Find better matches with our advanced matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


32 F Philadelphia, PA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 13
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Working on Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

Similar Users

My self-summary
I just learned the word, contrariety... and it is just awkward enough to use it here. I don't "believe" in black/white thinking, but maybe it's more that I hate committing to one perspective. I tend to make remarks in pairs (as in "i have two questions/ responses/ objections/ praises") and to pre-contextualize a lot of what I say. Having staked a claim against poles, however, I swing back and forth between several kinds of extremes (traveling, staying home; endless chatter, solo reading; family-centered, individualist; populism, elitism; etc. etc.) and am never quite sure where I will find myself, although the older I get, the harder it is to throw over the charm of a well-crafted beer and good conversation (perhaps a bit philosophical with plenty of laughter and a few pop culture references, which I will mostly not get, thrown in) for something more "Exciting."
What I’m doing with my life
I am a new phd English student... So mostly reading and writing and arguing and listening. It's a pretty good life, especially because I believe there need not be a disconnect between "real life" and "real issues" that matter (like social justice) and the study of language, culture and literature.
I’m really good at
smiling, saying awkward things at awkward times, baking rhubarb crumble, reading, not being bored, writing poem/story things, wishing I were writing poem/story things more often because let's face it twice a year is fairly pathetic!, writing in my blog and in my journal, getting over how much I used to hate the word "blog."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I love lots and lots of books, movies, shows, music, and food, and you probably do too. Awesome! Recent favorites include books by Junot Diaz, Penelope Fitzgerald, Michael Chabon, Alison Bechdel, and Elmore Leonard; films by Almodovar; Arrested Development and the webseries "the slope"; Jill Scott, the Staple Singers and the White Stripes; SUSHI!
The six things I could never do without
affection, dialogism, craft beer, words words words.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
books, people, limitations, fears and flaws, the amazing joy my autistic brother brings me, mental disability studies, why the world can seem so obvious and so hard all at once!
On a typical Friday night I am
drinking a beer, watching a movie, reading a book, talking to a friend, or sleeping in my bed!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
maybe this is misguided, but I actually pay attention to match percentage thingies... I mean, it's a computer! it has to know something! right?

I am not concerned about the future (except in the most vague and nebulous way). I think it is a mistake to cling to the hope of stability, whether emotional, financial, or otherwise, and I've been negotiating letting go of those cultural narratives for myself. It's not easy, but the "settle down" paradigm (work, travel, love) is not working out for me, and I'm finally accepting that it's not because there's something missing or wrong with me. "All human relationships end in death:" not just as a fuck off to all the cultural noise a single 32 year old woman gets, directly or indirectly, from family, friends, and the world at large -- I am also sure that there are no guarantees in life. Rather than seeing that as only terrifying (although it is), I am working to see that as liberating and exciting, too.

But honesty is important to me. I'd much rather have someone say "there's something missing" / "I'm just not that into you" than repeat the trope of never calling again.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 30–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
Your profile does not include solo shots of your muscles, torso, or limbs.

You care about something in at least a slightly unironic way...

You like to read!