I am in a relationship with a wonderful woman whom I deeply love and admire. (Epicurean_Missy) We have long felt that a relationship in the form of two bi-sexual girls and myself would be wonderful. I have to say “would be” because we haven’t tried it yet, and therefore, I cannot say for sure.
I detest “unicorn hunters” and truly hope that you won’t consider me one of them. I have deep respect for women and can’t stand these married couples with kids who pretend that they are looking for a polyamorous relationship when they really just want to fulfill the need to stray sexually but cannot leave their pre-conceived notions of monogamy behind. They usually can’t even trust each other enough to allow for one to have sex without the other being present. And since they are married, they have legal rights to one another, but what about their new girlfriend (or whatever you call her)? She has no rights and is therefore more like a concubine--a second class wife--to the other two. I could never do that to anyone; I respect people too much.
Missy and I are very committed to our lives together but we aren’t married and refuse to become so. We don’t believe that the government should treat people differently because of their marital status but that isn’t the main reason that we won’t get married. The reason is that we want an equal tri-amorous relationship. There are three chairs at our table. We have left room for another person in our lives. We don’t demand or expect anything, but we have left the possibility open. It will happen or not. ;-)
*My View on Relationships
I view every relationship as unique. Every relationship is different and has many unexpected turns, which makes life interesting and keeps us learning and growing. Each relationship will grow at it’s own pace. Some grow quickly, some grow slowly and some will wither away. I don’t believe in rules but we all have some boundaries. In order for a relationship to work out there must be trust, openness and honesty. I think that a relationship’s growth and viability is proportional to those three things. Once those things are sorted out, it’s all about exploring and growing through life’s twists and turns together, and what a wonderful experience that is!
Missy and I wouldn’t label our relationship or officially commit to one another until something like two years after we had been living together. We don’t expect anything from a new friend except honesty.