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27 M Austin, TX

My Details

Last Online
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5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), C++ (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I need a roommate ASAP! $325/month for half of a 750 sqft 2BR 1BA in Northeast Austin. If you're interested, CLICK HERE ( ) to read more! I'll admit, mostly I'm looking for kinky gamers.

Hello! I'm Emrys.

I'm a warm-hearted game designer and kinkster seeking vibrant emotion-driven friendships that optionally might develop into a form of ethical non-monogamy founded upon deep mutual respect. Some would call that a "queerplatonic" relationship, which has become my new favorite word.

My Kik: EmrysTernal

In case you're seeing my profile on Quickmatch and intend to rate me as 4 or 5 stars, please message me from my profile page ( ) before you do!

Links to Recent Laughs:
* Cats React to Viral Videos! ( ) :3
* The funniest "porn" I've ever seen. ( )
* C-3PO pulls a Zoidberg ( )
* This... is... EPIC! ( )
* How I felt when I got out of college. ( )

If you're new to OKCupid:
Bookmark this link, a guide to OKCupid Do's and Don'ts ( ).

What I’m doing with my life
I've determined that the meaning of life is to find thoughtful worthwhile people in the cosmic infinite, befriend them, and bring joy into their lives. Throughout my life, I've experienced a few profound spiritual events (each one a non-religious contemplative renaissance) which have culminated in making me 100% certain of my purpose in life. I'm a "friendly solipsist" variant agnostic atheist. ;D

I have a Bachelors Degree in Computer Science (with a Math minor). I work doing what I love (game design) and when you love your work, you never work a day in your life. I aspire to become a game design pioneer and master in my specialty.

Most of my social life involves the the Austin-area nerd scene and kink/BDSM scene. If either of those two pique your interests, you should probably message me right now.
I’m really good at
1. Keeping a cool head in adversity.
2. Putting my all into each of my passions.
3. Being decisive when the need is dire.
4. Game design instincts and intuition.
The first things people usually notice about me
...that I have really long hair, that I have a beard, and that my eyes are really striking and seem to change color.

Also, apparently I'm adorable when I'm flustered (such as when shown affection). Consequently, people notice that I have dimples. According to one person, in the right circumstances my cutesy demeanor and body language will fall away to reveal a confident and sultry side.

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I'll try to keep each category short to give you an idea of my tastes.
Books: Discworld series (Terry Pratchett), Another Fine Myth series (Robert Asprin), Phule's Company series (Robert Aspirin), Redwall series (Brian Jacques), and the Rats of NIMH series (Robert C. O'Brien and Jane Leslie Conly).
Movies: The Wizard of Speed and Time, Sleepless in Seattle (really, any movie with Meg Ryan and/or Tom Hanks... except Mazes and Monsters), The Truman Show, anything by Ghibli, and anything by Satoshi Kon.
Shows: NCIS, House, M*A*S*H, The Daily Show, The Young Turks, Doctor Who (except for the sexist episodes Steven Moffat writes/produces), Law and Order: SVU, Avatar: The Last Airbender, and Star Trek: Voyager.
Music:♪♫♪ atmospheric music, ambient music, orchestral music (all kinds, including single-instrument), videogame OSTs, and anime OSTs
Food: My chicken broccoli cheese rice casserole, Milk Chocolate (of all kinds, including chocolate milk), American Buffet, Chinese Buffet, Bacon Cheeseburger, Pizza, ...pretty much anything really except seafood.
Anime (excluding movies): Detective Conan (Case Closed), Clannad (et al), Kanon, Pita-Ten, Fullmetal Alchemist, Dennou Coil (Cyber Coil), The Melancholy of Haruhi Suzumiya, Lucky Star, and Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex (et al).
Comedians: Gabriel Iglesias, Eddie Izzard, Lewis Black, George Carlin, and Victor Borge (not necessarily in that order).
Games: Chrono Trigger, Shadow of the Colossus, Metroid Prime Trilogy, Secret of Mana, Portal 1 & 2, Terraria, Jamestown, D&D 3.5e, Magic the Gathering, Killer Bunnies... too many to count really. I'm a HUGE gamer (being a game designer for a living does that), so if you have a problem with videogames in general (or would never play them with me, cooperatively or otherwise) then we're not likely to become friends.
The six things I could never do without
Assuming a "lonely island" scenario with an infinite amount of the perishables (like batteries) and givens (like indoor plumbing):
1. A close friend (maybe you could be that friend?).
2. My recipe for chicken broccoli cheese rice casserole (it's that good).
3. Videogames, preferably stuff with high or infinite replayability (and cooperative play for item #1 :D ).
4. A large thick blanket with a giant pillow (sleep is awesome).
5. Internet access in some capacity (even if it's just enough to check my email and send emails).
6. Some kind of dictaphone (to keep a log of my experiences).

I spend a lot of time thinking about
...lately, how disgusting men are in-general on sites like this. Men on here almost universally respond to rejection like entitled children. Here's a link to some statistics on the matter ( ). I don't pull that crap and I respond to every message I receive by the next day. If I message you and you're not interested, I would appreciate it if you were to respond saying so and why. I won't bite.

Also, I spend a lot of mental effort on
game design, nerd culture, fencing, battle gaming, anime/manga, spirituality, philosophy, ethics, politics, magic, religion, sexuality, sensuality, videogames, and tabletop RPGs... oh man do I think a lot about those. I've been working on this custom campaign setting for D&D for years now that's essentially "What if D&D advanced 3000 years into the future?"
On a typical Friday night I am
I work until late but I have Fridays and Saturdays off, so I'm usually at home or with my S.O. I don't "go to bars" because I don't drink, (although most of the social events I attend are at bars).

My ideal Friday night is talking into the late hours with someone special about various intellectual topics. ^_^ I thrive on opportunities to expound and absorb new ideas.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
( an online dating profile)

I'm cisgender, pansexual, kinky, and very attracted to those with a strong positive "presence".

Although I'm highly-sexed, I'm somewhat disillusioned of PIV sex as it exists in the public sensationalism of it. For me it's all about the emotional intimacy involved as opposed to the physical sensations or power dynamics. If that to you means cuddles, PIV, PIA, strapons, spanking, or whatever, odds are I'll be much more interested (within my limits) if you come at it from a perspective of intimacy.

I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 20–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
Generally-speaking, regardless of what it says in the "looking for" section above, feel free to message me at your whim, especially if you fit any of the following optional criteria:

1. You remember the last thing that made you laugh so hard you nearly cried. (By all means, please tell me what it was!)


2. You've answered 200+ of my matching questions, we have a match rating of 80% or more, and we have an enemy rating of 20% or less.


3. You're kinky or curious (even if only remotely) about kink or BDSM. It's always awesome to chat with kinky or kink-curious people, even if we'll never actually play. I'll be happy to point you in the right direction to learn more about the lifestyle. Let me make one thing abundantly clear though: We're NOT going to have intercourse on the first date. No exceptions. Kinky play and pleasure is another matter, but no intercourse.


4. You're coincidentally a bisexual/pansexual woman that's interested in me in for potentially more than friendship. My S.O. is having difficulty meeting other women, and we help eachother in our open/poly dynamic whenever we can, so (although it's not required, as I'm not necessarily looking for a polyamorous triad) ideally you'd eventually be interested in meeting her as well. Whatever happens then, happens. I can point you to her profile if you wish. (This is definitely NOT a "unicorn" thing or a "threesome" thing unless of-course you explicitly show interest in something like that.)