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  • Ages 21–41
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My details

Last online
Jul 4
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Virgo, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of two-year college
Art / Music / Writing
Open relationship
Mostly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Dislikes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Poorly), Esperanto (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I am a bohemian and an autodidact. In other words, I like to be artistic and learn things. My artistry has primarily involved creating furniture, lighting, and jewelry. Although, I have been really enjoying amateur photography lately as well.

I would like to learn to speak French or Esperanto but it's hard to feel motivated without anyone to practice with. I really would like to be fluent in at least a few languages.

I try to pratice Epicurean Hedonism, that is to say, seeking out pleasure but with an eye towards balance. "Send me a [slice] of cheese that I might have a feast." ~Epicurus It's about enjoying everything in just the right measure. ;-)

Although I often feel misanthropic, I am a humanist. And have a strong respect for human rights. Dictators, fascists and any who would oppress another human are at the top of my personal mortal enemies list.

I am in a relationship with a wonderful woman whom I love and admire. We have been together for many years but aren't married and don't have any plans to get married in the future. We feel that relationships should be private affairs not subject to governmental interference. Living without a marriage contract means that we know that we are together because we both choose to be, because we are happy together, and not because we are in any way obliged to keep the status quo.

I should hope that it is obvious by now that I am in an open relationship. I have many reasons to live this sort of lifestyle but it really just boiles down to a bit of spirituality and a bit of logic. I love my little bird and simply couldn't stand to see her caged. Wild things must be free. As for the logic, we just don't feel that we are ready (and may never be) to have children and a family of our own. But two people cannot live life alone no matter how close they are. People need to interact on a larger scale. We are simply built this way. And so here I am, seeking friendships of various kinds and depths. I don't know what I might find but I am curious to find out.

If you'd like to troll for more about me, feel free to spy on my latest photos on instagram: @iwneferi
What I’m doing with my life
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Being creative and philosophical while trying to figure out where I fit into things. More specifically, being a bohemian craftsman. Currently, I'm working on furnishing and decorating my apartment with as much repurposed material as I can, i.e. building and rebuilding furniture. I'm trying to make it cozy and homey with a kind of shabby-chic style that is also well suited to my craftsman needs. It's a bit of a challenge but I love it!
I’m really good at
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Being bohemian. Finding treasures at secondhand shops. Turning some of those treasure and other discarded materials into art/jewelrylighting. Reinventing things. Tinkering, especially with old electrical and mechanical things. Interior design (not the best at color theory though). Listening. Throwing parties, especially dinner parties. Training cats.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My fedora: I rarely leave the house without one. Sometimes, my nail polish. I've just been in the mood for painted nails lately. *shrug*
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: I have great respect for books, for their ability to teach, and their ability to lead you to thoughts, emotions, and perspectives you may not have otherwise experienced. Unfortunately, I'm dyslexic and have difficulty reading so I haven't read nearly as much as I would like to have.

Some books that I have enjoyed are: On Bullshit, The Abuse of Evil, The Secrets of Happiness, Awareness, The Alchemist, Tricks of the Mind, Outliers, Blink, Ender's Game, The Count of Monte Cristo, Dracula. I am currently reading The Freedom Manifesto and Free Culture.

Movies: I love to watch movies, but my favorites are few and far between. I like seeing new movies much more than rewatching old favorites. For me, it's all about that "wow factor." Something has to have made me think. It has to make me see the world differently than I did before.

Some random favorites are: V for Vendetta, The Usual Suspects, The Butterfly Effect, Fight Club, SLC Punk, The Count of Monte Cristo, Flawless, The Island, Addams Family (+Values), Oscar, Seeking a Friend For The End Of The World Ex Mahina.

Shows: Star Trek (most of them), Firefly, Simpsons, That 70's Show, Better Off Ted, Broad City, Archer.

Music: I love LOTS of music. Music is such a big and important part of life! It can enhance or change your mood. It can elicit thought and creativity. I like at least a little bit of all genres of music, but I LOVE Jazz!

Food: I love good food! (what hedonist wouldn't?) Lately I have been trying to reduce my consumption of animal products but I am still an omnivore. As with everything in life, It's all about the right ballane. ;-)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Good food
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The nature and direction of humanity, the nature and meaning of life, and an infinite number of whys and what of its.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either enjoying life with friends or doing the types of things I'm inclined to do on any other given night. Being a Bohemian means that I am not limited to only having fun on weekends. ;-)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm a vampire. But not one who has been bitten and turned. No. I was born this way. Some of my earliest memories are of the calmness of my neighborhood as I stared out of my bedroom window at the world outside transformed by darkness. Or of playing in the sandbox in our backyard under the indirect light from the nearby baseball field until the last stragglers had gone home and the lights went out.

Of course, I'm not a real vampire. ~_^ I am just being dramatic for fun. I don't drink blood or have super powers or anything cool like that but I am a lifelong night dweller. It's a sleep disorder called, delayed sleep phase (DSP).
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The idea of making friends on the Internet has always appealed to me, although I've never done it. I guess it just seems adventurous to make a new friend that you don't know through any particular social connection; to perhaps find a kindred spirit to connect with among the nameless crowds that we are constantly surrounded by and part of.

All I want is to make some new friends and let those friendships take whatever course they will.

If anything you have read here has piqued your interest or curiousoty, or if you might like to go for a simple hike, a picnic, for coffee or any other simple adventure, send me a message. ;-) ~W~