being honest though, we all just wants to connect with other people, so any reason you have for messaging me is a good enough reason to start a conversation. You never know what you might find until you try.
For those who are interested, my kik is EclecticChaos42. I don't generally use it, I prefer texting instead, but it seems to be popular so when in Rome.
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