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50 M Brooklyn, NY

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  • Ages 30–50
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Last Online
Oct 9
5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Very often
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Entertainment / Media
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids, but doesn’t want more

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My self-summary
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Cerebral, creative, chill. Writer, editor, musician. Californian (Southern.) Yogi/cyclist with a penchant for culture (high and low), cities, deserts, oceans, rivers, mountaintops, enlightening conversation and well-considered risks.
What I’m doing with my life
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Editor, bass player, father, dude.
I’m really good at
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Editing things (I am not just talking about words.)
The first things people usually notice about me
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Shaved head. Bright green eyes. Quick wit. Nice arms.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I'm a sucker for the music memoir. Some recent reads: Satan is Real, by Charlie Louvin: Richard Hell's memoir; The Fallen, a book about the 40-something people who have been members of The Fall. I just cracked Cheetah Chrome's memoir. Pretty bad, though I am sure I'll finish it.

I dig most things noir, Chandler, Hammett, Ellroy, Bukowski, especially noir that's set in L.A. And lots of contemporary fiction: DeLillo, Robert Stone, Junot Diaz, Philip Roth.

Have you read "The Warmth of Other Suns," by Isabel Wilkerson? You should. Everyone should.

It seems to me that all of the good (rock) music of the last 30 years can be traced to four sources: The Velvet Underground, The Stooges, The Byrds, and Black Sabbath. Discuss.

Every time I hear Coltrane or Monk I think: life would be better if I listened to Trane or Monk every day. I feel the same about Minor Threat.

I try not to be dogmatic. I listen to lots of other stuff--bebop and hard bop; reggae and dub; funk and soul; Elmore James, Big Joe Turner, Little Walter; Big Star, John Fahey, Neil Young, PJ Harvey, Tom Waits, Nick Cave. I grew up on L.A. punk rock and will always worship at the church of X and Black Flag.

Generally speaking, I am culturally voracious and drawn to stuff that unsettles even as it soothes.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The boy's smile.
The girl's eyelashes.
The p-bass.
The cast iron pan.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Sex. Death. God's silence.
You know, the usual shit.
Also: How far short this country falls of its promise.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Somewhat exhausted. Eating well. Playing music. Watching television.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Yeah, right.
You should message me if
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You have had enough of the bullshit. Lord knows I have.

You continue to believe—despite evidence to the contrary—in the possibility of happiness.

Your taste is impeccable. And you know it. And you would enjoy arguing that point.

You are inclined to believe that less is more. Except when it isn't.