I would really like to say that I am a simple person enjoying life, but that's not quite true. I am a complicated person. Not that I want to be complicated. It's just the way I am, I guess. Quite busy too. And definitely queer. And femme. And polyamorous. You'll have to deal with it. But I am quite enjoying life. :)
And the long version starts here, for people genuinely interested in my "self-summary".
Okay, now, real issue : am I bi or pan? Or queer? Because it is up for debate, at least, for some people.
Let me break it down for you. I don't exactly like labels. But it's hard to function in a world where everything, down to the type of socks you wear, has a label on it. It's hard to go around saying "I don't like labeling myself" without having to define constantly one's identity. Therefore, I have chosen to label myself as queer, bisexual and pansexual, after years of just vaguely answer "I'm into the person, not their gender". I can relate to all three identities, depending of the definition you give them.
The issue of bisexuality vs. pansexuality is real : a lot of people perceive pansexuality as discriminatory, and often transphobic. Indeed, some people describe themselves as pan, meaning that they are attracted to men, women, and trans people. And yes, that view of pansexuality can be considered transphobic, as it marginalizes (again) trans as not proper members of either sex.
This is not my case.
Here is what I mean by pansexuality : I'm attracted to ALL identities, which means both male and female, yes, but also the specter of non-binary identities. For me, these are MANY very different identities, therefore excluding the term "bi", to replace it by "pan", which I find more inclusive in this instance.
You could argue that bisexuality could be about being attracted to binary (which includes both male and female) and non-binary (which includes a wide range of different identities) people, which makes only two different categories, explaining "bi". I wouldn't disagree with you necessarily. This is also one of the reasons why I don't completely reject my identity as a bisexual woman. (Important to note that some people consider themselves bisexual, not in the "standard" understanding of the word; for example, some people who identify as bi could be attracted to female and non-binary).
It is also much easier for people who don't know much about the LGBTQA+ to refer to my sexuality as "bi" than "pan"; though, depending of the context and the person, I usually give the whole speech and explain to them what I just told you.
I also strongly identify as a femme. I embrace my feminity wholeheartedly.
I am a fierce feminist, always wanting to further my understanding of the movement, of its origins, of its definition, and most importantly, of its flaws. I strongly believe in an intersectional feminism that recognizes and validates what women that are not white, middle class, cis-gendered and able bodied live.
ALSO, good to know : I am polyamorous! An identity that I have been flirting with since I came out, actually, and that I now live to the fullest.
FYI, I have a wonderful (mostly straight) man in my life, and we are happily in an open, polyamorous relationship. We would love to become a "trouple" with another girl, one day.
Long intro. If you're still reading, you're on the right track. ;)