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EmilyJoy3

26 F New York, NY

My Details

Last Online
Jan 3
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Atheism
Sign
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Art / Music / Writing
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Pets
Speaks
English, Spanish (Okay)

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My self-summary
I'm not religious or especially spiritual, but I have zeroed in what I try to live by: Kindness, creativity, and honesty.

More specifically: I majored in music at Amherst College, and studied composition, conducting, musicology, and musical theatre; I also sang in/directed an a capella group and various choirs. I adored it there, but I'm glad to be living in a city again, rather than a small town... Amherst, MA is a good place to incubate with your thoughts and passions, but other, necessary types of growth require more space and diversity!

In addition to music, I've dabbled in theater, writing, design, and dance; I try to just explore and enjoy what I'm interested in without being too goal-oriented, competitive or self-censoring. Though I love working toward a goal, I am learning to see my artistic endeavors as less linear, and more about a deep desire to live life creatively.

I spent a semester in Cape Town, South Africa studying and volunteering and it changed my life, so after I graduated I returned there to research youth choirs and volunteer at Cape Town Opera. While I was there, I also started songwriting again and learned a ton about myself and the world... eish, it was amazing! (If you ask me about South Africa, you won't be able to get me to shut up.) Then the past couple months I was back in MA costume designing an opera, which was kind of random but also incredible: very creatively fulfilling, with lots of hard work and great people.

Okay, that's a summary of what I've done, perhaps not who I am... Whatever else, I am very passionate about what I do, and feel things very deeply. I perhaps tend to over-think (and over-feel?) things, but I'm trying to live more in the moment. As I have gotten myself together creatively and intellectually, and feel like I have come into myself as a person, I'm becoming even more interested and invested in other people and relationships. Being a good friend is the most important thing in the world to me, and I am always yearning to know people better and be close to them.

Oh -- I love Buffalo, my hometown. It's an amazing city with a lot of awesome liberal people, great food music and theater, and amazing architecture. It's also got a shitty-ass public education system I hope to help fix some day. And urban exploring!

Also, this "self-summary" is unfortunately not reflecting this at all, but I think I'm sometimes pretty funny. Not as funny as my sister, who has always been HILARIOUS and almost immediately sends me into stitches whenever I go home. But definitely appreciative of humor! I love being silly, most notably by singing songs on nonsense syllables or quoting song lyrics at completely random/appropriate times. Also, despite (or perhaps because of?) my ardent feminism, there is little I enjoy more than a good "that's what s/he said." I always laugh harder than anyone else... but I don't mind. I love to laugh. However, I am increasingly disappointed by the use of humor to deflect, especially on OKCupid profiles (i.e. men who answer "First thing people notice about me" with "my bangin' tits").

But I most love people, learning, and art.

I am passionate, creative, and reflective; I try to be open-hearted and open-minded, soulful and full-bodied.
What I’m doing with my life
I moved to the city almost three years ago to get a Master's in Education at the Bank Street College of Education. The plan was to teach elementary school for a while both here and abroad, and then go back to Buffalo to open a progressive public school for the arts. However, after two years teaching full-time, the existential self-work prompted by solo summer travel, and a deep yearning to return to my creative pursuits, I'm about to make a big turn. I just quit my job! I got a grant to spend the summer in South Africa, leading choir workshops. When I get back, I'm going to try to subsist ony doing things I really want to do: leading choirs, teaching kids dance, and maybe selling my jewelry... All while composing and applying to grad school for music! ...And now, the long-term idea is less a traditional school, and more a sort of fabulous community arts center where we can all teach / learn / create whatever we want.
I’m really good at
hmmm. I am pretty good at... creating communities where people feel safe and supported to sing, talking about my feelings, dancing like a sexy fool, traveling alone, walking around cities, working hard, and taking naps and notes in unlikely places.
The first things people usually notice about me
What a weird question. People remark on my sense of style a lot! And that I'm sassy. For some reason, I really don't like this question, probably because no one is really able to answer it usefully in their profile, myself included.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
books: I love memoirs! Also East of Eden, The Time of Our Singing, City of Light, Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close, A Map of the World, Ragtime, Long Day's Journey Into Night. (I really want to start reading more again now that I have more free time this summer.) Perhaps unfortunately, ever since entering higher education I gravitate towards non-fiction, even for pleasure-reading. Check out "The Social Animal."

music: Ani Difranco, Paul Simon, Joni Mitchell, 10,000 Maniacs, Aimee Mann, Van Morrisson, anything motown, oldies in general, Alanis Morissette, John and Mary, Regina Spektor, Debussy, Copland, Credence Clearwater Revival, the Spinners, Antje Duvekot, Wilco, Barenaked Ladies, musicals, much much more.

food: Indian, Thai, Italian.
The six things I could never do without
music, art, family, CLOSE friends, travel, education.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The nature of personalities and relationships.
How to be my best self.
How music works.
On a typical Friday night I am
Ideally, either:
1) Having an intense discussion / jam session with my best friend.
2) Throwing an impromptu dance party!
3) Relaxing with guilty-pleasure TV after a long day.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
The second time I performed in the Vagina Monologues, I wrote and performed a feminist rap. I was the notorious V. A. G. and my backup singers were the vulvettes.

Oh hell, that's not even really private.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 30–45
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're interested in meaningful, thoughtful interaction - whether just as friends, or otherwise.