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33 Philadelphia, PA Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 33–43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
May 23
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Working on Ph.D program
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I am someone who likes words and ideas and dinosaurs. I talk too much. I am overly hard on myself, but more generous with others. I love pitbulls and babies. I do not love chocolate or ice cream. I believe none of those qualities particularly matter, and yet I have included them here anyway. At times I can be difficult, and I can also be easy to be around. I cannot predict which, unfortunately.
What I’m doing with my life
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phding: reading, writing, teaching, panicking, grading, and forming non-sexual crushes on my teachers.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
smiling, saying awkward things at awkward times, baking rhubarb crumble, reading, not being bored, writing poem/story things, wishing I were writing poem/story things, snuggling my nephew, teaching... isn't that enough things to be really good at???
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Recent favorites include books by Junot Diaz, Penelope Fitzgerald, Michael Chabon, Alison Bechdel, and Elmore Leonard; films by Almodovar; Arrested Development and the webseries "the slope"; Jill Scott, the Staple Singers and the White Stripes; I adore Peruvian food, but restaurants rarely live up to my grandmother's cooking... I accidentally cooked a few vegan meals lately, and didn't hate myself for it. I am a committed bacon lover, however.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
affection, dialogism, craft beer, words words words.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
books, people, limitations, fears and flaws, the amazing joy my autistic brother brings me, mental disability studies, why the world can seem so obvious and so hard all at once!

The limits of empathy and the imagination. One day I'd like to be the anti-Dead-Poets-Society teacher...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
drinking a beer, watching a movie, reading a book, talking to a friend, or sleeping in my bed!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Happiness is not something that can be "found." There are no guarantees in life; rather than seeing that as only terrifying (although it is), I am working to see that as liberating and exciting, too.
You should message me if
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You disapprove of "hey nice smile" as an introduction.

You care about something in at least a slightly unironic way...

You like to read!

Your profile does not include solo shots of your muscles, torso, or other limbs. I can't believe I've had to add that, but I have.