Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I didn't join this site to get any romantic partner - do not
message me for that purpose, I'm not interested! I am asexual,
probably because I'm autistic (I claimed I was seeing someoe solely
to discourage interest). More specifically, I'm officially
diagnosed with PDD-NOS (atypical autism). I almost meet the
criteria for Asperger Syndrome, but not quite. I am obsessively
interested in psychiatry and disability rights. If there was a cure
for being autistic, not only would I not take it, I would be
horrified and sad and campaign against it - autism isn't something
a person has, it's a part of who they are. I'm an idealist in that
I am highly committed to my ideals and want to change the world. I
do not idealize the way the world is. I'd call myself an idealistic
cynic, I guess, since I'm idealistic about how the world could be
but cynical about how it is. It's a mix I think is tpical of
activists - you must perceive something is wrong and have hope for
changing it to be an activist (unless you're a pseudo-activist, who
does activist stuff to get approval or feel good about yourself). I
was sexually abused as a child, which, in addition to being
autistic, is part of why I'm completely *not interested* in a
sexual relationship. I've had one, it was absolutely awful!
Although I intellectually understand that most people enjoy sex, I
can't remotely imagine why anyone would find it anything but
disgusting. (Note: If you like sex, don't take this as a criticism.
This is just how I feel, something I cannot control, and I don't
think this is a correct view of sexuality.) I also hate our
society's obsession with sex. If you find yourself turned on by my
saying I was sexually abused, get yourself counseling, because
there's something wrong with you. Je parle francais un peaux. J'ai
alle a une ecole francais pour K-4, mai mes professeurs etaint tres
mechant, ce qui m'a fait effraye de francais, ainsi je n'a pas
parle francais dans une longe temps.
I am autistic, idealistic, and traumatized
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I'm advocating for the rights of autistic and other disabled people
on the Internet (see abnormaldiversity.blogspot.com - my blog). I'm
volunteering with an activity program with developmentally disabled
people, both with kids and adults (so don't say I don't know what
'the real disabled people' are like). I'm trying to get through the
hoops necessary for an unschooled (a type of homeschooling where
the child completely directs their own learning) kid to enter
university and train to be a psychologist. I'm trying to get my
fiction book about addictive weather magic and my non-fiction book
about emotional abuse in schools published. I'm trying to figure
out the causes of some mild medical problems I have - mild
faintness on standing, with low heart rate when I'm lying down and
normal/high normal when I'm standing and low-normal blood pressure,
and mild chronic joint pain associated with no swelling or apparent
abnormality which goes away sometimes if I twist around the joint,
present in my neck, ankles, knees, hips, toes and fingers.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Reading - I read fast and with good comprehension, although if the
subject doesn't interest me I can't pay attention. I love to read
and unless I'm very tired, *must* have a book in order to fall
asleep. Talking - I use big words accurately and explain things
well, and I really like to talk about my interests (but it's hard
for me to give others equal time or handle conversations with more
than one other person) Abstract thinking, connecting ideas - I am
(being honest, not conceited) far better than average at this.
