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Escendus

38 Lynchburg, VA Man

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  • Ages 25–35
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Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity
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Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
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Single
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Speaks
English, Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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What I'm like depends on where I am. I was an elementary school counselor for 5 years, and in front of a classroom of kids I'm jumping around, imitating Spongebob while doin' a playful comedy routine complete with an (imaginary ;) laser-light show and random explosions. :P Of course, there's always a moral at the end of the story.

I'm always an easy-going guy. (not so much an interest, but liked the neat highlighting :P ) But catch me in a political or philosophic debate and I'm all passion and seriousness. If you see me at work I'm all clean lines and professionalism. When I'm with kids I nurture and provoke their little brains to thought. When I see something that I think is wrong I'm a (polite) battering ram. When I'm relaxing, I'm 100% goober.

I wanted to start out mentioning this because it could be a confusing thing to grasp if you only see me in one context.

My other interests include a deep love for God, philosophy, art, music, guitar, politics, science, computers, sci-fi . . . well ok, just about anything that involves the use of brain cells. :)

I would LOVE to find someone who could sing the 3rd part harmony with me as we drive along listening to John Mayer or heck, even Breaking Benjamin ... they've got good harmony parts! Obviously the singing thing isn't that important but it'd just be so fun. :) I used to draw, and write poems or songs all the time, but with no audience I really haven't for awhile ...

So, what old dreams can encourage YOU to dust off?
What I’m doing with my life
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Did an undergrad in psychology with business, philosophy and religion minors and then a Master's in school counseling. I was an elementary school guidance counselor and then moved into child and family therapy.

Still working on becoming a LPC (Licensed Professional Counselor) which would allow me to do therapy apart from an agency ... but I'm not entirely sure that's where I want to go once I get there. Besides, I have a feeling as soon as I got it I'd jump into something completely different. Maybe law school or a philosophy PhD. I've been a bit more seriously considering becoming a clinical psychologist, but either way I probably wouldn't go back to school for another few years.

... ORRRR maybe I'll drop it all and just make a living writing limericks and playing guitar on the side of the road. Eh, we'll see.

OH OH OH .. MAAAYbe I'll get a little organ-grinder monkey and do street shows!! That sounds like fun too! :)
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I believe writing is one of my greatest skills, and it's certainly one of the things I most enjoy doing.

Entertaining kids ... or ADD adults. ( :D myself included )

Fairly good and getting better at mind reading. :) heh heh. Ok, I suppose I should call it "the science of body-language and facial expression recognition" but ya gotta admit, "mind reading" sounds SO much cooler! :D
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My presence ... it's kinda hard to start out noticing my absence.

-- BOOM -- Sorry, random explosion. Did I break your concentration? :P
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Just a short list ... heh, or long one ...

-- Books--
Fiction: Les Miserables - Hugo; Musashi - Eji Yoshakawa; Anthem & The Fountainhead - Ayn Rand; Illiad - Fagles' translation; Harry Potter series; Dragon Knight series by Gordon R Dickson

Shakespeare: Merchant of Venice; Othello

Kid's Fiction: Horton Hears a Who - Dr. Seuss; Pirates don't Change Diapers - Long; Unlovable - Yaccarino; Santa Kid - Garland; (and 3 potential tear-jerkers) Giving Tree - Silverstein; You Are Special - Lucado and Bad Rats - Drachman.

Non-Fiction: Bible; Gift of Fear - De Becker; Outliers, Blink, David and Goliath, and The Tipping Point - Malcolm Gladwell; A Dissociation Model of Borderline Personality Disorder - Meares; The Sociopath Next Door - Stout; Clinician Intuition - Marks-Tarlow; Mother Tongue - Bryson; Liberal Fascism - Goldberg; Kierkegaard for Beginners - Palmer; Emotions Revealed - Ekman; Gestalt Therapy - Pearls, Hefferline & Goodman; Gestalt Therapy: 100 Key Points - Mann

Philosophy: Man's Search for Ultimate Meaning - Frankl; Meditations - Aurelius; Man and his Symbols - Carl Jung; Hero with a Thousand Faces - Campbell; Fear and Trembling - Kierkegaard; Tao Te Ching - Lao Tzu; On Becoming a Person - Rogers; On Liberty - JS Mill; Finite and Infinite Games - Carse; God Freedom and Evil - Plantinga; Farther Reaches of Human Nature - Maslow

