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57 M Elgin, IL

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:42am
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Yiddish (Poorly)

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My self-summary

I am intelligent, passionate, polyamorous and Dominant. I am married (in "poly" speak, that would be my committed primary relationship) and My wife knows of my other relationships.

Why am I here? I'm looking for friendship, sparring partners, wild-assed crushes and thinking folks.

I live an open and honest life, but I still believe in discretion and integrity. A very dear friend said to me a while ago "you are one of the most alive people I know". That was just about the nicest thing anyone has said to me.

Yes that is me in my photo. Yes it's old and yes you cannot see my face. If you felt it necessary to comment on these things we probably are not a good match.
What I’m doing with my life
Managing a very successful health care business. Supporting people. Writing. Teaching. Spending time with friends and lovers. Eating (I'm a foodie), drinking (I'm a drinkie). Playing the bass guitar at a very novice level, but I still can rock some! Collecting vintage cars (most 1:8 scale, some 1:24 scale, some 1:1 scale). Growing, enjoying, loving, laughing.
I’m really good at
managing people, managing money, spanking certain people, practicing law, teaching, sexy role play (with certain other people), shooting (I'm a rated competitive shotgunner), driving, parenting.

I can tell a syrah from a cabernet, a double maduro from a colorado, a 20 gauge from a 12, and a hawk from a handsaw.
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes. My beard. My size. But more so, the lovely woman I have on my arm (usually).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Too Too many. Ask me.

The Magnificent Seven and The Godfather (all 3) are at the top of my desert island list.
The six things I could never do without
Recently, Pandora Radio, my new Internet radios and my Cloud music file. I have about 4000 vinyl albums (if you don't know what those are, maybe we should talk!) that I never listen to any more, and I love digital music.

Ooops. that's ONE.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Getting healthy. Staying healthy.
Wild transgressive sex.
Wild transgressive teaching.

Making really good tea.
Applying legal ethics rules to real life.
Cigars. (Bill Cosby: Cigars is vegetables, you know?)
Getting back to my best shooting form.
Bass lines.

Making lots of money and giving away lots of money.
On a typical Friday night I am
Out to dinner with my beloveds. Or resting up from the week past. Or practicing my bass.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
My favorite love song begins "There's a Mexican dead on a power line/He's deader than yesterday's Communion wine."
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you are patient.

If you have a poem you love that you want to share with me, or

If you are any or all of the following: Curious about B/D/S/M, polyamory life or finding your place in this world. If you are (any or all of): interested in health care policy, polyamorous, smart, a good shotgunner, want to teach me some funky bass tricks, want to be a good shotgunner, in need of a chicago-area drinking buddy, submissive or if you like to chat, or

Hell. Just if you want to chat. that might be enough.