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33 Oakland, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30-43
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 9:43am
5' 6" (1.68m)
Judaism but it’s not important
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Spanish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a writer, a cook, an explorer, a novice yogi, a steadfast friend, a terrible liar, and a marginally effective flirt. I lived in Chicago for the last 15 years, and I'm now in the Bay Area for a stretch before hopefully moving out here permanently. I'm Midwestern through and through, but feel equally at home in any of the more progressive corners of the country, and pieces of my heart and mind reside permanently in the Finger Lakes region of upstate New York due to many summers' worth of memories.

I find comfort in simple things: a well-made meal, a cozy space, a sweeping view from the top of something I climbed, an intimate talk, the warm/sweet burn of a bourbon neat.

I'm content in the life I've created, but that doesn't stop me from striving to enrich it. I value my independence, and would love to find someone who feels the same way, but also wants a co-conspirator. I'm good at conspiring.
What I’m doing with my life
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Big picture: looking for balance, fulfillment, and new challenges.

Small picture: building a new career from scratch. After 6 years in PR for restaurants and chefs, I decided to get out from behind the computer and get my hands dirty. I went to culinary school, and now I'm a chef myself! I run a freelance business as a culinary creative consultant -- food styling, recipe development, production for TV cooking shows, and freelance writing/editing. I'd love to write cookbooks one day.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- stringing words together
- cooking tasty and/or pretty food
- connecting people
- parallel parking
- ordering the best thing on the menu
- killing houseplants

I'm really not very good at:
- sleeping in (although I try valiantly)
- budgeting at the grocery store
- flip turns (but I'm improving!)
- hand-eye coordination
- technology
The first things people usually notice about me
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I've been told before that I have very nice hands. However, that was before I started working in kitchens...with sharp knives...and hot oil. Now, perhaps you'd notice that I always seem to have bandaids on my hands.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Brain Food: The New Yorker, Bon Appetit, New York Times, Slate, Audrey Niffenegger, Ruth Reichl, Michael Ruhlmann, Michael Pollan, Haruki Murakami, Jeffrey Eugenides, David Sedaris, Zadie Smith

Eye Food: Mind of a Chef, Parts Unknown, House of Cards, Orphan Black, Game of Thrones, Girls, Downton Abbey, The West Wing (always and forever), Last Week Tonight

Audio Food: Near-constant NPR (avowed liberal elitist here); public radio shows like All Things Considered, Morning Edition, Wait Wait, Radiolab, The Moth, Q; podcasts such as Dear Sugar Radio, WTF with Marc Maron, Pop Culture Happy Hour, and Freakonomics; the classics that provided the soundtrack to my childhood (CSNY, The Beatles, The Doors, Grateful Dead, Janis Joplin, etc); also Sleater-Kinney, Lydia Loveless, Grace Potter and the Nocturnals, Alabama Shakes, Bon Iver, Band of Horses, Mumford & Sons, Regina Spektor, Neko Case, Iron & Wine, Florence and the Machine

Food Food: tacos, kale, kimchi, dumplings of all stripes, smoothies, a great burger now and then, good ice cream, good bread and good cheese (because why bother with anything else?), absurd quantities of fresh veggies from the farmers' market
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good coffee
A solitary swim
A sharp chef's knife
Travel in the works
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to not die with regrets.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Eating, drinking and laughing somewhere, even if it's just on my couch with a book or movie. Friends, however, are preferred. :)
You should message me if
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...any of these resonate:

You're kind, genuine, curious, engaged with the world and passionate about something.

You approach the world and other people with humility, while maintaining a quiet self-confidence.

You consider yourself a feminist, and aren't afraid to say so. Hot.

You use the right half of your brain frequently.

You take risks (calculated ones).

You agree that Dunkin Donuts' coffee is blasphemy.

You want to explore a new neighborhood, try a hole-in-the-wall ethnic restaurant or get drinks at a swanky hotel bar, go to a talk on a subject we know nothing about or lounge for hours at a great coffee shop.

While I adore the Bay Area, I'm very much still getting to know it, so if you're up for sharing some of your favorites and helping me explore, so much the better!