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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 38–50
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Jun 11
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Gujarati (Okay), Afrikaans (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Eclectic, adventurous, progressive and curious. I value purpose and being good in the world, but mostly I'm trying to live a fun and happy life these days. I play nicely. And I will sometimes move both my left feet. To music. I nurture the closeness I have with my special people and family. I really value relationships that have mutual trust, love and respect. And which have space for individual pursuits too.

Some of my friends think I'm pretty clever, mainly geeky clever and street smart - I'd prefer to be funnier. I'm irreverent but not contemptuous. Easy-going but not ambivalent.
Having travelled a lot (around the world, and the same block sometimes), I think I finally understand the cocktail of empathy, courage and compassion. I try, but don't succeed all the time. The result of having diced with fate often, in an earlier life.

I'd love to meet someone with whom I can be playfully engaged and affectionate.
What I’m doing with my life
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My vocational journey has progressed through quite a few conventional and non-conventional paths; more when we actually meet. I now do "social impact investing" and work on economic development issues, with real people and communities - mainly in Africa. I teach post graduate classes from time to time. I'm flying solo and am pretty independent in most respects.

I live both in New York and Johannesburg. I find that it's the combination of these two very different worlds that contain me best; makes me happiest.

I find fitness, solace and peace of mind in distance running. I also cycle; not so long ago I rode a bicycle through the foothills of the Indian Himalayas, from Manali to Leh. I ran the NYC marathon in 2014, and have just just run the Two Oceans Ultra Marathon in Cape Town - and admit to being physically shattered during and afterwards. I guess a little rest is always healthy!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- solving problems (I'm working hard on "just listening")
- Juggling many things at once..... although sometimes things fall.... so I avoid doing it with uncooked eggs.
The first things people usually notice about me
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my accent.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I enjoy reading non-fiction, especially about contemporary political economy, politics, and global finance issues. Sometimes philosophy.

One Hundred Years of Solitude still makes me marvel at the tenacity of the human heart. I like the work of Arundhati Roy, Khaled Hosseini, JM Coetzee, Malcolm Gladwell, Ian McEwan, Haruki Murakami, Milan Kundera, Rohinton Mistry, Paulo Coelho, Nadine Gordimer. Julian Barnes' book was strongly suggested (almost prescribed) reading, but didn't taste medicinal. It did push some buttons.

I'm random with music, but admit that I do not understand House, hip hop or rap. Willing to learn and be guided here... I grew up with World Music, and have a love for African music (Salif Keita, Ismael Lo, Youssou N'Dour, Fela (and now son Femi) Kuti).

I LOVE food! And I cook, my friends tell me "you're an awesome aspirant chef!"
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I can do minimum: air water food shelter. But I get grumpy without:
passport, running shoes, friends, family, deep scuba diving, choice. sex and affection. And my bicycle.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
* Serendipity, co-incidence and the "god-damn" particle.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually with friends. Or sometimes, these days, on a date.
If you can explain to me what it means, and teach me to, to "decompress" - please contact me.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I tried to join my local co-op but they couldn't change the constitution and the duty roster to accommodate my frequent and irregular comings and goings. I was gutted. So much for organic.
You should message me if
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something in my profile resonates with you; and if you think we might really really like each other. With chemistry. You're up for traveling to/in Africa. Like me, you're looking for the perfect balance between purpose/work, fun, adventure and love.