I am intelligent, reasonable, and eccentric, an information sponge interested in constant learning. I know how to be present, share, and keep promises as well as secrets. I love good talk, wit, and stories. I won't wear my 'best face' to woo anyone, you just get to meet me as myself; I'd much rather discover if we can like each other honestly and openly, so you can rest assured I'm pretty much exactly what it says on the box. Ask me literally anything. Likewise, I respond well to personality and poorly to cosmetics, and I'll become interested in you as an individual if at all. If you are superficial or a materialist consumer, you may find my company uncomfortable, and if the idea of improving our world resonates with you, we'll have a lot to talk about.
I'm very fond of kissing. I've had thus far in life three staggering kisses which stood well apart from all other the other kisses I've experienced like colour in a black and white film, and each was part of a profound relationship. Some part of me hopes for another lightning bolt. The majority of me would prefer something more relaxed, a simple working friendship or partnership with little drama, good company, and respect for mutual goals. I'd be particularly delighted to encounter a bit of both in the same package.
I also work as a consultant teaching businesses and individuals how to live in a more ecologically sustainable manner. Many of us know that we can't continue the way we're living now, and are willing to make changes, but the majority of what we're encouraged to do in order to 'go green' is trivial. The central preoccupation of my life is aiming at that target more effectively. The good news is that we don't lack any of the knowledge we need to do this right, and sustainability has a lot of up sides. Living more sustainably reduces my expenses, provides more time with my children, and keeps me healthier. I treat our planet with respect and reverence.
Anything that makes me laugh is worth its weight in gold. I am largely self reliant and open to new things. I'm a small business owner with the hectic schedule that implies. I'm also an involved single father; my 14 year old son lives with me pretty much full time. I welcome new people and adventures to make the most of the open parts of my busy schedule.
I think the best partnerships involve two individuals who are whole within themselves and highly communicative, celebrating ways they can enhance each other's lives where they intersect. Friend, collaborator, lover, confidant, backup, partner, sounding board, perceptive perspective, you know - all the good stuff. Saint-Exupéry: "Love does not consist only of gazing at one another but also in looking outward together in the same direction." Let's start with honest communication, find things in common to laugh about, and proceed from there.
Food: I eat a mainly local largely organic low meat diet. Yes, that still gives me the option of throwing caution to the wind and eating ice cream for dinner if I've had a really stressful day, but not regularly. I have a couple of inconvenient food allergies (onions and mushrooms) which were early incentive to learn to cook and enjoy cooking and baking. I avoid genetically modified foods where possible and if you took half an hour of your time to look into why I'm confident you would do the same. I will always choose quality over quantity, so you will find exquisite chocolate or fresh roasted gourmet coffee in my kitchen or none at all. I have over 100 cheesecake recipes and like to experiment with making things from scratch. I love fresh fruit, and anything edible I can grow.
Books: mainly non fiction in recent years, but I've enjoyed tons of fiction as well; I'm normally in the middle more than one book at a time. Science fiction, fantasy, history, contemporary, poetry, ecological themes, anything that I can educate myself about, psychology and thinking, history, science, you name it. Christopher Moore, Harlan Ellison, Robert J Sawyer, Robert Anton Wilson, Tom Robbins, Michael Pollan, Michael Gelb, Edward De Bono, Orson Scott Card, Larry Niven, Neil Gaiman, Umberto Eco, Joseph Campbell, Warren Ellis, the list just goes on and on.
Movies/TV: I am fondest of those that make me think or laugh, , but appreciate examples from every genre. Comedians, please. Documentaries of all kinds: the Corporation, Yes men, Outfoxed. Hayao Miyazaki, M Night Shyamalan, Christopher Nolan, Cohen Brothers. Waking Life, Stomp, Pan's Labyrinth, Baraka, The Princess Bride, Rosencrantz and Guildenstern are Dead, Dogma, Princess Mononoke. Sometimes cheese like Black Dynamite. Oh, and musicals! Dr. Horrible's Sing Along Blog is genuinely meant to be sung to.
Favourite music: whatever I'm singing! If it's melodic, or lyrically interesting, or fun to sing, I'm all over it. Michael Franti, Arrogant Worms, Bing Crosby, Nat King Cole, Blue Oyster Cult, Christine Lavin, Dead Can Dance, Evanescence, Gorillaz, Harry Connick Jr, Jethro Tull, John Lee Hooker, Kate Bush, Leonard Cohen, Neville Brothers, Peter Gabriel, Portishead, Seal, the Waterboys, and a billion others. I like world music, blues, jazz, classical, rock, alternative, comedy, pagan folk, filksongs, stuff that makes people move, political stuff, and more. I almost certainly have music you've never heard of before.
I'd also like to pack six luxuries, though:
wonderful food, laughter, good people, nature, balance, and hope.
No matter how much I may want to find someone to share my personal life, I'd sacrifice my romantic happiness to form functional community in the broader sense because ultimately that's the primary guarantor of both happiness and well being. I remain hopeful that they don't have to be mutually exclusive.
Or is what I'm supposed to confess here that "I own the silliest item of male underwear in existence" or "an irate husband once pointed a pistol at me?"
I don't expect you to be perfect - I would much rather you be genuine, and I appreciate the beauty in your juicy voluptuous jiggle or lithe skinny grace with delight. I am open to meeting all sorts of people and trying any new things. You should also definitely contact me if you have tentacles, or enjoy a bit of eccentricity. I seem to have cornered the market.
Best of luck finding whatever/whoever you are searching for.