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  • Ages 30–51
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Last online
Today – 12:02pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Other, but not too serious about it
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from law school
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, Chinese (Poorly)
My self-summary
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Thank you okc world! I'll taking a break for the foreseeable future. So if I don't write you back it's nothing personal.

I was on my way to dinner with a friend at my favorite local joint a few years back when we came upon a few people looking down into a small box in front of the fire station. In the box, a tiny kitten was mewing desperately. It was so young, maybe 10 days, that its eyes had not fully opened. A film remained over the eyes. It was effectively blind. It had dried tar stuck in the fur on one side of its body, with gravel, litter, even a dried out match embedded in the tar. Some dopes thought they could drop off a kitten like this at the fire station, but the firemen were instructed to ignore it so as not to encourage more dopes to drop off their unwanted animals there. So a small group of people were looking down into the box at this pathetic kitten but nobody would touch it.

I picked it up. My friend was stricken with silence as I once snapped the neck of a kitten to put it out of its misery... I'm kidding (bad joke). She loves cats. The kitten quieted with just a little bit of affection. I brought it home, drove around Brooklyn searching for the original Dove dishwashing detergent (which kills fleas but not kittens, according to the inanet). Got the tar out, brought the kitten to a foster parent a few days later, and it was finally adopted, though the adoptive family foolishly rejected the name I gave it (Stokely).

I was cycling early one morning in Prospect Park when a hot pants cyclist yelled at an aimless child crossing the road at the last minute. The cyclist jackknifed in order to avoid the hapless street urchin. He was catapulted through the air, landing on the pavement with his bike landing nearly on top of him. Luckily I had a first aid kit in my pannier. I called upon my old lifeguard skills and treated this iron man competitor. He had no broken bones but he was very rattled. I walked he and his bike bike to his car. He wasn't a bad guy, even though the aesthetic of wearing sponsored lycra outfits just to work out in a city park is highly questionable. I refrained from mentioning that to him.

I try to get out and take advantage of what life has to offer as much as I can. The beach is always at the top of the list, and my location in Brooklyn is ideally suited for impromptu beachin'. Long Beach is my top local choice for surf, but more often I cycle out to the Rockaways. I'm not attracted to the posh lifestyle beaches, but I won't turn down an invite.

I love going to concerts in the parks, films on rooftops, site specific dance pieces, theater in parking lots, art openings, spontaneous dance parties. I also love to get out of the city, hike in the mountains or the desert, scuba dive, ski, look for modern ruins, explore abandoned infrastructure. I was a competitive swimmer, coach, and teacher, so I can help you if you'd like. I will dig into a mellow night at home, bbq out on the deck or order in from this amazing afgan place down the street, catch up on movies or bad TV.

Travel is just great, but as far as I can tell everyone would agree on that (or maybe anyone who doesn't like to travel just keeps quiet about it). For those who it does matter to, I've spent time in Argentina, Brazil, Japan, Mexico, Alaska, UK, Ireland, Belgium, Netherlands, Italy, and France. I'm inclined to be the person exploring rather than just lying out in the sun. I like to get out into the woods. I'm not a nazi about it but I won't opt for all inclusive resort style travel. I've never been on a cruise but I thought the reality TV show "Shipmates," was hilarious. However, it didn't make me want to go on a cruise.
What I’m doing with my life
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I play and produce music. I make music for a dance company based in Brazil, a choreographer here in NYC, a few film makers & one Sesame Street animated short. Now & then I've been on record labels. I DJ on occasion. I'm the drummer in this video:

I'm a lawyer, I work mostly with music folks, new media, designers, and creative start-ups. One of the more fulfilling things I've ever done as a lawyer was help Empty Cages Collective save a goat last summer (no joke here). The goat was found in a cardboard box behind a Bronx apt. building during the heatwave last summer, apparently lifeless & pronounced dead by animal control. ECC rescued her, nursed her back to life, and placed her on a wonderful farm where she now frolics with other goats (I've seen a video). The original negligent owners tried to reclaim her after she was nursed back to health, and animal control supported that claim, but we didn't let that happen. To support Empty Cages Collective's good work:

I have a farm in Ireland where I raise trees as part of a Irish/EU program to capture/sequester greenhouse gases. We planted 20,000 trees on 25 acres of my 45 acre farm in County Roscommon, and they're 6-8 feet tall now. When I inherited it is was a swampy morass. Now it's saving the world!

I volunteer with an organization that teaches music to disabled folks: Daniel's Music Foundation. It's an amazing organization. They do a live show around the holidays and another in the spring. It's inspiring.

I've been roped into performing as a dancer by a cunning choreographer, most recently last summer at Cornell University in a gorgeous opera house.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Dancing, leading pals on bike rides out to Far Rockaway on summer weekends, long haul driving, body surfing, teaching dogs to catch frisbees.

