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My self-summary
I'm a writer, a cook, an explorer, a steadfast friend, a terrible liar, and a marginally effective flirt. I find comfort in simple things: a well-made meal, a cozy space, a sweeping view from the top of something I climbed, an intimate talk, the warm/sweet burn of a bourbon neat.

I'm fiercely independent, but I value friendship and companionship above almost all else. I'd love to find someone who feels similarly -- who doesn't need to be needed, but very much wants a co-conspirator. I'm good at conspiring.

I'm Midwestern to the core. Also ENFP/INFP depending on the day.
What I’m doing with my life
Starting a new chapter! I've just relocated to the Bay Area after 15 years in Chicago. I'm super excited to be here, and even snagged a job at a food tech startup to help me better blend in with the natives. 😉

Spending a lot of time exploring my new East Bay surroundings, getting together with friends, finding day hikes nearby, and eating all the delicious food.
I’m really good at
- stringing words together
- cooking tasty and/or pretty food
- connecting people
- parallel parking
- killing houseplants

I'm really not very good at:
- sleeping in (although I try valiantly)
- budgeting at the grocery store
- hand-eye coordination
- remaining zen when it comes to Donald Trump
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Current reads: Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay and Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates (I'm on a nonfiction/social commentary kick, but before this it was The Martian, so...yin and yang)

Current shows: Mr. Robot and Downton Abbey (how's that for a pairing?) and I just finished binging the last three seasons of The Wire (yeah, I'm the one idiot who hadn't seen it yet)

Current listening: Serial, Dear Sugar Radio, BOWIE

Current eats: I'm on a healthy cooking streak, but also on a quest for the perfect chocolate chip cookie recipe. Any suggestions?
The six things I could never do without
Morning tea
A sharp chef's knife
Travel in the works
My friend family
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How to not die with regrets.
On a typical Friday night I am
Probably grabbing a quick drink with coworkers or a friend and then heading home to relax. Saturday night is for big plans (although sometimes it's also for cooking myself dinner and staying in. Leisurely cooking is therapy.)
You should message me if
...any of these resonate:

You're kind, genuine, curious, engaged with the world and passionate about something.

You approach the world and other people with humility, while maintaining a quiet self-confidence.

You consider yourself a feminist, and aren't afraid to say so. Hot.

You use the right half of your brain frequently.

You take risks (calculated ones).

You want to explore a new neighborhood, try a hole-in-the-wall ethnic restaurant or get drinks at a swanky hotel bar, go to a talk on a subject we know nothing about or leave the city and get outside.

While I adore the Bay Area, I'm very much still getting to know it, so if you're up for sharing some of your favorites and helping me explore, so much the better!