Writing - As well as my strengths in talking, I also have good
intuitive sense of grammar and spelling due to reading so much
combined with being a fairly visual learner. I have some difficulty
organizing my ideas and my handwriting is slow and laborious, but
other than that I'm an excellent writer. When I was 15, my mother
told me my writing (and reasoning) were far better than most of the
college students (mostly first years, but not all) that she's
taught - and she wasn't just being a proud Mom. Relating to
developmentally disabled people and animals (not trying to insult
anyone by putting them together, just that those areas are related,
due to a) ability to relate to someone who can't talk, and b)
ability to relate to someone whose mind is vastly different from
yours). This is a common talent in autistic people, possibly
because we spend all our lives interacting with people who are very
different from us (normal people). In addition, a large proportion
of developmentally disabled people are either autistic or have
autistic traits, which means they're naturally easier for autistics
to understand. In order to relate to someone who can't talk and/or
is very different from you, you have to make a specific effort to
'learn their language', which is something most people don't get
much practice in because practically everyone is relatively similar
The first things people usually notice about me
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Depends. Some people seem to first notice that I'm pretty (I really
hate being pretty, but unfortunately I am). I tend to be either
oblivious to this or frightened by it. If someone talks to me,
usually they think I'm very smart and maybe a bit eccentric. Unless
I'm seeking help from them because I'm confused or overloaded or
lost, in which case they tend to think I'm developmentally disabled
(bus drivers especially see this, because the transit system is so
confusing to me). If they're a teacher, the first thing they might
notice is that I make a lot of comments or questions, many of them
quite intelligent and 'nit-picky' (if I like the subject) or that
I'm inattentive or defiant (if I don't like the subject or they
alienate me somehow). Autistic kids often seem to pick up on the
fact that I'm autistic fairly quickly. In the volunteering program
I'm in, one child seemed quite startled by the idea that 'someone
like him' could be on the other side of the helper/helped power
divide disabled people usually see so much of. At the Cree class
and the Mandarin class I took, my guess is most people noticed
first that I'm very white.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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My favorite books are generally non-stereotpical fantasy. Here are
some examples: Madeline L'Engel's books, such as A Wrinkle in Time,
A Swiftly Tilting Planet, Many Waters, An Acceptable Time, etc.
Tamora Pierce's books set in Tortall(Alanna: The First Adventure is
the earliest one, apart from the one about Bekka Cooper) and her
Winding Circle books. Interview with a Vampire and The Vampire
Lestat by Anne Rice. Animorphs by KA Applegate (an old favorite,
now mostly nostalgic liking for me) Garth Nix's Sabriel series and
his Keys to the Kingdom series. I don't watch movies much, but I
have a few favorites: Some Japanese anime movies, the ones where
the plot is very non-western. Examples include Spirited Away (a
real favorite, a wonderful movie) and Haibane Renmei. The Wall,
which I haven't actually seen, but what I've seen of it on YouTube
has me desperately wanting to see it. Oh Brother Where Art Thou?, a
movie set in the southern states about three escaped convicts which
has a lot of symbolism of Odysius. In terms of music, I like two
types - songs about series issues, usually political, and wildly
fantastical songs. Examples of the first include Midnight Oil (my
favorite is Hot Rocks) and a lot of the music from The Wall, and
examples of the second include Genesis: Nursery Cryme (my favorites
are Old King Cole, the one about Harold the Barrel who cut off his
toes and served them for tea, and the one about the Royal Hogweed)
and a lot of Rush songs. In general most of the songs I like are
fairly old ones, mostly because the only recent songs I've heard
have generally been disgusting love songs on the radio or ones that
just fade into the background for me (this category includes
instrumentals with no singing and songs in other languages apart
from English or sometimes French). An exception to the rule that
lyrics are all that matters for me is dance music, since the
rhythmic pounding makes my head hurt so even with great lyrics I
probably won't like it. Love songs often get me plugging my ears
with rhythmic jerking of my fingers to completely disrupt any
ability to comprehend the words, if I can't turn them off.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
air, food, water, sufficient atmospheric pressure to keep me from
exploding but not enough to make me implode, etc. Anything not
essential for life I can survive without, although without certain
things I'd probably go nuts.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
disability rights, specific syndromes that interest me, fantasy
stories I want to write.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At home, or at my Dad's office playing computer games, depending on
how late you're talking about.
You should message me if
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You want to engage in intellectual discussions about something that
interests me, you or someone you care about has a developmental or
psychological difference you'd like advice about, you want to
comment about one of my tests, or something like that. Don't
contact me to say you'd like to do something sexual or romantic
with me, or to sell me something. (By the way, if any of the
spammers who are constantly e-mailing me read this, please note
that since I don't have a penis, I have absolutely no desire to buy
Viagra. Not that I would if I did have one.)
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