I was told that Jon Spencer showed up alone to see my band once. He allegedly walked into the back of the club, watched for a while, said "cool" out loud, and left. This story sounds made up to me, but I did end up having my drumming sampled by David Holmes, in a James Murphy produced session, with Jon Spencer's vocals over the top (we were never in the studio at the same time, so I didn't meet Spencer).
The first things people usually notice about me
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How can you answer this without exponentially increasing the appearance of narcissistic tendencies?

Well, maybe they notice my narcissism.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Authors: Sam Lipsyte, Junot Diaz, Italo Calvino, Henry Miller, John Fante, Truman Capote, Fitzgerald, Hemingway, Jonathon Ames, David Sedaris, Steven Galloway.

Films: Kurosawa, Wes Anderson, Michel Gondry, David O. Russel, Agnes Varda, Bunuel, Antonioni, Fellini, Hitchcock, Woody Allen, Aiyana Elliott, Bellocchio. "Frank" by Lenny Abrahamson and "Please Stand Clear of the Closing Doors" were my favorite movies this year. "Rhapsody in Blue" recently blew my mind. "Blue is the Warmest Color" was sensational last winter.

Music: Ike & Tina Turner, Marvin Gaye, !!!, Gal Costa, Fela Kuti, Shuggie Otis, Big Star, Ethiopiques, Konono No. 1, Unknown Mortal Orchestra, Tame Impala, Beach Boys, Avi Buffalo, Beck, Os Mutantes, Little Beaver, Javelin, The Fall, ESG, Steely Dan, Miles Davis, Zombies, Beastie Boys, Of Montreal, Sam Prekop, Sly & Family Stone, the Bees, Brian Eno, Can, Amon Duul II, Thin Lizzy, Yes, MGMT, Roxy Music, Cannonball Adderly, Ravi Shankar, Blue Cheer, Miles Davis, Shocking Blue, Dirty Fences.

TV: Walking Dead, The Profit, Shark Tank, The Little Rascals, 30 Rock, Kids in the Hall, Mr. Show, Community, Parks & Rec, Big Bang Theory, Tim & Eric's Awesome Show Good Job, SCTV.

Podcasts: Marc Maron wtf, radiolab, Fresh Air, Serial, Start Up.

Food: Vietnamese on Baxter St., lobster rolls at the Brooklyn Flea, sushi at Taro, coffee & breakfast at Mud, Mexican breakfast at Acapulco.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Bicycle, waves, coffee, NPR, turntable, WFMU
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Who is the publicist for kale?

Why don't people ever bother to indicate which person they are in the group shot? Please keep in mind we haven't met yet, in all likelihood. A little help please.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Ideally I'm home making dinner & watching an old movie. If I'm out, hopefully I'm at a dance party.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm way behind on my television viewing… perhaps a decade. Recently I finished The West Wing. I was so into it I dreamed a final episode, that is actually better than what happened at the end of the series.

Before that it was Felicity. The last 5 episodes were so amazing I wanted to tweet about it but luckily I came to my senses. The thing is, Felicity went back in time because of a magic spell, she switched boyfriends, and some real bad things happened. People died. You gotta see it.

I once received an anonymous text urging me to watch R. Kelly's "Trapped in the Closet." I didn't recognize the number, but thought a friend must have sent it. Rather than ask, I rented the DVD and watched it. I consider that film one of the high water marks of western civilization. Still don't know who sent that text.
You should message me if
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You are smart, gutsy & have an appropriate sense of awe at just being alive. Any one of the following will be viewed as a positive, but nothing here is a prerequisite: you talk to birds and are amused by the antics of squirrels; you like a dog's face but you don't need to wake up with one in bed; you're into some kind of science... as in, you're animated when you speak about it; you play any instrument; you're into modern dance and can show me who's good in NYC these days; you create things: poetry, prose, paint, sculpt, take photos, dance, make movies, performances, home-made preserves, or run around museums & show me your favorite pieces; you have records & a turntable with a decent needle & pair of speakers; you're a really good flashlight tag player & are willing to arrange a party of friends to play in the garden of a haunted estate; you have rocked combat boots at some point in your life; you have opinions that you'll fight for but you don't fight just because you think it's good for a relationship; you own a pair of converse chuck taylors; you're happy with your life/pursuits; you go to art museums, dance, indie film screenings, poetry readings or something even if you don't have a background in that medium; you don't fall in like with things just because your guy or friends do; you are amused by pop culture but not seduced by NYC's celeb culture/events/clubs; you don't pose canoodling with your dog or refer to a dog as "my little [insert cloying diminutive here]"; you have more than one photo, and it's not of a leaf, cocktail, your feet, or a beach you like; you eschew modern txt abbreviations (even "lol" makes me cringe); you don't refer to your tribe or your alma mater in your profile, unless you're still attending or teaching or just back from the kibbutz; you have good enough reading comprehension to remember that this paragraph started with "any of the following will be viewed as a positive, but none is a prerequisite." Actually, if all you did was read that all the way through, I'm very impressed, and I'll admit that yes I can be obnoxious from time to time and perhaps even wrong. Really. I'm actually very easy going but I do love to get a hold of a thread and run with it.