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EnigmaFrTheSoul

39 M Boston, MA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 27–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:06am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Married
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Japanese (Poorly), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Full disclosure : I'm only here looking to get to know new people, expand my social circle, and make some friends. That's it. For most of my life my friends have predominately been women. My profession is also about 85% male, so guy friends exist a plenty. I could probably introduce you to people who are looking for a serious relationship or a casual fling, but that's not what I'm here for. Seriously. Yes, seriously! Apparently that makes me a nigh fictional creature on here. I just don't want there to be any confusion at all, I prefer to be as up front as possible in all things. It just makes life easier.

Also: If I rate you highly but don't reach out, it's because I don't match what you're looking for. Feel free to say hi if I sound interesting, I won't bite.

Now, on with the description! *cue theme music*

I'm most frequently described as solid, passionate, and intense. When I engage, I'm all in. I like to learn new things, try new things, be challenged, and have long conversations about everything. If I don't know about it, I'm interested in it. When I'm passionate about a topic, you'll find me speaking quickly and talking with my hands a lot.

One ideal day involves visiting new places, hiking, rock climbing, gaming, good food, good drink, friendly competition, cooking, and someone interesting to share them all with. Another ideal day is spending the entire day alone in the quiet. Life is all about balance.

Meeting people that can make me think is always interesting. This doesn't mean that you have to be a PhD in something, everyone has something to teach. I highly value intelligence, probably above everything but loyalty. The best friendships and relationships that I've had were all with people where we didn't have to finish th....

I try to do one thing every day that scares me, and I hope one day to be the person that I want to be, rather than the one that I am. Self-improvement is absolutely critical to me, and I try to be as well rounded as possible. This does have the side effect of having a lot of unrelated hobbies. :-)

What hobbies you say? Photography, brewing, tinkering, rock climbing, cooking... These are a few of my favorite things.

Doing things to keep active is also a priority. I rock climb twice a week (and have been doing it for ten years) , walk seven miles a day on average, and would rather be moving than standing still. I'd like to get back into weights and running, but there are only so many hours in a day.

I'm very comfortable with who I am, and because of that I'm fine with whatever you want to be as well. As long as you don't hurt anyone who doesn't want it, do whatever you want and be happy.

Bonus points if you can make me question my points of view or make me actually laugh out loud.
What I’m doing with my life
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Trying to be more than I am today. I'm in a good place career wise and personally, but there's always room for improvement.

I work in the high tech field in Boston, so I'm there most weekdays. I get paid to do what would be my hobby anyhow, which is awesome!

I'm a start up kind of guy, so I'm not happy unless I have a hand in my own destiny.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Almost anything I put my mind to - but keep reading.

If you think you can be good at something, that's most of being there. The rest is repetition and fine tuning.

I don't mean that arrogantly, the mental component is hugely important. Think you're good, and you will be. Think you're bad, and you will be. The mental attitude sets the foundation.
The first things people usually notice about me
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So I originally thought my eyes. They're hazel, so they look like they change color depending on the light and what I'm wearing.

I've been told my smile, so I'm going to go with that.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books are many and varied. I have twelve feet of floor to ceiling bookshelves, and they're full. Technology , fantasy, psychology, cookbooks, do it yourself, philosophy, science fiction, meditation, martial arts, stage illusions, classics. It all has a home with me.

Music is anything but rap and twangy country. Lately I've been listening to a lot of glitch hop. Previously to that, Daughter was on constant playback. I subscribe to all access, and will frequently just pick a something I like and let it play related songs. Pendulum, Enigma, Richard Shindell, Lori McKenna, NIN, Loreena McKennit, Delirium, and anything by Bear McCreary are always favorites.

I cut the cord a whole back, so I don't watch a lot of TV. Shows I've enjoyed through online means: Archer, Arrow, Big Bang Theory, How I Met Your Mother, Firefly, BBC's Sherlock, the Netflix House of Cards, and back episodes of Doctor Who. I will troll Netflix for random things, but nothing else with regularity.

Some all time favorite movies : Big Fish, What Dreams may Come, the latest Batman trilogy, the original Matrix, Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, V for Vendetta, Shutter Island, Army of Darkness, The Avengers.

As for food, I'm a sushi fanatic. I love almost all of it, and could eat it happily every other day. Nom nom nom. I like to cook in general, but specifically Italian or Japanese Hibachi. There's just something comforting about making a multi course meal from scratch and feeding people. I blame my grandmother for that one. :-)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good food
New things to learn
The Internet
Chai
Challenges
Variety
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Why.

Really, that's what it boils down to. Why does it do that? What makes it tick? The drive for knowledge is eternal.

Why did they act that way? Why did I make that choice?

People are fascinating. Choices, preferences, wants, needs. Trying to understand the motivations behind what we all do is enough to keep me interested indefinitely.

Also, why some people have their profile set as looking for new friends but really mean "if dating doesn't work out" :-)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There's really no such thing. The recent past has included:

Wandering around Boston just because.
Staying at home with a book.
Soldering EL wire to an inverter, and sewing it into a sweatshirt.
Brewing honey ginger ale (Beer, not soda).
Full 5 course Italian meal from scratch.
Hosting movie night - It's cold out there!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Almost anything. I'm neither shy nor repressed. I don't make promises to answer every single question, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't ask. One on one sessions only though, I feel no need to broadcast to the world.

For the general public : I listen to podcasts at 3x speed, and it took me about two months to train myself to get there. Now I can't listen to anything at normal speed because it sounds unbeara...b..ly..... S.... lowwwwwww.
You should message me if
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You're unique. You like to think, you like to challenge and be challenged. You don't like it when people tell you what they think you want to hear.

You can perform the social dance with grace, but you'd rather just say what's really on your mind.

You sometimes say things or do things that shock others, but not just for shock value.

You're OK with quiet. You feel no need to fill a comfortable silence.

You'd rather lose a close game than win in a landslide.

You're passionate about something.

You understand the difference between confidence and arrogance.

You enjoy a good discussion/debate.

Something about this has tickled your fancy.

You think you can kick my ass in something.