I'd really like to dance more, run more, do ceramics again, cook more, learn more about beer & wine, write more, see more movies, and walk more.
I am a proudly polyamorous person, and want my relationships to be always open. I like meeting new people, and plan to continue to do it forever. I like polyamory for many reasons, including that I like having sex with multiple people. But probably the biggest reason I am poly is that I am a radical individualist. I like doing different things with different people, having quiet partners and loud ones, being intimate with optimists and pessimists, with fast movers and people who take it slow. I enjoy being introduced to new activities by new people, but I don't end up liking everything, and no-one likes everything I do. And that's a good thing, because it means I get to have a diverse set of friends and partners.
As a more conventional answer to this question, I work early mornings stocking shelves (and moving shelves) for a retail store, and I do volunteer ecological restoration because I love both the hands on work and the native plants and ecosystems.
Figuring out difficult intellectual issues.
It’s probably the most important, most quickly noticed category for person to person interactions in our society. I usually get categorized as female (it's a category that works well for me, and one I've been placed in my entire life). I can tell people usually categorize me as woman because "guys" try very hard to let me go onto the bus first, but sometimes people use male forms of address for me, so I know they are gendering me as male.
I went ahead and took advantage of OkC's new, more diverse set of gender choices. I'm super excited by the fact that OkC finally stopped enforcing the gender binary, so I want to celebrate that diversity. And the options I chose ("Gender Nonconforming" and "Cis Woman") feel quite authentic to me. The old option of "Woman" also feels authentic, but this new choice gives you more information, and I like information! I hope you do, too.
Octavia E. Butler (Parable of the Sower and Parable of the Talents) is by far my favorite fiction author, although I also love Ursula K. LeGuin, and Barbara Kingsolver. I'm currently reading and loving Rebecca Solnit. She writes non-fiction which is extremely literary, interconnected, full of well explained allusions, and fascinating.
My favorite movies include Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, Children of Men, City of God, and Hedwig and the Angry Inch. I'd really like to broaden my viewing of films, to include things that appeal particularly to me. I've always used watching film as a thing to do with other people, and therefore seen films that my friends or SOs were particularly into. I want to start seeing films that are about women, or art, or nature, or polyamory or otherwise interesting to me, but I do want to see them with other people, because I love being able to talk about the film I just saw.
As far as music goes, I like dancing to almost anything with a beat, using background music to help me concentrate, going to concerts of strange modern music, and signing along to anything I grew up with and can remember the words to.
I gave these sections in order of preference. I love food, am deeply interested in reading, like the visuals in movies and often enjoy movies themselves, and am working on developing musical taste.
I also think about the books I've recently read, the news, and whatever people I've talked to recently are interested in.
Lately, I've been thinking quite a bit about kink, gendered expectations of dating, and how they interact. I happen to be sexually submissive, and my kinks line up quite well with most of the gendered expectations our society has about sex. Except for the whole "women don't want sex" idea ... good sex makes me very, very happy, indeed. But I often let my partners initiate sex, I usually want to do what they want to do, and I really enjoy dominant partners. However, I consider my sexuality to be kinky instead of considering it to be gender conforming. And I am certainly not gender conforming in my appearance, or in my behavior outside of the bedroom.
I certainly appreciate women aesthetically, but maybe my sometimes sexual appreciation of women is constructed by the general objectification of women in our society. It also occurs to me that my appreciation for men is strongly supported by society as a whole, and that the fact that men pursue women very much enables my sexual interest in men ('cause being appreciated is sexy). All of that said, I think it makes sense to identify as straight right now. Maybe that won't last, but that's OK, too.
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