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34 Los Angeles, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 21–41
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Dec 16
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of two-year college
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Dislikes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Esperanto (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I am a bohemian and an autodidact. At the moment, I am learning how to make and finish furniture and how to design and apply gold leaf. If Santa is good to me, I will learn to design and apply tattoos next. :-) I am interested in learning languages but haven't found anyone to practice with. When I feel motivated again I will pick up French or Esperanto. I really would like to be fluent in at least a few languages.

My personal philosophy includes Epicurean Hedonism, New Thought, and Science (the scientific method) with a healthy dose of fallibilism. ;-) I am a skeptic but I am always happy to theorize and fantasize. And although I often feel misanthropic I am a humanist. And of course, along with huminasm comes a strong respect for human rights. Dictators, fascists and any who would oppress another human are on my personal mortal enemies list.

I am in a relationship with a wonderful woman whom I deeply love and admire. (Epicurean_Missy) We have been together for many years but aren't married and don't have any plans to get married in the future. We feel that marriage is much more about control and ownership than about love and mutual respect. If you really love someone, you won't cage them. We know that we are together because we both choose to be, because we are happy together, and not because we are in any way obligated to keep the status quo. Our relationship is open but we have only strayed a handful of times in the last near decade that we've been together. Missy is bisexual and had a girlfriend for a while a few years ago. We really like the idea of a triad but don't feel like it's something that we can or should "make" happen. We'll just put our desires out there and see what the fates have in mind for us. ;-) After all, we found each other quite by coincidence.

We recently moved to Los Angeles after living in Orange County and Utah. We have gypsy-ed around quite a bit in the last several years but it looks like we're going to be settling here for while. Now we get the pleasure of meeting new people and making new friends. ^_^

If you'd like to troll for more about me, feel free to spy on my latest photos on instagram: @iwneferi
What I’m doing with my life
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Basically, being creative and philosophical while trying to figure out where I fit into things. More specifically, being a bohemian craftsman. Currently, I'm working on furnishing and decorating our new apartment with as much repurposed material as I can, i.e. building and rebuilding furniture. I'm trying to make it cozy and homey with a kind of shabby-chic style that is also well suited to my craftsman needs. It's a bit of a challenge but I love designing new homes!
I’m really good at
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Being bohemian. Finding treasures at secondhand shops. Turning some of those treasure and other discarded materials into art/jewelrylighting. Reinventing things. Tinkering, especially with old electrical and mechanical things. Interior design (not the best at color theory though). Listening. Throwing parties, especially dinner parties. Training cats.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My fedora: I rarely leave the house without one. Sometimes, my black nail polish.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I have great respect for books, for their ability to teach, and their ability to lead you to thoughts, emotions, and perspectives you may not have otherwise experienced. Unfortunately, I'm dyslexic and have difficulty reading so I haven't read nearly as much as I would like to have. :-\ Some books that I have enjoyed are: On Bullshit, The Abuse of Evil, The Secrets of Happiness, Awareness, The Alchemist, Tricks of the Mind, Outliers, Blink, Ender's Game, The Count of Monte Cristo, Dracula, The Freedom Manifesto. Most recently I read David and Goliath... by Malcolm Gladwell, which helped me realize how much I've been in denial about having dyslexia.

Movies: I love to watch movies, but my favorites are few and far between. I like seeing new movies much more than rewatching old favorites. For me, it's all about that "wow factor". Something has to have made me think. It has to make me see the world differently than I did before.

Some random favorites are: V for Vendetta, The Usual Suspects, The Butterfly Effect, Fight Club, SLC Punk, The Count of Monte Cristo, Flawless, The Island, Addams Family (+Values), Seeking a Friend For The End Of The World.

Shows: Star Trek (most of them), Firefly, Simpsons, That 70's Show, Better Off Ted, Broad City, Archer.

Music: I love LOTS of music. Music is such a big and important part of life! It can enhance or change your mood. It can elicit thought and creativity. I like at least a little bit of pretty much all genres of music, but I LOVE Jazz!

Food: I love good food! Especially dishes with a healthy balance of produce and protein. I try to keep my consumption of red meat to a minimum.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good food
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Where humanity is going as a whole, large scale behavioral patterns, and the next stage of human evolution.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either enjoying life with friends or doing the types of things I'm inclined to do on any other given night of the week. Being a Bohemian means that I am not limited to only have fun on the weekends. ;-)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a vampire. But not one who has been bitten and turned. No. I was born this way. Some of my earliest memories are of the calmness of my neighborhood as I stared out of my bedroom window at the world outside transformed by darkness. Or of playing in the sandbox in our backyard under the indirect light from the nearby baseball field until the last stragglers had gone home and the lights went out.

Of course, I'm not a real vampire. ~_^ I am just being dramatic for fun. I don't drink blood or have super powers or anything cool like that but I am a lifelong night dweller. It's a sleep disorder called, delayed sleep phase (DSP).
You should message me if
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The idea of making friends on the Internet has always appealed to me, although I've never done it. I guess it just seems adventurous to make a new friend that you don't know through any particular social connection; to perhaps find a kindred spirit to connect with among the nameless crowds that we are constantly surrounded by and part of.

All I want is to make some new friends and let those friendships take whatever course they will.

If anything you have read here has piqued your interest or curiousoty, send me a message. ;-) ~W~