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47 M Brooklyn, NY

My Details

Last Online
Jul 22
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Strictly anything
Atheism, and laughing about it
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Gujarati (Okay), Afrikaans (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Eclectic, adventurous and curious. I value purpose and being good in the world, but mostly I'm trying to live a fun and happy life these days. I play nicely. And I love my home-pickled bulleit rye grapes. Red. I try to dance, sometimes with both left feet. To music. I value closeness with special people, especially where there's mutual trust, love and respect. And space for individual pursuits too.

Some of my friends think I'm pretty clever, mainly geeky clever and street smart - I'd prefer to be funnier.
Having travelled a lot (around the world, and the same block sometimes), I think I finally understand the cocktail of empathy, courage and compassion. I try, but don't succeed all the time. The result of having diced with fate often, in an earlier life.
What I’m doing with my life
I do "social impact investing" and work on economic development issues, with real people and communities - mainly in Africa. I teach post graduate classes from time to time. I'm flying solo and am pretty independent in most respects. It would be wonderful to share a part of my life with a like-minded partner.

I live both in New York and Johannesburg. I find that it's the combination of these two very different worlds that contain me best; makes me happiest.

I find fitness, solace and peace of mind in distance running. I also cycle and not so long ago rode a bicycle through the foothills of the Indian Himalayas, from Manali to Leh. I ran the NYC marathon in 2013. Having run an ultra (32-miler) and four full marathons in the last year and a half, I'm running shorter (slightly) faster runs until NYC again this year. I run slow!
I’m really good at
- solving problems (I'm working hard on "just listening")
- Juggling many things at once..... although sometimes things fall.... so I avoid doing it with uncooked eggs.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I enjoy reading non-fiction, especially about contemporary political economy, politics, and global finance issues. Sometimes philosophy. I picked up The Chomsky-Foucault Debate again recently; Marx and Engels out of habit and nostalgia.

I understood the analogies in Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance. One Hundred Years of Solitude still makes me marvel at the tenacity of the human heart. I'm still convinced that an alchemist might actually exist! I like the work of Arundhati Roy, Khaled Hosseini, JM Coetzee, Malcolm Gladwell, Ian McEwan, Haruki Murakami, Milan Kundera, Rohinton Mistry, Paulo Coelho, Nadine Gordimer.

I'm random with music, but admit that I do not understand House, hip hop or rap. Willing to learn and be guided here... I grew up with World Music, and have a love for African music (Salif Keita, Ismael Lo, Youssou N'Dour, Fela (and now son Femi) Kuti).

I LOVE food! And I cook, my friends tell me "you're an awesome aspirant chef!"
The six things I could never do without
without being unhappy:
passport, running shoes, friends, family, deep scuba diving, choice.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
* Serendipity, co-incidence and the "god-damn" particle.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually with friends. Or sometimes, these days, on a date.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
ask me when we meet; ask me again after a few drinks!
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 38–50
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
something in my profile resonates with you; and if you think we might really really like each other. With chemistry. You're traveling to Africa and want a personalised guided tour of Cape Town; or a bodyguard in Joburg.