Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
i think too much and i have too much time on my hands. i collect
skills because when i'm faced with the option of hiring someone to
do a thing or figuring it out myself, i can't bring myself to hire
someone (and often can't afford it).
lately, i am very candid. i have no patience to beat around the
bush, which i realize is off-putting to many in the realm of
emotions. it's not my intent to filter people out this way or
anything, i just haven't the energy. i am very sentimental and i
take things personally, i care and so come off as very emotional,
and yet i promise i'm enjoying the discussion, so please
my life has been very mixed in circumstance, but i have never
lacked for support and only rarely lacked in necessities, so i
consider myself very lucky. i was raised by a lot of very different
people, having five parents and their assorted grandparents and
being shuffled between, and i consider that a huge boon now. that
said, i know my perspective lacks many angles, and i try very hard
to remedy that by putting myself in new situations and with various
mental gymnastics, and by attempting to be empathetic.
depression is an issue for me, and i deal with it largely by being
wittily, often sarcastically bemused in a despondent way. i'm
pretty convinced that most things are (or could, or will, be) moot,
but i don't feel or behave that way.
feminist, radical politics.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
currently i reside with my parents and brother and his girlfriend
in las vegas. we've all come together to help my little brother
survive cancer. it's rough, but i am very proud of my family in
ways now that i didn't know i had cause to be, so i am grateful for
that. practically, this means that during the weekdays i stay at
home to give him his medications and make sure he's okay, so i'm
only free nights and weekends and have no income and am going
my partner lives in portland, oregon, and i value her greatly. our
relationship is open, but neither of us sees other people often,
and when we do we are careful about it, for everyones' sake. i am
actively seeking people to be around, including friends, activity
or debate partners, and possibly sex partners. my sexual
relationships tend to be close, lasting friendships that include
sex, not romantic commitments.
i am about to start building the new deck for the sailboat which
was and will be my home when it's livable again. this is a huge,
intimidating project which i would love to discuss/have others'
opinions on/have help with. also, once the deck is finished i need
to outfit the boat for long voyages, because i intend to find the
inside passage and sail much of the world. not the touristy bits
either. i'm open to having a sailing partner.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
fixing things. usually i break them a little in the process of
fixing them the first time, but then i fix that too. picturing
things. i am a very, very visual thinker. sometimes i think it
holds me back when i'm trying to consider things more theoretical
i used to be really good at jazz guitar. now i'm okay.
i'm getting better at drawing. i'm a good amateur at technical
drawings of necessity, but am working on expressive drawing as i
attempt to create a comic.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
lotr, braveheart, serenity, can't think of more at the
firefly, mushi-shi, blanking again, it's late...
streetlight manifesto, u2, Chopin, pearl jam, slothrust, dispatch,
general tso's chicken, pizza, seafood, bread, rice.
cheap red wine, scotch or jameson's, warm sake, brown beer, hard
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
books (can be digital, even audio lately)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
undermining capitalism and the kyriarchy.
what ideas i have accepted, where did they come from, what purpose
do they serve, and whether they are acceptable to keep. how can i
make myself the person i feel i must be to feel good about myself?
what has shaped that person? how should i shape that person? would
it be a cop-out to become a hermit? can i actually do good, or only
convince myself i am doing good?
how everything is a scale, and i tend to picture everything on a
bar graph from negative to neutral to positive next to the most
closely related things on their own bars.
is it better to commit to a thing or be competent at many
which martial art should i learn? (leaning toward muay thai largely
because there's a place that teaches it close by)
should i continue to use this site to meet people, or give up on it
and just be out more? if the latter, is it necessary to be seen in
the same places consistently to make meaningful relationships in
they physical realm? why am i so clueless about this basic life
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
watching something, teaching myself programming, german, drinking,
hanging out with my family, working on my bike, working on the
design for my boat.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you are open to meeting. i'm not opposed to chatting here, but my
intention is to use this site as a way to meet people in the real
world. i need to get out and about and make some connections
you need help fixing something! particularly bikes or guitars, or
other wooden things.
you know about boats or pop tops, or better, pop top boats
you're kinky. i can top or bottom, though i'm not very experienced,
but i would prefer to be topped lately. i'm a conscientious
you have a project you think i'd like to work on with you, or you
want to help me with my projects.
you want to play music together, but won't judge me for being rusty
you'd like to help me practice german, chinese, or french. my
chinese is rusty and my french almost nonexistent, but especially
in a penpal situation, i think i could make do and learn
really any reason. i'm not in the habit of denying communication.
if i think we shouldn't talk, i'll tell you that before ceasing our
Who are you looking for?
This helps us know who to show you on OkCupid.