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32 F Philadelphia, PA

My Details

Last Online
Aug 25
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Working on Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
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I don't believe in black/white thinking, but maybe it's more that I hate committing to one perspective. I tend to make remarks in pairs (as in "I have two questions/ responses/ objections/ praises") and to pre-contextualize a lot of what I say. That can make following what the hell I'm talking about kind of hard, but sometimes it's worth the struggle! Having staked a claim against poles, however, I admit to swinging back and forth between several kinds of extremes (traveling, staying home; endless chatter, solo reading; family-centered, individualist; populism, elitism; etc. etc.). I am never quite sure where I will find myself, although the older I get, the harder it is to throw over the charm of a well-crafted beer and good conversation (perhaps a bit philosophical with plenty of laughter and a few pop culture references, which I will mostly not get, thrown in) for something more "Exciting."
What I’m doing with my life
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I am a relatively new phd English student... So mostly reading and writing and arguing and listening. It's a pretty good life, especially because I believe there need not be a disconnect between "real life" and "real issues" that matter (like social justice) and the study of language, culture and literature.
I’m really good at
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smiling, saying awkward things at awkward times, baking rhubarb crumble, reading, not being bored, writing poem/story things, wishing I were writing poem/story things more often because let's face it twice a year is fairly pathetic!, rocking my new nephew to sleep
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I love lots and lots of books, movies, shows, music, and food, and you probably do too. Awesome! Recent favorites include books by Junot Diaz, Penelope Fitzgerald, Michael Chabon, Alison Bechdel, and Elmore Leonard; films by Almodovar; Arrested Development and the webseries "the slope"; Jill Scott, the Staple Singers and the White Stripes; SUSHI! I adore Peruvian food, but restaurants rarely live up to my grandmother's cooking...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
affection, dialogism, craft beer, words words words.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
books, people, limitations, fears and flaws, the amazing joy my autistic brother brings me, mental disability studies, why the world can seem so obvious and so hard all at once!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
drinking a beer, watching a movie, reading a book, talking to a friend, or sleeping in my bed!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I am not overly concerned about the future (except in the most vague and nebulous way). I think it is a mistake to cling to the hope of stability, whether emotional, financial, or otherwise, and I've been negotiating letting go of those cultural narratives for myself. It's not easy, but the "settle down" paradigm (in work, in travel, in love) is not working out for me, and I'm finally accepting that it's not because there's something missing or wrong with me. Happiness is not something that can be "found"! I am also sure that there are no guarantees in life; rather than seeing that as only terrifying (although it is), I am working to see that as liberating and exciting, too.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 30–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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Your profile does not include solo shots of your muscles, torso, or limbs.

You care about something in at least a slightly unironic way...

You like to read!