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Ethan1967

47 M San Francisco, CA

I’m looking for

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  • Ages 36–56
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Last Online
Today – 4:10pm
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly vegetarian
Smokes
No
Drinks
Rarely
Drugs
Never
Religion
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Sign
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Education
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently), Hebrew (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I love my work as an academic librarian. When I'm not focused on work, I often read (The Goldfinch, The Unwinding, The Circle, Neal Stephenson, Borges, NY Times, Ender's Game, Michael Pollan, Cutting for Stone), but there are times when, as Neruda wrote, "I'm on my way/ with dust in my shoes/ free of mythology" backpacking in Scotland, Israel, the Grand Canyon, Yosemite, etc., bicycling, playing Scrabble, listening to music (Stevie Wonder, Glenn Gould, John Coltrane, Pat Metheny), watching a movie (The Sweet Hereafter, Blade Runner, Mud, Gravity), viewing art (Rembrandt, Bruegel, Olafur Eliasson), writing, meditating and talking to friends. Usually, I feel immense gratitude for being alive. There are stories/answers beneath the veneer of contemporary reality. I constantly search for those stories and answers. Not finding an answer is acceptable (perhaps inevitable); not asking is to stop growing. I have lived in many places including Jerusalem and London and traveled to many others. Each has broadened my worldview. (Before living abroad I thought the rest of the world was like the US. Now I think the US is an anomaly and it feels Disneyesque.) Others have told me I'm tender, generous, a mensch and that I have a lighter side, which is not reflected well in this essay.

I am not interested in having or adopting children but am open to a relationship with someone with a child or children.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work full time as a librarian for a university. In the past, I've worked as a librarian in many settings, in IT and I led congregations in Jewish Communities. (I'm not especially religious anymore.) During college, I worked in warehouses and in a supermarket as a cashier. While in high school, I worked gardening and programming computers. All of these experiences provided me with a valuable perspective and given me a great deal of respect for people who serve me, such as cashiers. (Serving others is very hard and usually doesn't pay well, so I treat people serving me with kindness, patience and smiles.)

In addition to my paid work, I have also volunteered in less affluent schools and taught Judaica.

Because, in my experience, its more fun to read with a group, I also founded and led five book groups.
I’m really good at
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Reading, listening and persevering.
The first things people usually notice about me
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People comment on my hat constantly, so I suppose it's the first thing noticed.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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As mentioned partially above:

2013 Favorite Books
The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt
The Circle by Dave Eggers
The Unwinding: An Inner History of the New America by George Packer
Aimless Love by Billy Collins
The Ocean at The End of the Lane by Neal Gaiman
Leviathan Wakes by James S.A. Corey

2013 Favorite Movies
Gravity
Mud
All Is Lost
Rebels With A Cause

Serious:
James Joyce, Virginia Woolf, Homer (Fagle's translation), Borges, Shakespeare, Tao te Ching (Mitchell's trans.), Tanakh (JPS trans.), Plato's Republic (Grube's trans.), The Structure of Scientific Revolutions, Thinking Fast and Slow (The best non-fiction I read in 2011!), Why Nations Fail (Favorite non-fiction written in 2012)

Fiction:
Bel Canto, Time Traveler's Wife, Cloud Atlas, Super Sad True Love Story, Cutting for Stone, Middlesex, Windup Bird Chronicles, Transmission (Hari Kunzru), Anna Kerenina (Pevear and Volokhonsky trans.), The Master and Margarita (O'Connor and Burgin trans.), The Songlines, The Big Sleep (Chandler), Freedom (Franzen), Junot Diaz, Neal Gaiman

Science Fiction:
Windup Girl, Pump Six, Snow Crash, Neuromancer, Hardwired, Ender's Game, Altered Carbon, Thirteen, Daemon, Pattern Recognition, Replay, Ready Player One (Fun!)

Non Fiction:
The Botany of Desire, Winner Take All Politics, All The Devils Are Here, The Big Short, The Way Things Work, Aftershock, Outliers, Solzenitzym's Nobel Acceptance Speech, The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, My Promised Land, Stairway Walks in San Francisco

Poetry:
Adrienne Rich, W. B. Yeats, The Four Quartets (T.S. Elliot), Yehuda Amichai (Bloch and Mitchell's trans.), Rilke (Mitchell's trans.), Rumi (Barks' trans.), Hafiz (Landinsky's trans.), The Norton Anthology of Modern Poetry, U.A. Fanthorpe, Keith Douglas, Wilfred Owen, Li Po, Billy Collins

Newspapers, Blogs, websites, columnists:
NY Times, Robert Reich's Blog, XKCD, Frank Rich

Movies:
The Sweet Hereafter, Exotica, Blade Runner, Minority Report, Avatar, Hoop Dreams, Three Idiots, Batman Begins, Ice Storm, No End in Sight, Inside Job, Before the Devil Knows You're Dead, Pollock, Tampopo, Touching the Void, Crouching Tiger, Lives of Others, The Secretary, Schindler's List, Erol Morris, Match Point, Avalon (Barry Levinson), Wag the Dog, Man on a Wire

Artists:
Bruegel, Calder, Rembrandt, Holbein, Olafur Eliasson, Yousuf Karsh, Galen Rowell, Diego Rivera

Plays:
Master Harold and the Boys, Translations (Brian Friel), The Tempest, Fathers and Sons (Arthur Miller), Arcadia (Tom Stoppard)

Music:
Stevie Wonder, Deep Forest, Hiromi, Coltrane, Manu Katche, Glenn Gould, Kate Bush

Food:
Mexican, vegetarian, Tartine

I don't own a TV.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Polar Bears (Thanks to a friend's profile for this.)
2) Pliers
3) Libraries
4) A GPS or maps with a compass (I have no sense of direction and love cartography)
5) Wikipedia and good dictionaries
6) My music, Pandora and Spotify
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The economic meltdown of 2008, friends, literature, gadgets and how lucky I am.

I also like to think about patterns, especially in flows of people. I spend quite a bit of time in crowded museums but often figure out ways to avoid the crowds and see the art I like in nearly empty galleries.

The shifts currently taking place in this country are dramatic and although it's no fun, I spend a significant amount of time thinking and reading about those shifts.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At the De Young Museum, listening to music and seeing art.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Recently, I saw 127 Hours, about Aaron Ralston's survival despite being trapped for 127 hours. Ralston ultimately amputated his own arm to free himself. I have done a lot of solo backpacking/hiking/camping, sometimes in remote places, including in Canyon Lands, where Ralston was trapped. Unlike Ralston, I always tell people roughly where I'm going.

Before doing any solo camping, I took an Outward Bound Course and later a more advanced outdoor skills course. For me this is a calculated risk.
You should message me if
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You're interested in experiencing a fun, creative date with a bright, engaged person and you're open to the possibility of a relationship.