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Elakim

35 Helsinki, Finland Man

Man

I’m looking for

  • Everyone
  • Ages 18–46
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Nov 27
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Non-monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Estonian (Okay), Finnish (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), Swedish (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Basically, I think I'm an optimist. Things seem (to me) to have a tendency to work out, one way or another, and I can usually see the bright side of life. Small positive things have the power to make me happy; large negative things rarely have power over me. I can either do something about them or ignore them.

I like to move under my own power, or the power of the wind. Biking and sailing make me content. Sometimes ecstatic. Cooking, baking - with some bad conscience for the wasted energy of electrical ovens - and growing food are other small good things.

Friendship, on the other hand, and other human relations, are large good things. But so is literature.

They used to have the three compulsory adjectives here. I've forgotten what I had way back then, but here's some new ones: inquisitive, attentive and positive.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I could say that I live in a polyamorous relationship, but that might be misleading. I have separate relationships, some of which are amorous. :)

I'm currently holding a job in a local university's IT department, which is fun: we have lots of wonderful people working here, and it's nice to be able to contribute to the common good instead of filling the pockets of some private entrepreneur.

I also spend a lot of time in a geek co-op which we've had up and running since the year 2000.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening to people and making them feel like they can trust me with anything. I don't really try to do it, it's just something that seems to happen naturally; what I do try is to be worthy of that trust. Really listening and trying to understand what people have to say and respecting what they say might have something to do with it.

Also, I seem to have a knack for languages. And computers. And conceptual thinking in general.

I'm also good at concentrating on something, sometimes so that there could be an atomic explosion nearby without me noticing. Weirdly, though, I seem to notice more things about my surroundings than most people I hang out with. It's fun to point out hilarious, cute or weird stuff to them.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I get a lot of comments that I seem to have something relevant to say to more or less everything. I don't think that's true, but so they tell me.

When the LoTR movie trilogy was just out, I got many comments that I looked like Legolas. These days, Elrond might be more appropriate :)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I used to have a long, long list here, since I like so many things. But such a long list is a lot of work to wade through, so I'll just sample more or less randomly.

Neil Gaiman's Sandman.

Miyazaki's Nausicaä of the Valley of Wind (the graphic novel; of his movies, I like Spirited Away more).

Ursula le Guin's Lavinia.

Doctor Who.

One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest.

A vegan date cake with whisky.

"Tofupalloset Napolin kujilta" - a recipe of small tofu-based "meatballs" which is frustratingly time-consuming to prepare but heaven to eat with whole wheat pasta and parmiggiano.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Maybe friendship and love and peace - do I really have to list six? :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Languages; where to travel next (and how); where to sail next; how to improve the boat; social justice issues; how does my co-op run and what could I do to make it run better; even work, sometimes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sitting at home reading a gook book, visiting a friend, cuddling with a loved one, watching a movie, biking along a forest road, walking on the beach. Or having a heated discussion about gender politics in IRC. Relaxing in a sauna. Hanging out with friends in a café. Or maybe sailing a boat.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I've found it easier to avoid keeping things private - I won't go around telling everybody and their cousin everything they don't want to hear about me, but if asked, I usually answer.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you think you have something to say, if anything I've said here appeared interesting. Or if you'd like to meet for a cup of tea somewhere cozy.

And, oh, I said I was only looking for friends, and I've also indicated that I'm poly. That is to say, I'm content with my relationship situation - very much so - and am not actively looking for anything "more" than friends.