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Erissama

43 F Pittsburgh, PA

My Details

Last Online
Mar 17
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and very serious about it
Sign
Capricorn, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Here are some things that matter to me: Books and magazines -- I tend to prefer fantasy and science fiction, but I've certainly been known to read other things, such as medieval and Renaissance era history. I can tell fortunes with tarot cards and have been told that I'm uncannily good at it. I love cats, esp. my kitty, Meru. (I wanted him to have a name a cat could say.) As far as religion goes, I identify as Wiccan or pagan, but I'm perfectly open to being friends with/dating someone with another belief system. I'm totally crazy about Xena, to the point that I used to wear a replica of Gabrielle's necklace every day.

I am honorable, intelligent, and generous

Through recent life experiences, I've had my polyamorous soul reaffirmed. By the gods, my orientation is poly! That being said, the poly family/tribe/relationship I really want and need has eluded me, thus far. At the moment, I'm interested in meeting two types of people.
1) Women. With women, I'm up for nearly anything from friendship to casual dating to lifelong relationships. What I emphatically do *not* want, however, is to do anything with you for your boyfriend or husband's sexual pleasure. Yuck.
2) People of any gender who are in happy, functioning poly families that are looking to add more family members. I want to alternate going on dates with each member of the group and socializing with the family as a whole.
What I’m doing with my life
Trying very hard to juggle my day job as a librarian with being serious about writing. My first book was published and I'm working on following it up.
I’m really good at
Writing -- I have gotten a book published, and several magazines carry my work. I have something in Faerie Magazine pretty regularly.

Telling fortunes with tarot cards -- as I mentioned above, lots of people have told me that I'm uncannily accurate with my predictions.
The first things people usually notice about me
If they notice me at all (I'm shy!), they sometimes see that I have really odd and interesting silver jewelry. A lot of fantasy themes, (dragons, fairies), written words and stuff related to my spirituality.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books -- Fionavar Tapestry, Inkheart, Harry Potter

Movies -- Real Genius, Pillow Book, Boxing Helena, Drowning by Numbers, Trekkies, Committed, Stardust, Secret of Kells, The Wild Hunt

Music -- Loreena McKennitt, The Cure, Rusted Root, Mediaeval Baebes, Blink 182, The Donnas

Foods -- Ice cream! Anything sweet and/or salty
The six things I could never do without
Books -- I need books only slightly less than I need oxygen. I've always got a few going at a time and have to carry a huge bag with me everywhere, so I can fit a book or two in it.

Cats -- my fuzzy lifemates! I've always refused to date anyone that is severely cat allergic enough that they would want me not to have any if he/she lived with me. Sorry -- the cats are not negotiable! I don't have any children, but I think I would give up a child for adoption if he/she couldn't be in the same house with cats.

Tarot cards -- I love telling fortunes, both my own and other people's. Besides, I'm shy, and it's a great way to get people to interact with me. You have to talk to me if you want your fortune told!

Tea -- Ah yes, the ideal beverage. It's fantastic in all its forms -- black, green, or white, hot or cold. I would probably have sided with the English during the Revolutionary War if they threatened to take tea away from me.

Art -- I especially like the Pre-Raphaelites, Surrealists, and medieval manuscripts

Intellectual conversation -- I flee the staff room at work when people start talking about the weather, sports, brain-melting sitcoms, or reality shows. Yes, that means that I often eat lunch alone, but I'm okay with that.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Whatever I'm writing about! Most recently, that has tended to be stuff about Welsh mythology.

I'm going back to an idea for a novel that I had years ago -- it's based on an ancient Welsh epic called the Mabinogion. The novel got put on hold because I got a contract for a nonfiction book, but I'm done with that huge project now and ready to move on to the next.
On a typical Friday night I am
Crashed out on the couch watching a DVD, with popcorn and a martini -- by the time Friday rolls around each week, I am physically, mentally, and emotionally exhausted!
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
What would you like to know? Seriously -- I'll answer any direct question truthfully.

Okay -- I've noticed that a decent number of people use this space to talk about their relationship history/outlook. I've been widowed since 2001, and that experience has changed how I look at the world in general, but esp. the world of love/dating/relationships. To begin with, I'm really, really against divorce. If I could have my lifemate back again, there is NOTHING I would not be willing to endure. Lying, cheating, drinking, drug addiction, physical/emotional abuse ... you name it, and I would DEFINITELY make that "deal with the devil" to have him alive and by my side again. So, at this point in my life, I'm somewhat angry at people who just can't seem to make their marriages "work out". Metaphorically, I think of myself somewhat like Jennet from the poem "Tam Lin". My job in a relationship is to "hold fast and never let go", no matter what shape my beloved is transformed into.
I’m looking for
  • Guys and girls who like bi girls
  • Ages 30–47
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
you're interested in any "geek" things -- roleplaying games, comic books, fantasy, science fiction, anime, etc.

you know what the Mabinogion is.

you know how to be a lifelong friend and have room in your life for at least one more of these. I have these really intense connections with some people I went to college with and a few others I met in my 20's. Everyone I've met after that time in my life seems to want to be little more than acquaintances.