Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a friendly, perceptive and demanding person. I'm told I come
across a little harsh sometimes but I always make a genuine effort
to know people and I'm really not that scary. I like working things
out about people, watching comedy and dancing, actually dancing
myself, debating and having good sex. I'm also married to nifara
, which isn't about to
Nifara and I are in an open marriage and we're on here looking for
relationships of all kinds. Dating, friends, possible sex (but only
if we already know you a bit) and all the blurred stuff inbetween.
We are super disinterested in people who want to have affairs with
either of us without the other one knowing but open to individually
I would not consider myself 'female' most of the time and I hate
being labelled in very female terms. If you really like the normal
social concepts of male and female in the UK right now then we may
not get on because you could find yourself constantly alienating me
without realising it. I dress 'female' and kind of view my body
like an old-fashioned arranged marriage - I didn't choose it but
I've built a relationship with it now and its mine.
We have a kid, who is six months old and super cute (we get stopped
in the street which is kind of nice). He takes up a lot of time to
be honest, and going out is harder but even more important! He
sleeps like a goddamn angel and we are eternally grateful for it.
What I’m doing with my life
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Working in Higher Education in an administrative capacity which I
adore. Hoping someday to manage a team of people and get to make
lots of interesting strategic decisions. Reading, looking at Reddit
too much, watching TV series, seeing friends, trying to find
balance in my head (long time sufferer of depression).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Organising things, making fast and efficient decisions, talking to
strangers, worrying, learning, imagining lots of different
possibilities, writing very dry administrative documents. I used to
be pretty good at expressing myself but now I need to get out of
the house more.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My eyes, my smirk, apparently my smell (in a pleasant way I'm
assured). Right now I have really stupid hair as I'm trying to grow
Possibly by boobs, though I tend to dress down. I picked 'curvy' on
here, which is apparently code for overweight. I'm just really
hourglass but dress appallingly like 80% of the time.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Inception is my favourite film, with Fightclub and The Shawshank
Redemption joint second. I also enjoy V for Vendetta, Scott
Pilgrim, and most anything by Christopher Nolan.
My comfort book is Spares by Michael Marshall-Smith, I love Lolita
by Vladimir Nabokov and both the Birds and Rebecca by Daphne Du
Maurier (Hitchcock was an awful awful Director as far as I'm
concerned). Reading the Illuminatus Trilogy has been one of the
best experiences of my life and I would highly recommend it (for
what that's worth). I also enjoy sci-fi, though there's certainly a
lot I haven't read yet, I especially like Dune, The Hitchhiker's
Guide to the Galaxy and most everything by Iain M. Banks. His books
make me feel at home.
For graphic novels, Alan Moore is the absolute master of the genre
and I especially love Watchmen.
For TV series I love House of Cards, Black Books, Game of Thrones,
Futurama, Catterick, Angel and Rome. I also enjoy anything Addams
Family related, including the rubbish TV series, and have a soft
spot for any number of the terrible cheesy programmes James Nesbitt
has been in (Jekyl, Murphy's Law).
I also love games - Baldur's Gate, classic Doom, Fable II, Farcry
3, Rayman Origins, Uncharted, Assassins' Creed, COD, the Lego
games, Halo, Little Big Planet, Katamari Forever. I wanted to like
Music I like: The Smiths, Billie Holiday, Bo Burnham but I'm mainly
one of those annoying people who likes two songs by your favourite
artist but knows of nothing else they've ever done. Broadly
speaking I like folk, classic rock and soul mostly. I like rap but
its too distracting and I hate trilly singing (looking at you Leona
Lewis) so a lot of current pop is right out. If we're in a shop and
someone asks what the song is I can pretty much guarantee I won't
know the answer.
I like fruit and veg very much, meat cooked until its almost
inedible and delicious non-gluten puddings.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Research and the scientific method
The feeling, when you debate something fiercely, that you only
actually know what you've said when you hear it out loud
The recognition of which bits of my life are the social contract,
and the freedom that knowledge gives me
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
People, being able to stop time, news, group dynamics, human
rights, higher education, conversations, funny internet sites.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Chatting to friends on the phone, reading books (fiction and
non-fiction), becoming unnecessarily involved on discussion
threads, and going out for a drink and a dance.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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When I first watched the Big Lebowski at 17 I didn't like it
because I thought that 'people like the Dude' were lazy wasteful
layabouts. When worried, my thoughts fitted in a lot of neat little
boxes which didn't match up to the rest of the world at all. I am
much better at not doing this but, as for a lot of people, it is a
You should message me if
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You live locally and want to meet up evenings/weekends.
We have a fairly high match rating for ethics.
You aren't freaked out by conversations about mental health or by
coming across it in life. We have too much involvement with it -
ourselves/friends/family - for this not to be a dealbreaker.
Curious is fine, wanting to run away is not.
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