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FODivorcedDad

40 M Fair Oaks, CA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Christianity
Sign
Sagittarius
Education
Graduated from high school
Job
Management
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Has dogs
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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Let me start off with I AM ME, I will not be fake, just to impress you. I am ALWAYS real, and don't believe in being phony. As a result, you will either love me or hate me. That's all up to you.

I am a FULL TIME (not HALF time, not PART time) Dad of 3 kids, so my time is somewhat limited (they are with me about 95% of the time). I would love to meet an attractive, confident woman that would like to talk, have fun, and see what happens.

I AM looking for someone who wants to meet in real life, not an endless email/text thing. I crave REAL human interaction; touching, smiling, laughing, smelling your perfume; those types of things. You know, the things that come with being in the same room as another person.

So, now that you know what I want, let me tell you a little about me. I am a 40 year old SWM, 6'3" tall and weigh about 210. I have a shaved head (a style I chose more than 10 years ago, and love); and a pretty long goatee. I am a hopeless romantic and despite a failed marriage, I still believe in "true love"; I also believe in having fun along the way to finding that.

I enjoy most outdoor activities; camping, hiking, biking, 4 wheeling, and I ride motorcycles (dirt & street). I am a bit of a fix-it hobbyist, I enjoy working on just about anything from electronics to engines. I do like to watch movies, and enjoy just about all types of music. I love to cook, and even more so, to eat ANYTHING with lots of flavor (this tends to come out in my cooking in the form of lots of seasoning). More than anything, I enjoy doing just about anything and everything with my kids.

I can truly say that I am tired of being alone; I have been on my own for a little over 3 years now. My marriage was over LONG ago, but I was still married, so I didn't look to fill the void outside of that. NO, I do not know how to lie & cheat in a relationship; let alone it be my default. However, just because I was married and we lived in the same house, doesn't mean I wasn't alone for a LOOOONG time!!! Now that I am legitimately "available" (and I have spent some time re-finding myself), I would love to meet someone to spend some quality time with.

I do NOT smoke, and would prefer that you do not either. I DO NOT do drugs, and considering the previous statement, YES, I consider Pot a drug (even with a Dr. note). I do drink on occasion. I have my own place and my own car. I am not looking for someone who wants me to take care of her; I already play "sugar daddy" to 3 (munchkins that is) and don't need someone else taking away from them.

Please understand that being a Dad is my #1 priority at this time; but when I am off duty, I am still a man and want what a man wants; a woman to make me feel like a man. I want to find someone to hang out with, have conversations with (yes, I really want to talk with a woman) and see what happens. I would really like to meet someone that I can connect with and eventually introduce to my kids.

All that being said, if this sounds like something you can accept and respect; drop me a line. Oh, and I'm not interested in "seeing your profile on another site". I will insist on a PUBLIC meeting for our first face to face (someplace like Starbucks or a local bar). This should be sufficient for you to feel safe and not be afraid that I am a psycho or stalker. I am real, you please be too.

Hope to talk to you soon.
What I’m doing with my life
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These days, the bulk of my time is spent just enjoying my kids. I am quite busy with 3 little ones, but it is all worth it.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Honestly, there's not much that I can't do. I'm not one to toot my own horn, but I'm one of those people that can do just about anything (and do it well) if I truly am determined to do so.
The first things people usually notice about me
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MY BIG BALD HEAD....
Then, maybe my eyes. I've been complimented quite a bit on my eyes. Then, maybe my goatee. Lots of women want to pull on it, as if they expect it to come off in their hands.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1.) Steak (well, meat of any sort). I'm an avid carnivore.
2.) Pepsi - It is my one addiction.
3.) A good, close shave. I can go a day or two without, but I really feel myself when I'm nice and smooth.
4.) A pair of Levi's 569's. I don't mind getting dressed up, but everyone's gotta have a good, comfy pair of jeans.
5.) My kiddo's. Life just wouldn't be the same without 'em.
6.) A hot shower. Nothing beats washin' the day away and relaxing with a steamy soak in the shower. (well, I can think of one other thing, but we'll save that for a later discussion)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- WHY it seems to be so damn hard to find a woman in my age range that isn't a pot smoker.

AND

- Why so many women I've encountered answer "No" or "Never" to the drug use question, YET they smoke pot REGULARLY!!!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Curled up on the couch with my munchkins, watching a movie. I know, exciting, right?

On the rare Friday that all 3 kids are somewhere else, you'll usually find me at a local watering hole. There are 3 that I visit on occasion (Shakers, The Couch, or The San Juan Club); & all 3 are within a couple of miles of my home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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My first real love was killed in a car accident when we were only 15. Our love was still in that akward "afraid to say it" stage, even though EVERYONE around us knew it. So I learned that life has no guarantees. Love deeply, love openly, and love freely.
You should message me if
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OK, apparently I'm "RIDICULOUS" because I will not give out my phone # until I've met you in person. AND apparently my requiring a first meeting in a public place is not enough security for your safety, without you having my # first.

Well ladies, if you agree with the above statements, then BUUUH-BYYYE!!!

On the other hand, if you can respect my cautiousness with my phone # (not all wierdo stalkers are men, ya know), since my kids sometimes use my phone;

AND

You want a guy who actually cares what you want to do,

Then here I am...