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26 M Austin, TX

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:01pm
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Hello. I'm Emrys. (pronounced "em-riss")

I'm seeking a deep emotional connection (as friends) where that friendship could optionally develop into something more within an open or polyamorous context. Some would call this a "queerplatonic" relationship, which I think is now my new favorite word.

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What I’m doing with my life
I've determined that the meaning of life is to find thoughtful worthwhile people in the cosmic infinite, befriend them, and bring joy into their lives. Throughout my life, I've experienced some profound spiritual events (each one a non-religious internal renaissance) that resulted in me becoming 100% certain of my purpose in life. I'm an agnostic atheist ("agnostic" is an adjective) with a "friendly solipsist" philosophic bent. ;D

I have a Bachelors Degree in Computer Science (with a Math minor). I work in Austin doing what I love (game design), and when you love your work, you never work a day in your life. I aspire to become a game design pioneer and master in my specialty.

Although I plan on moving to Austin in the next 1-3 months, I currently live in San Marcos (~30 miles South of Austin). I list myself as living in Austin to get a jumpstart.
I’m really good at
1. Keeping a cool head.
2. Empathizing with someone I'm attempting to comfort.
3. Being decisive when the need is dire.
4. Game design instincts and intuition.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I have really long hair, and that apparently I'm cute (I don't see it, but it does make me blush to hear it).

That said, I'm one of the most empathetic people you'll ever meet. I revel in comforting and showing affection to those around me.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I am not defined by my answers here, I'm enhanced by them. Thus, I'll try to keep my answers to each category short.
Books: Ender's Game series (I respect Orson Scott Card's capacity as an author, but not as a human being), Discworld series, Another Fine Myth series
Movies: The Wizard of Speed and Time, Sleepless in Seattle (really, any movie with Meg Ryan and/or Tom Hanks... except Mazes and Monsters), The Truman Show, anything by Ghibli, anything by Satoshi Kon
Shows: NCIS, House, M*A*S*H, The Daily Show, The Young Turks, Doctor Who (except for the sexist episodes Steven Moffat writes/produces), Law and Order: SVU, Avatar: The Last Airbender, and Star Trek: Voyager.
Music:♪♫♪ atmospheric music, ambient music, orchestral music (all kinds, including single-instrument), videogame OSTs, anime OSTs
Food: My chicken broccoli cheese rice casserole, Milk Chocolate (of all kinds, including chocolate milk), American Buffet, Chinese Buffet, Bacon Cheeseburger, Pizza, ...pretty much anything except seafood.
Anime (excluding movies): Detective Conan (Case Closed), Clannad (et al), Kanon, Pita-Ten, Fullmetal Alchemist, Dennou Coil (Cyber Coil), The Melancholy of Haruhi Suzumiya, Lucky Star, Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex (et al)
Comedians: Gabriel Iglesias, Eddie Izzard, Lewis Black, George Carlin, and Victor Borge (not necessarily in that order).
Games: Chrono Trigger, Shadow of the Colossus, Metroid Prime Trilogy, Secret of Mana, Portal 1 & 2, Terraria, Jamestown, D&D 3.5e, Magic the Gathering, Killer Bunnies... too many to count really. I'm a HUGE gamer (being a game designer for a living does that), so if you have a problem with videogames in general (or would never play them with me, cooperatively or otherwise) then we're not likely to become friends.
The six things I could never do without
Assuming a "deserted island" scenario with an infinite amount of the perishables (like batteries) and givens (like indoor plumbing):
1. A close friend (maybe you could be that friend?).
2. My chicken broccoli cheese rice casserole (it's that good).
3. Videogames, preferably stuff with high or infinite replayability (and cooperative play for item #1 :D ).
4. A large thick blanket with a giant pillow (sleep is awesome).
5. Internet access in some capacity (even if it's just enough to check my email and send emails).
6. A dictaphone (to keep a log of my experiences).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
game design, nerd culture, fencing, battle gaming, anime/manga, spirituality, philosophy, ethics, politics, magic, religion, sexuality, sensuality, videogames, and tabletop RPGs.

Lately, I spend a lot of time thinking about why most of the messages I get seem to be from pervs. I get that I'm marked as interested in casual sex, and I like a hard cock as much as the next guy, but have some bounds of reason. Get to know me first. We'll get around to exploring eachother in due time, so be patient. Also, I spent some time wondering why a significant number of the people that have been viewing my profile lately are devout Christians. Bizarre.
On a typical Friday night I am
At home or with my S.O., but once or twice a month I spend my Friday nights at a kinky play party.

My ideal Friday night is talking into the late hours with someone special about various intellectual topics occasionally interspersed with mutual pleasure. ^_^
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
( an online dating profile)

I'm a cisgender pansexual sapiosexual and I'm on FetLife. :D

Also, despite being in the BDSM community for over a year now, until VERY recently, I was a virgin.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–38
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
Generally-speaking, regardless of what it says in the "looking for" section above, feel free to message me at your whim, especially if you fit any of the following optional criteria:

1. You remember the last thing that made you laugh so hard you nearly cried. (Tell me what it was.)


2. You've answered 200+ of my matching questions, we have a match rating of 80% or more, and we have an enemy rating of 20% or less.


3. You're kinky or curious (even if only remotely) about kink/BDSM. It's always awesome to chat with kinky or kink-curious people, even if we'll never actually play. I'll be happy to point you in the right direction to learn more about the lifestyle. Let's get one thing straight though: We're not having intercourse, at least not until I can get a good read on your personality. No exceptions. Besides, there's a LOT more to sexuality than intercourse.


4. You're coincidentally a bisexual/pansexual woman that's interested in me in for potentially more than friendship. My S.O. is having difficulty meeting other women, and we help eachother in polyamory whenever we can, so (although it's not required) ideally you'd eventually be interested in meeting her as well. Whatever happens then, happens. I can point you to her profile if you wish. (This is definitely NOT a "unicorn" thing or a "threesome" thing unless of-course you explicitly show interest in something like that.)