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ErikSF

64 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Jul 24
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Mostly vegan
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Medicine
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
Seeking mutual stimulation--intellectual, emotional,
spiritual, and creative (aside from the obvious ;-)

Not into instant hook-ups--I love sex as much as the
next guy, but I like to get to know someone first.
Assuming there's some initial attraction, I want to
connect with our hearts and minds, and then the rest
will likely follow . . .

Part of what gets me going is someone who is smart,
articulate, and friendly.
We're both (you and I) socially conscious and considerate of others, enjoy irreverence and humor, engaging our minds as well as our bodies!

Self-awareness and open communication are more
important to me than sharing all the same interests,
although I'm also looking for a basic compatibility in
lifestyle and values--like honesty, most likely monogamy,
and the willingness to deal openly with differences.

Me: brown hair, blue-green eyes, German/English
background, cleanshaven, 5'9", light body hair,
fair complexion, healthy lifestyle, work out regularly
with a slender build.
What I’m doing with my life
I work in social services, and also spend a good amount of time on various writing and web projects (both fiction and nonfiction).

I've been involved with a study/practice group for a style of meditation I can tell you more about if interested, but fairly eclectic and not into dogma or rigid religious beliefs.

Once in a while, I like to immerse myself in other worlds, even if they're outside my usual range of comfort (or competence!). Especially with some element of mindfulness or creative expression~

This past year, I went to a software workshop for my website; took bread baking, Thai, and vegan cooking classes; played in some singing, song-writing, and improv workshops; attended a Magic convention, a gay summer camp, massage practice, and went to a Buddhist meditation retreat.
I’m really good at
Listening, trying to understand the other person's point of view--
but I'm also pretty good at making a case for my own interests~

plus I make a mean vegan cookie (and home-made ice cream!)
The first things people usually notice about me
Kinda quiet, though I can also be friendly with a quirky sense of humor once I get to know you--

Leading a healthful lifestyle is important to me: regular exercise, eating well, and getting plenty of sleep--
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Enjoy multi-cultural events--I've lived in Europe,
speak some German, studied Spanish while staying with
a family in Guatemala, went to grad school in Hawaii.

Other interests: outdoors--hiking, biking, and
camping/backpacking; swimming/snorkling; arts,
psychology, and meditation; writing and occasional
performing; tend more toward independent films
and plays; occasional music is great, but prefer
that it not be on all the time; enjoy travel and friends.

As you might have guessed, I tend toward vegan, but
you don't have to~
The six things I could never do without
cooking, for myself and with friends
outdoors (hiking, biking, swimming, occasional camping)
mindfulness (otherwise I tend to bump into things ;-)
a sense of humor
my pals
a good book
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Fun, healthy, and yumalicious things to cook~

Progressive politics--not really involved all that much, but
I definitely pay attention to a lot of what's going on.

How to be more mindful in this busy world!
Creative activities of one sort or another~
Making plans, but also letting life unfold in a natural way--
how to be content, enjoy living in the present moment, and connections with others--especially that one special guy!
On a typical Friday night I am
catching up with myself, unless I'm dating someone, then I hope we'll be getting together, or on our way to some adventure ~
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
stays private until I get to know you ;-)
I’m looking for
  • Gay guys only
  • Ages 37–62
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
I'd like to find a youthful companion (in age or spirit!) who has a healthy and active lifestyle, is emotionally available, with a keen mind and a kind heart.

I know these things are a shot in the dark--and I understand many of us don't have enough time in the day to respond to every reply--

So hit me up if you resonate with some of what I've said, have similar values/lifestyle, and you'd like to explore further!