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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 28-68
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 12:49pm
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Judaism but it’s not important
Post grad
Has kid(s)
Has dogs and Has cats
English (Fluently), Yiddish (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.

I am intelligent, passionate, polyamorous and Dominant. I am married (in "poly" speak, that would be my committed primary relationship) and My wife knows of my other relationships.

Why am I here? I'm looking for friendship, sparring partners, wild-assed crushes and thinking folks.

THIS IS IMPORTANT: More and more I get very high matches with non-monogamous women who are... how else can I say it... Just MEAN. If you aren't a basically kind person, pass, please.

I live an open and honest life, but I still believe in discretion and integrity. A very dear friend said to me a while ago "you are one of the most alive people I know". That was just about the nicest thing anyone has said to me.

Yes that is me in my photo. Yes it's old and yes you cannot see my face. If you felt it necessary to comment on these things we probably are not a good match.

If you came to me on a Quickmatch, hey, get the full EmperorP experience. Go look at my profile!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Managing a very successful health care business. Supporting people. Writing. Teaching. Spending time with friends and lovers. Eating (I'm a foodie), drinking (I'm a drinkie). Playing the bass guitar at a very novice level, but I still can rock some! Collecting vintage cars (most 1:8 scale, some 1:24 scale, some 1:1 scale). Growing, enjoying, loving, laughing.

Starting a new business of buying and selling collectible art- mostly 20th C prints, paintings and drawings. I might like some help if you have a good eye, want to learn, like 'picking' and can wrangle canvases with me. Big points if you know anything about framing and/or conservation!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
managing people, managing money, spanking certain people, practicing law, teaching, sexy role play (with certain other people), shooting (I'm a rated competitive shotgunner), driving, parenting. I like to laugh and I like to make people laugh.

I punch up, not down. You should too. That is very important.

I can tell a syrah from a cabernet, a double maduro from a colorado, a 20 gauge from a 12, and a hawk from a handsaw.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes. My beard. My size. But more so, the lovely woman I have on my arm (usually).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Too Too many. Ask me.
I read several books a month. All genres pretty much except romance. Oh, and no vampire books.

The Magnificent Seven and The Godfather (all 3) are at the top of my desert island list.

I will miss Jon Stewart, even if I like the new guy. Breaking Bad might have been the best serial storytelling I've ever seen although West Wing still gives chase after all these years.

My taste in music is so broad I don't try to label it. If it's authentic, well played (and well-sung) and compelling I'll listen to it. I pay attention to lyrics and I'm a sucker for clever words. If you don't know who Junior Brown is or why The Bottle Rockets are America's greatest rock n roll band, we might have some catching up to do.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Recently, Pandora Radio, my new Internet radios and my Cloud music file. I have about 4000 vinyl albums (if you don't know what those are, maybe we should talk!) that I never listen to any more, and I love digital music.

Ooops. that's ONE.

Transport I need to move! Recent health issues limit my bicycling so it's usually a green car.

Affection. I'd make a lousy hermit.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Getting healthy. Staying healthy.
Wild transgressive sex.
Wild transgressive teaching.

Making really good tea.
Applying legal ethics rules to real life.
Cigars. (Cigars is vegetables, you know?)
Getting back to my best shooting form.
Bass lines.

Making lots of money and giving away lots of money.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Out to dinner with my beloveds. Or resting up from the week past. Or practicing my bass.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My favorite love song begins "There's a Mexican dead on a power line/He's deader than yesterday's Communion wine."
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you are patient.

If you have a poem you love that you want to share with me, or

If you are any or all of the following: Curious about B/D/S/M, polyamory life or finding your place in this world. If you are (any or all of): interested in health care policy, polyamorous, smart, a good shotgunner, want to teach me some funky bass tricks, want to be a good shotgunner, in need of a chicago-area drinking buddy, submissive or if you like to chat, or

Hell. Just if you want to chat. that might be enough.