As a karmic reward for my hard work cleaning up the environment, I got to take early retirement four years ago curtesy of a large, but operable cancer in my right temporal lobe. Right after surgery, a rare, very painful drug reaction put me through agony but left me physically unscathed. This brush with death left me uninclined to keep my nose to the grindstone.
My wife of 33 years, none too keen on rethinking a life plan that was working out well for her financially, just finished divorcing my non-income-producing ass. My three grown kids are out of harm's way. I'm getting back to the interests that I no longer had time for when I entered the professional and parenting worlds (simultaneously). I'm also keen on catching up on some of the things that have developed, culturally (in the broadest sense), while I was at the grindstone and raising the kids. Companionship with bright, sexy women with compatible interests will help with both the "getting back" and the "catching up" and would, of course, be a worthwhile end in itself.
I know that health problems would generally be considered a downer, but as Churchill said, "There is nothing as exhilarating as being shot at with no result." Besides, the "bright side" of the drug reaction is that it left me with freshly regrown (and totally normal looking) skin on my lips. If that clue allows you to identify the rare disease I suffered, I will be extremely impressed with you. I am unusually upbeat for someone who has been through what I have and the prospect of finding a new flame to help navigate the transition is particularly inspiring to me. I feel that I have a lot to contribute to a relationship, but you ultimately will have to be the judge of that.