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32 M Germantown, MD

My Details

Last Online
Apr 15
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Not at all
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), German (Poorly), Greek (Poorly), C++ (Poorly)

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My self-summary
In a crowd, I either stand out or am invisible, depending on your point of view. I like to read books while eating lunch alone in restaurants. I enjoy playing board games in cafés that have more seating room than customers. I listen to podcasts on the metro and write in my journal whenever I visit DC. When I’m with friends, I love to debate and discuss whatever topic is at hand; when I’m surrounded by strangers, I mostly just listen to what others have to say.

In essence, I’m a somewhat shy philosopher who wants more than anything else to help make the world a better place.
What I’m doing with my life
I have dedicated my life to the cause of effective altruism. At the moment, this consists of working at a well-known effective altruism organization, though I also do a limited amount of earning to give through consulting work on the side.

My long term goal is to do the most awesome things I can do that will most positively affect us all.
I’m really good at
Communicating technical information to a lay audience. I earn my living through communications strategy consultation; in effect, I get paid to communicate how to communicate effectively to communications departments. I’m rather proud of how meta my career choice is.
The first things people usually notice about me
The first thing people usually notice about me is how quiet I am. But that’s only because I tend to be quiet when I’m surrounded by strangers (a.k.a. the population of people-who-can-first-notice-things-about-me).

Once we get past the strangers stage, the most prominent thing people notice is my tendency to debate. I also sometimes get comments on my state of dress, if it happens to be one of the days I wear a kilt.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I won’t bore you with an overly long list, so I’ll instead just name one or two of my favorites from each category. Keep in mind that these are not necessarily my absolute favorites; they are just good examples of the kinds of things I really enjoy.

HPMOR, A People’s History of the United States, Adaptation, Arrested Development, Firefly, Birdland, Tocatta & Fugue in d minor.

I should also note that I am vegetarian here, since I’m supposed to list my favorite foods.

If you want more detail, feel free to browse my accounts on, or you can see blog entries on my favorite podcasts, my favorite tv shows, or my ‘likes’ on Facebook.
The six things I could never do without
My bag, which holds everything I need each day. My pen & journal, with which I record most of everything I care about. My tablet, which gives direct access to almost all the information we’ve gathered as a species, including my e-book collection. My laptop, which lets me access the same stuff as my tablet, but in a larger format. My phone, which also gives me access, but in a smaller format. My travel tissues, which seems incidental, but is actually the one thing that you will be most grateful for when an emergency comes and you happen to need it.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
…R---'s B------k and other low-probability high-impact Pascal's mugging scenarios, especially ones involving acausal trade w/ uFAI.

…finding a coherent metaethical theory that allows specific consistent normative claims. Solving this problem might be the most important thing we can do as a species, if you ascribe to the necessity of friendly AI.

…analyses of possibly highly effective interventions that nonprofits could use to bring about more total utility. (Note that this is also my day job.)

…whatever content I'm currently consuming (e.g.: podcasts, videogames, fiction, nonfiction, fanfiction, tv shows, movies, &c.).

On a typical Friday night I am
Reading. Or writing. Or maybe playing a video game. I don't really schedule out these things. Sometimes I work pretty late, too.

But probably I'm just watching a TED video. Or on reddit. Or less wrong. Or whatever. Check if you really care.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I was younger, I had opinions and did things that I now consider quite abhorrent. The politics, ethics, and general personality of my past self is not something I’m proud of.

If you want to know more, feel free to google me; as far as I know, I’m the only "Eric Herboso" on the web. Just keep in mind that I’ve used my name publicly online since I was thirteen, and some of what I posted online way back when will not properly reflect who I am as a person today.

You can also see more on,, lesswrong/u/EricHerboso,, or
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–50
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
I’m a strong believer in both openness and honesty, so I feel I should bring up a few things that might affect your decision on whether to message me. Keep in mind that I’m open to friendship with anyone who writes, but if you’re solely interested in a romantic relationship, then you’ll want to read through the following.

I’m polyamorous, and am currently involved romantically. I’m heteroromantic with asexual tendencies. I’m a skeptic and a rationalist, and am not interested in pseudoscience at all. I give a nontrivial amount of my earnings to effective altruism causes, and to do this, I actively avoid large expenses like raising children or living in a large home.

If, after reading all that, you’re still wondering whether you should message me, then go ahead and message me! After all, what’s the worst that could happen? (c:

Oh, and even if we wouldn’t work romantically, I’d still love to hear from you if you’re in the general area and would like to get together for a friendly board game or two. All ages, races, cultures, sizes, and species should feel encouraged to get in touch with me. (c;