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23 • Berkeley, CA • Cis Man
I’m looking for
- Ages 21–27
- Near me
- Who are single
- For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
- Last online
- Yesterday – 10:54pm
- Straight, Sapiosexual
- 6′ 2″ (1.88m)
- Body Type
- Mostly anything
- Atheism, but not too serious about it
- Cancer, but it doesn’t matter
- Working on university
- Open relationship
- Doesn’t have kids
- Dislikes dogs and likes cats
- English (Fluently), C++ (Okay), LISP (Poorly)
Meta-strategizing for my life (and others). Turns out it's the most useful thing to do before anything else.
Talking to as many interesting people as I can handle
Improv partner dancing [here, laugh at me]
(just kidding, that dance was great)
Getting a degree in computer science so I can move to the bay area, get a ridiculous high-paying software job, and donate a bunch of money to futurist non-profits saving the world. Ask me about it.
adding way too many explanations to my OKC questions because my answers rarely fit into a box. if you do this too, you're awesome.
Cross-pollinating people in my life to grow the awesome community of cuddly technically-minded philosopher-dancers in my life who want to optimize the world
I also give really good hugs.
Not an exhaustive list, but instead a list of the not-quite-mainstream things I like, because including mainstream stuff doesn't mean much.
Dresden Codak, Goblins, Flipside, perry bible fellowship, rice boy, Hark! a Vagrant, pictures for sad children, Gunnerkrigg Court, Girls with Slingshots, Subnormality, Paranatural, Problem Sleuth, minus.
if you follow and enjoy most of SMBC and XKCD, you might be my favourite person.
Websites/Blogs: [Slate Star Codex, AKA the best blog in the universe][Lesswrong, the website where it all started for me]
Most recent: Her. Seriously this is my favourite movie right now. Talk to me about it (UPDATE Mar 2015: Interstellar was very close, but Her is still my favourite right now)
Others: Baz Luhrmann's Romeo and Juliet, Scott Pilgrim vs The World, Inside Out, a Village Called Panic, Koyaanisqatsi, Network, The Game, This Film Is Not Yet Rated, Limitless, Catch-22, American Psycho, Groundhog Day, Office Space, The Invention of Lying, Wall Street, Looper, Loaded Weapon, the IT crowd, ReBoot, Dollhouse, Daybreak, Firefly.
a very important factor in a work of serious fiction for me is that the characters don't follow the plot, the plot follows the characters. (/r/rational sidebar for more of an explanation)
Music: I listen to mostly Instrumental music when I'm doing something else. I used to think I didn't like pop songs or music with vocals at all, but it turns out I'm just very picky.
Books: The Moral Animal, Calvin and Hobbes, Foundation, Dune, The Ethical Slut, More than Two, Ender's Game, Permutation City, Stumbling on Happiness, The Righteous Mind, Godel Escher Bach, The Black Swan, How We Decide, Good and Real, Three Worlds Collide, Rationality: From AI to Zombies (RAZ), Focusing by Eugene Gendlin, Thinking Fast and Slow
[Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality](HPMOR), TED Talks
2. Things to fix or optimize
3. Physical expression, be it dancing or cuddles
4. Cool people
5. My brain
6. The San Francisco Bay Area
7. The freedom of creative expression, such that arbitrary limits are more like "guidelines."
How to optimize the world
how people think
unknown unknown unknowns
how to leap huge [inferential gaps] in a single bound
how to avoid having dumb arguments
[how fun virtual reality would be]
how people think their category of secrets is unique
[where some feminists went crazy]
[where feminism got it totally right]
how monolithic concepts are actually a lot of different things with nuances
speaking of monolithic concepts; [MOLOCH]
whether I'm approachable
how to have goals
what other people do with all their time
if someone will get distracted with all these links
how not to be a [Sphex]
how to be incrementally better next time and not get too stressed out about being imperfect.
anyway, in the spirit of the question, I'm probably partner dancing (west coast swing) at some event, or at a party where we discuss how to take over the world before someone else does. if I like you, you'd be welcome at either.
Interview "makes me look good" answer: I used to be a Nice Guy™, but then I got better.
(I was going to make a corny joke about being a "nice guy" but I couldn't think of a way that would be obvious enough because of [Poe's Law], so there's this instead.)
Actual answer: I dislike, even though I understand the reasons for, common informational privacy(how meta), secrets, and the like. as a result of many people telling me their secrets, it's become effectively impossible for me to be judgemental. I have this fantasy where suddenly everyone has access to everyone else's secrets, and I imagine after the short-term kerfuffle, everyone is a lot more empathetic to each other.
That being said, I know not everyone reacts the the way I do to uncomfortable truths, and so for now, some secrets are necessary.
Some good indicators that you should message me:
-we have a high match percentage (90%+)
-you want to meet up and be friends!
-you found something interesting to talk about on my profile
-you want to go west coast swing/fusion dancing with me
-you want to introduce me to something awesome I should know about, given my other interests.
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