-- Movies --
Les Miserables; Magnolia; Scott Pilgrim; Jerry Maguire; Kick-Ass; John Adams mini-series

-- TV -- WARNING: I reserve the right to inflict some of these shows on anyone I date long-term:
Big Bang Theory; Elementary; Buffy the Vampire Slayer; Dog Whisperer; Dr. Who; DS9; Farscape; Glenn Beck; Heroes; Lie to Me (went to a seminar by the actual scientists the show is based on and have read his books); Psych and Invader Zim

-- Music --
Imagine Dragons; Christina Perri; Ghost Beach; John Mayer; Skillet; Muse; Nora Jones; Rise Against; Fireflight; Flyleaf; Breaking Benjamin; Bob Dylan; Foo Fighters; K's Choice; Natalie Merchant; Regina Spektor; The Rasmus; Tom Waits; David Cook; 3 Days Grace
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Heart, lungs, brain, spine ...

... sorry, couldn't help myself. ;)

Books? Technology? Reading books with portable technologies?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
When did OKC become hypocritical brownshirts and marginalize opinions they disagree with? http://uncrunched.com/2014/04/06/the-hypocrisy-of-sam-yagan-okcupid/ Nice that they feel morally superior because they hate one group instead of another. Why is anyone given a "correct belief" test and don't most people find that disgusting behavior, agree or disagree with the topic?

Be careful in fighting monsters you don't become one yourself.

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Witty phrases I can throw into random conversation.

Deep-ish bumper sticker quotes, such as: "Open minded" means not believing strongly in anything but your own moral superiority. - Me

Psychology, God, ethics, metaphysics, art, politics, clients / kids / how to help people I care about, existentialism and maybe a little bit o' epistemology ... ya know, just as a hobby.

Yeah ... I've even had philosophic debates in my sleep ... and I'm so not kidding.

Currently the nature of evil and human responsibility ... and prayer actually.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
HA! Sadly, sleeping. :P Some weeks I work quite a bit ... so I'll come home and collapse. (heh, 'course then I'm awake again from like 2-5am, but oh well.)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I apparently suck at "internet dating social skills" and would love someone to teach me! In-person I'm a social skill artist; I read facial expressions / body language / voice tone ... maybe even minds, who knows. :P I know what to say and how, in pretty much every situation ... except this one. :(

It's not like I'm bumbling, I just think I write with too much honestly / authenticity apparently that's a bad thing when someone doesn't have a "feel" for who I am yet. I guess I'm "over the top" occasionally even though I know I could say the exact same things in person and be just fine. *sigh* Go figure. Or better yet ... Help!! :)

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Oh, also ...

Not sure I trust their personality section. I think it mistakes self-confidence and a strong work ethic for arrogance.

Is it wrong that I get a kick out of people's inconsistent answers to the OKC questions?

Example: Those who say they're annoyed by people who are super logical, then say yes to the question If "some men are doctors" and "some doctors are tall", does it follow that "some men are tall"? Well ok, that's fine ... you can't follow a logical syllogism, the world won't end. But then I love it when they ALSO say they don't believe that low IQ people should be allowed to reproduce ... based on the syllogism question it makes me want to ask them if I should call the government to their house so they can have their tubes tied. Of course they always politically identify as "liberal" which is to be expected based on the rejection of logic but ironic since liberals want to pretend to be defenders of the disabled - such as those with low IQs.
You should message me if
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... you actually read the stuff I wrote.

DM - you'r/the're
(Which means: don't message if you don't know the difference between spelling you're and your, etc, etc, blah, blah ... ya know, I just figured it needed an abbreviation since that's what everyone seems to type here and why have to repeat it so often? ;) Aren't I awful?)

Oh, and extra points for your using gerunds appropriately! :)

Also, I tend to think if you're over, maybe 20% (?) on the enemy rating there's probably a deal breaker in there somewhere. - of course that DOES depend on how many and which questions you've answered. Ok, so briefly - Christian, philosopher, libertarian tea-partier ... if ya've gotta problem with that then just "move along, move along, nothing to see here ..."

I wonder if you have a high enough enemy number if you can get like a status change to "arch" heh heh. MuhahahaaAAA!!

Uh, yeah, probably a bad idea.

'Sides, we all know how it turned out for Julia Roberts.

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