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Elakim

34 M Helsinki, Finland

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 4:38am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Married
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Estonian (Okay), Finnish (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), Swedish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Basically, I think I'm an optimist. Things seem (to me) to have a tendency to work out, one way or another, and I can usually see the bright side of life. Small positive things have the power to make me happy; large negative things rarely have power over me. I can either do something about them or ignore them.

I like to move under my own power, or the power of the wind. Biking and sailing make me content. Sometimes ecstatic. Cooking, baking - with some bad conscience for the wasted energy of electrical ovens - and growing food are other small good things.

Friendship, on the other hand, and other human relations, are large good things. But so is literature.

They used to have the three compulsory adjectives here. I've forgotten what I had way back then, but here's some new ones: inquisitive, attentive and positive.
What I’m doing with my life
I could say that I live in a polyamorous relationship, but that might be misleading. I have separate relationships, some of which are amorous. :) I have a lovely girlfriend and some very good friends.

I'm currently holding a job in a local university's IT department, which is fun: we have lots of wonderful people working here, and it's nice to be able to contribute to the common good instead of filling the pockets of some private entrepreneur.

I also spend a lot of time in a geek co-op which we've had up and running since the year 2000.
I’m really good at
Listening to people and making them feel like they can trust me with anything. I don't really try to do it, it's just something that seems to happen naturally; what I do try is to be worthy of that trust. Really listening and trying to understand what people have to say and respecting what they say might have something to do with it.

Also, I seem to have a knack for languages. And computers. And conceptual thinking in general.

I'm also good at concentrating on something, sometimes so that there could be an atomic explosion nearby without me noticing. Weirdly, though, I seem to notice more things about my surroundings than most people I hang out with. It's fun to point out hilarious, cute or weird stuff to them.
The first things people usually notice about me
I get a lot of comments that I seem to have something relevant to say to more or less everything. I don't think that's true, but so they tell me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Some of them:

Books (incl. novels, comics, short stories, plays, poems and such): The Sandman by Neil Gaiman. Tuulten laakson Nausikaa (Kaze no Tani no Naushika/Nausicaä of the Valley of Wind) by Hayao Miyazaki. The Fifth Head of Cerberus by Gene Wolfe. Valtaistuinpeli (A Game of Thrones) by George R. R. Martin. Jumalainen näytelmä (La divina commedia/The Divine Comedy) by Dante (Finnish translation by Eino Leino). Doktor Faustus by Thomas Mann, and another by Goethe. Die Verwandlung by Franz Kafka. The City of Saints and Madmen by Jeff VanderMeer. Kramppeja & Nyrjähdyksiä by Pauli Kallio and Christer Nuutinen. Corto Maltese by Hugo Pratt. Puhdistus (Purge) by Sofi Oksanen. Huorasatu by Laura Gustafsson. Rehepapp and Mees, kes teadis ussisõnu by Andrus Kivirähk. Tantsiv linn by Ivar Sild. The Handmaid's Tale by Margaret Atwood. Sadan vuoden yksinäisyys (Cien años de soledad/One Hundred Years of Solitude) by Gabriel García Márquez. Täällä Pohjantähden alla (Under the North Star) by Väinö Linna. The Windup Girl by Paolo Bacigalupi. From Hell by Alan Moore. Maus by Art Spiegelman. High Society and Church & State by Dave Sim. Auringon asema by Ranya ElRamly. The Tempest by William Shakespeare. Nocturne by Eino Leino. On suuri sun rantas autius by V. A. Koskenniemi. The Player of Games, Use of Weapons and Consider Phlebas by Iain M. Banks. Pimeyden vasen käsi (The Left Hand of Darkness), Taivaan työkalu (The Lathe of Heaven), Maameri-trilogia (The Earthsea Trilogy), Tehanu, Osattomien planeetta (The Dispossessed: An Ambiguous Utopia) and many, many wonderful short stories by Ursula K. Le Guin. Tainaron by Leena Krohn. Ubik, We Can Build You and On aika sijoiltaan (Time Out of Joint) by Philip K. Dick. Pariisin Notre-Dame (Notre-Dame de Paris) and Kurjat (Les Miserables) by Victor Hugo. Muumilaakson marraskuu (Moominvalley in November) by Tove Jansson. Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell by Susanna Clarke. Orlando by Virginia Woolf (which I read upon recommendation by a comic book character). Now this list is already too long, and I only just got started...

Music: CMX, Kauko Röyhkä, Tuomari Nurmio, Uzva, Miljoonasade, Ultra Bra, Maria Gasolina, Absoluuttinen Nollapiste, PMMP, Björk, Jethro Tull, Simon & Garfunkel, Joan Baez, Tori Amos, Hedningarna.

Movies: Das Leben der Anderen, Solaris, Stalker, Kaze no Tani no Naushika, Citizen Kane, Blue Velvet, Kill Bill, Vertigo, that one Hitchcock movie based on Crime and Punishment the name of which escapes me currently, Alien, Tonari no Totoro, Calamari Union, Hable con ella, Todo sobre mi madre, The Great Dictator, Oh Brother, Where Art Thou, Nightmare Before Christmas, Edward Scissorhands, The Shawshank Redemption, Do Androids Dream of Electric Sheep - er, I mean, Blade Runner, Vicky Cristina Barcelona, Batman (the one by Tim Burton), The Shining, A Clockwork Orange, Sen to Chihiro no Kamikakushi, Dogville, Lost Highway, Tillsammans, La cité des enfants perdus, Dark City, Monty Python and the Holy Grail, Full Metal Jacket, Life of Brian, 2001: A Space Odyssey, Dancer in the Dark, Corpse Bride.

Shows: Some twenty years after I first considered finding out what this Doctor Who stuff was all about, I finally got around to it with the New Series. And was swept off my feet.

Food: A self-made vegan lasagna is one of the best things in the world. But right now (in early summer of 2012) the absolutely very best thing in the world is early potatoes, simply cooked with a branch of dill, served with fresh vegan margarine (without trans fats), fresh chives, fresh lettuce, a simple kidney bean sauce (containing fresh self-grown chili) and pickled herring. Oh yes, and dark rye bread. --Self-baked rolls and cakes and pies - vegan, of course - are lovely, too.

I once spent a couple of weeks near one of the only forests in Scania, Sweden. There were wild dark cherries growing in the forest and there was a big book of pie recipes in the house where we stayed. End result: one of the best pies I've ever made - and fingers that were cherry-coloured for a month. ^^
The six things I could never do without
Maybe friendship and love and peace - do I really have to list six? :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Languages; where to travel next (and how); where to sail next; how to improve the boat; electric vehicles (not that I'd want to own one, I prefer my bike); how does my co-op run and what could I do to make it run better; even work, sometimes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Sitting at home reading a gook book, visiting a friend, cuddling with a loved one, watching a movie, biking along a forest road, walking on the beach. Or having a heated discussion about gender politics in IRC. Relaxing in a sauna. Hanging out with friends in a local drinking establishment. Or a café. Or maybe sailing a boat to sunset.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've found it easier to avoid keeping things private - I won't go around telling everybody and their cousin everything they don't want to hear about me, but if asked, I usually answer.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–46
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
there's something in the above that aroused your interest; if you'd like to discuss something that sounded really weird; if you think you agree wholeheartedly with everything mentioned - or if you think I'm an idiot and badly in need of being told so.

Or if you feel like it. I don't know, I'm not that picky.