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Last online
Yesterday – 6:48pm
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Average build
Special Diet
Judaism but it’s not important
Post grad
Doesn’t have kids
English (Fluently), Hebrew (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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I love my work as an academic librarian. When I'm not focused on work, I often read (The Goldfinch, Neal Stephenson, Borges, NY Times, Michael Pollan), but there are times when, as Neruda wrote, "I'm on my way/ with dust in my shoes/ free of mythology" backpacking in Scotland, Israel, the Grand Canyon, Yosemite, etc., bicycling, playing Scrabble, listening to music (Stevie Wonder, Glenn Gould, John Coltrane, Pat Metheny), watching a movie (The Sweet Hereafter, Blade Runner, Mud), viewing art (Rembrandt, Bruegel, Olafur Eliasson), writing, meditating and talking to friends. Usually, I feel immense gratitude for being alive. There are stories/answers beneath the veneer of contemporary reality. I constantly search for those stories and answers. Not finding an answer is acceptable (perhaps inevitable); not asking is to stop growing. I have lived in many places including Jerusalem and London and traveled to many others. Each has broadened my worldview. (Before living abroad I thought the rest of the world was like the US. Now I think the US is an anomaly and it feels Disneyesque.) Others have told me I'm tender, generous, a mensch and that I have a lighter side, which is not reflected well in this summary.

I am not interested in having or adopting children but am open to a relationship with someone with a child or children.
What I’m doing with my life
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I work full time as a librarian for a university. In the past, I've worked as a librarian in many settings, in IT and I led congregations in Jewish Communities. (I'm not especially religious anymore.) During college, I worked in warehouses and in a supermarket as a cashier.

In addition to my paid work, I have also volunteered in less affluent schools and taught Judaica.

Twice per week I am at the gym lifting weights and on an elliptical. I average more than 10,000 steps per day. Once per week I meditate with a Buddhist group.

Recently, for fun, I wrote a children's picture book, which I commissioned an artist to illustrate. In 2014, I authored part of a history textbook (Big Bang to present) for work.

Because, in my experience, its more fun to read with a group, I also founded and led five book groups.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading, listening and persevering.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People comment on my hat constantly, so I suppose it's the first thing noticed.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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As mentioned partially above:

James Joyce, Virginia Woolf, Homer (Fagle's translation), Borges, Shakespeare, Tao te Ching (Mitchell's trans.), Tanakh (JPS trans.), Plato's Republic (Grube's trans.), The Structure of Scientific Revolutions, Thinking Fast and Slow, Why Nations Fail, Capital in the 21st Century, Between the World and Me, Being Mortal

The Goldfinch, Bel Canto, Time Traveler's Wife, Cloud Atlas, Super Sad True Love Story, Cutting for Stone, Middlesex, Windup Bird Chronicles, The Master and Margarita (O'Connor and Burgin trans.), The Songlines, The Big Sleep (Chandler), Junot Diaz, Neal Gaiman, The Circle, Americanah

Science Fiction:
Paolo Bacigalupi, Snow Crash, William Gibson, Ender's Game, Altered Carbon, Daemon, Ready Player One (Fun!), Leviathan Wakes, Six of Crows

Non Fiction:
The Botany of Desire, Michael Lewis, The Way Things Work, Malcolm Gladwell, Solzenitzym's Nobel Acceptance Speech, The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, My Promised Land, Stairway Walks in San Francisco, The Unwinding, On Immunity

Adrienne Rich, W. B. Yeats, The Four Quartets (T.S. Elliot), Yehuda Amichai (Bloch and Mitchell's trans.), Rilke (Mitchell's trans.), Rumi (Barks' trans.), Hafiz (Landinsky's trans.), The Norton Anthology of Modern Poetry, U.A. Fanthorpe, Keith Douglas, Wilfred Owen, Li Po, Billy Collins

Newspapers, Blogs, websites, columnists:
NY Times, Robert Reich's Blog, XKCD, Frank Rich

The Sweet Hereafter, Blade Runner, Minority Report, Avatar, Hoop Dreams, Batman Begins, Ice Storm, Tampopo, Touching the Void, Crouching Tiger, Lives of Others, The Secretary, Schindler's List, Erol Morris, Match Point, Barry Levinson, Man on a Wire, Black Mirror, Inside Out, Halt and Catch Fire, Selma, Gravity, Mud, Charles Ferguson

Bruegel, Calder, Rembrandt, Holbein, Olafur Eliasson, Yousuf Karsh, Galen Rowell, Diego Rivera

Master Harold and the Boys, Translations (Brian Friel), The Tempest, Fathers and Sons (Arthur Miller), Arcadia (Tom Stoppard)

Stevie Wonder, Deep Forest, Hiromi, Coltrane, Manu Katche, Glenn Gould, Kate Bush, Pat Metheny

Mexican, vegetarian, Tartine

I don't own a TV.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1) Polar Bears (Thanks to a friend's profile for this.)
2) Pliers
3) Libraries
4) A GPS or maps with a compass (I have no sense of direction and love cartography)
5) Wikipedia and good dictionaries
6) My music, Pandora and Spotify
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The economic meltdown of 2008, friends, literature, gadgets and how lucky I am.

I also like to think about patterns, especially in flows of people. I spend quite a bit of time in crowded museums but often figure out ways to avoid the crowds and see the art I like in nearly empty galleries.

The shifts currently taking place in this country are dramatic and although it's no fun, I spend a significant amount of time thinking and reading about those shifts.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At the De Young Museum, listening to music and seeing art.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Recently, I saw 127 Hours, about Aaron Ralston's survival despite being trapped for 127 hours. Ralston ultimately amputated his own arm to free himself. I have done a lot of solo backpacking/hiking/camping, sometimes in remote places, including in Canyon Lands, where Ralston was trapped. Unlike Ralston, I always tell people roughly where I'm going.

Before doing any solo camping, I took an Outward Bound Course and later a more advanced outdoor skills course. For me this is a calculated risk.
You should message me if
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You're interested in experiencing a fun, creative date with a bright, engaged person and you're open to the possibility of a relationship.