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33 M Germantown, MD

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Last Online
Today – 9:17am
Hispanic / Latin, White
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Not at all
Atheism, and very serious about it
Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
Working on masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly), German (Poorly), Greek (Poorly), C++ (Poorly)

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My self-summary
In a crowd, I either stand out or am invisible, depending on your point of view. I like to read books while eating lunch alone in restaurants. I enjoy playing board games with friends in cafés that have more seating room than customers. I listen to podcasts on the metro and write in my journal whenever I visit DC. When I’m with friends, I love to debate and discuss whatever topic is at hand; when I’m surrounded by strangers, I mostly just listen to what others have to say.

In essence, I’m a somewhat shy philosopher who wants more than anything else to help make the world a better place.
What I’m doing with my life
I have dedicated my life to the cause of effective altruism. At the moment, this consists of working at a well-known effective altruism organization, though I also do a limited amount of earning to give through consulting work on the side.

My long term goal is to do the most awesome things I can do that will most positively affect us all.
I’m really good at
Communicating technical information to a lay audience. I earn my living through communications strategy consultation; in effect, I get paid to communicate how to communicate effectively to communications departments. I’m rather proud of how meta my career choice is.
The first things people usually notice about me
The first thing people usually notice about me is how quiet I am. But that’s only because I tend to be quiet when I’m surrounded by strangers (a.k.a. the population of people-who-can-first-notice-things-about-me).

Once we get past the strangers stage, the most prominent thing people notice is my tendency to debate. I also sometimes get comments on my state of dress, if it happens to be one of the days I wear a kilt.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I won’t bore you with an overly long list, so I’ll instead just name one or two of my favorites from each category. Keep in mind that these are not necessarily my absolute favorites; they are just good examples of the kinds of things I really enjoy.

HPMOR, A People’s History of the United States, Adaptation, Arrested Development, Firefly, Birdland, Tocatta & Fugue in d minor.

I should also note that I am vegetarian here, since I’m supposed to list my favorite foods.

If you want more detail, feel free to browse my accounts on, or you can see blog entries on my favorite podcasts, my favorite tv shows, or my ‘likes’ on Facebook.
The six things I could never do without
My bag, which I use nearly every day. My (admittedly overpriced) pen, with which I record most of everything I care about in my journal. My laptop/tablet/phone's internet access, which allows me to access nearly all the information we’ve gathered as a species. My headphones, which allow me to unwind, whether through music, podcasts, or gaming. And my guiltiest pleasure: high-quality bedding, without which I honestly sleep fitfully.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
…R---'s B------k and other low-probability high-impact Pascal's mugging scenarios, especially ones involving acausal trade w/ uFAI.

…finding a coherent metaethical theory that allows specific consistent normative claims. Solving this problem might be the most important thing we can do as a species, if you ascribe to the necessity of friendly AI.

…analyses of possibly highly effective interventions that nonprofits could use to bring about more total utility. (Note that this is also my day job.)

…whatever content I'm currently consuming (e.g.: podcasts, videogames, fiction, nonfiction, fanfiction, tv shows, movies, &c.).


…whether I should have put in something more relatable in this section of my profile.
On a typical Friday night I am
Reading. Or writing. Or maybe playing a video game. I don't really schedule out these things. Sometimes I work pretty late, too.

But probably I'm just listening to a coursera lecture, or posting in the EA facebook group. Or on reddit. Or less wrong. Or whatever. Check if you really care.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
When I was younger, I had opinions and did things that I now consider quite abhorrent. The politics, ethics, and general personality of my past self is not something I’m proud of.

If you want to know more, feel free to google me; as far as I know, I’m the only "Eric Herboso" on the web. Just keep in mind that I’ve used my name publicly online since I was thirteen, and some of what I posted online way back when will not properly reflect who I am as a person today.

You can also see more on,, lesswrong/u/EricHerboso,, or
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 18–50
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
I’m a strong believer in radical honesty, so I feel I should bring up a few things that might affect your decision on whether to message me. Keep in mind that I’m open to friendship with anyone who writes, but if you’re solely interested in a romantic relationship, then you’ll want to read through the following.

As an effective altruist, I earn to give. This means I generally spend much less than others in my income bracket and it definitely shows in my lifestyle.

I have no particular desire to ever raise children. I'm not opposed to the idea itself, but I'm not attracted to it either, and considering the large costs associated with it, I'm fairly certain that raising children just isn't something I'll ever do.

I'm philosophically polyamorous. I'm equally comfortable being in a relationship with zero, one, or more people. Monogamous relationships don't scare me, but neither do non-monogamous ones.

I have asexual tendencies; while I enjoy sex, it isn't particularly important to me. I'm usually not the one to initiate sex in relationships.

A common misconception is that most asexuals are also aromantic; this is not the case with me. I enjoy physical closeness and romance in relationships.

Finally, I’m a skeptic and a rationalist. While I appreciate good fiction, I don't get along well with people who endorse beliefs uncritically. If you're into ghosts, bigfoot, or the anti-vaccine movement, we probably aren't going to click.

If, after reading all that, you’re still wondering whether you should message me, then go ahead and message me! After all, what’s the worst that could happen? (c:

Oh, and even if we wouldn’t work romantically, I'd still love to hear from you if you think we might work out on a friendship basis. My social circles revolve around effective altruism, board games, video games, and philosophy. If you're interested in playing quality board games, joining a philosophy book club, or competing in Mario Kart/Smash Bros., then you may be just the kind of person I'm looking for.

All ages, races, cultures, sizes, and species should feel encouraged to get in touch with me. (c;