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EthnicTofu

36 / F / Straight / Single

Brooklyn, New York

Her Details

Last Online
Today – 6:32am
Ethnicity
Black
Height
5′ 2″ (1.57m).
Body Type
Curvy
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Religion
Buddhism
Sign
Taurus
Education
College/university
Job
Other
Income
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I "retired" this profile over a year ago because...well...I hate internet dating. I actually hate dating in general, but I especially grew to hate internet dating. My perspective has changed quite a bit since then.

I previously thought of internet dating as a way to pre-screen folks in a way you couldn't do otherwise in a bar or at the supermarket or wherever, and thought that was a good thing. And it is --kinda-- but there are many pitfalls along that line of thinking. I can share my philosophy with you if you like, but I'll save it for now. Suffice it to say that I'm now using this as a tool to meet people I wouldn't meet otherwise. I have no expectations of meeting "the one" or anything. If that does happen, then yay! But for now, just meeting some cool-ass people with whom I can talk shit and do things would be about forty types of sweet.

Reader's Digest Version about me: I am an iconoclastic progressive-liberal-heathen-bohemian singer who loves to write (as this profile will prove). I do not worship a deity, nor do I accept Jesus Christ as my personal savior. Just thought I'd mention that up front in case this was a problem for you. MBTI: ENTJ

A little bit more: I'm one of those people who is equally left and right-brained, so I feel both out of place and like I belong everywhere at the same time. With my music friends, I'm the square who wants structure and order. At work, I'm the "singing lady" with the crazy hairstyles, colors, and ideas.

I live for music. The Nietzsche quote "Without music, life would be a mistake" is my maxim. I simply cannot imagine my life without it. I can find something to love within every genre and have quite the representation in the 7000+ contents of my iPod. I love to be introduced to new things and would love to go see some live music with you cool kids.

I am a singer with a full-time day job --and as a testament to the equal employment of both hemispheres of my brain-- I love the hell out of both. I had to take a hiatus from singing over the last year, but now I'm DYING to perform again. My job and my passion seem totally disparate, but they are a perfect example of my many (seeming) contradictions. I may appear to be an enigma wrapped in a mystery, but I am really quite easy to understand if you are paying attention. For some reason, my straightforwardness confuses people.

Fun is important to me. I love to laugh (for a long time, very hard and loudly --friends love to mimic my laugh), and that includes laughing at myself sometimes. My sense of humor ranges from dry and sarcastic to off-beat and slapstick. (I am a sucker for satire!) I can drop in a joke at pretty much any point during a conversation. I can be silly, witty, serious and warm in equal measure. I love conversing with and getting to know people. I talk rapidly and do this using my hands. I have been referred to as “animated" and "expressive." Even if I am not speaking, all you have to do is look at my face to see what it is I'm not saying.

I say "dude" a lot. Not unlike this guy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dyMSSe7cOvA

I am a total nerd-geek who loves to learn, reveres grammar, and is into Fantasy and Sci-Fi. I love defying whatever preconceived notion you have of me. I live for learning about people and consider myself an amateur anthropologist. My username is a reference to the fact that –like tofu—I tend to take on the “flavors” of whatever I’m immersed in, causing people to be confused about my origins. I was born in Brooklyn and have lived my whole life in a 10-mile radius. I've traveled to many places in the world and can't think of anyplace else I'd rather be.

Josephine Baker, Nona Hendryx and Tina Turner are my "patron saints." I can swear like a drunken sailor on leave on occasion and dance like an extra on Solid Gold. I am almost always singing. I am not afraid to sweat. I am a progressive liberal. I'm intolerant of intolerance. I love to travel, learn, read, and think. I like people who make me think. I am who I am, not who people want me to be. I like philanthropic activities and animals.
What I’m doing with my life
Striving to live it fully and without regrets. Being open. Changing lives and making and impact on people.
I’m really good at
Singing. Making people feel at ease. Making people extremely uncomfortable. Making people laugh. Making something out of nothing. Making faces. Cleaning and organizing. Strategizing. Accumulating loads of unfinished knitting projects.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hair; then they want to touch it.
My red lips.
My eyes.
My loud-ass laugh.
My tats.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Food: I'm really not that picky, but I live for seafood -- crustaceans in particular. I would fight someone for crab legs and lobster from Red Hook Lobster Pound.
Drinks: I love wine! I tend to lean toward red during cool/cold weather and white in warm/hot weather. Also, hand me a vodka martini with 3 olives and we will be fast friends.
Books: I'm all over the place here, a lot like I am with music. I love both fiction and non-fiction. I tend to read a lot more periodicals these days, but that's due to time constraints and the immediacy of needing to know things.
TV: I watch quite a bit of TV on my DVR, mostly sit-coms. Parks and Rec, New Girl (one of my favorites), Modern Family, Pretty Much Everything on HBO, Dexter, The Big C, etc.
The six things I could never do without
Music
Writing Instruments
Books
Quality People
My Voice
Learning
I spend a lot of time thinking about
How other people's brains work. What goes on in there? Why do you do the things you do?

How liberating it is to not be so consumed with "what may happen" that you talk yourself out of actually finding out.

What I want to pursue next musically.

How Ke$ha has a record deal and I don't.
On a typical Friday night I am
I kinda hate the whole Friday night scene in NYC, so unless there's something exceptional happening, I'm most likely taking it easy. There are many other nights I'd rather be out and about.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I get really turned on by men who use semicolons properly and teach me new words. This is not hyperbole.

I am inexplicably and inordinately attracted to bald men. And I don't mean shaved heads, I mean bald due to genetics (though a shaved head will also do the trick). I love hair, but for some reason, the bald thing is ultra hot to me.

"Team America: World Police" is tied for my favorite movie.

I secretly judge people I see reading the New York Post on the Subway.
I’m looking for
  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 28–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, activity partners
You should message me if
You want a new friend, or you want to see if we connect romantically. You are open to anything happening, or nothing at all. You like humans, music, culture and FUN.

Race is a non-issue for me (my first crushes were Bruce Lee, Taimak and Christopher Reeve), but if you are a social or religious conservative...that might not bode well for us. Just sayin'. I may still be up for meeting, though. You might have friends I'd not want to stab. I mean like!