Find better matches with our advanced matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


35 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 9:20pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Not at all
Graduated from masters program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
English, Chinese (Okay), Japanese (Poorly)

Similar Users

My self-summary
I'm an optimist with a great sense of humor. I view the world a little differently than most people, mostly because my experiences have been different. That being said, I put empathy high on my list of desirable traits.

I value art and the aesthetic, honesty (with oneself and others), laughing at life's absurdities, and the ability to move through difficulty with grace. I'm very well read and travelled.

Caveats: I'm taciturn and it takes a while to get to know me. I'm straightforward but tactful. I'm grizzled by California standards. My humor is inappropriate in 97% of situations, but rarely low-brow. Some of my ideas lean radical.
What I’m doing with my life
I've done a lot of different things.

Currently, I'm working construction after folding and investment research firm. Long story on that one. In the past I've been a management consultant, equity analyst, IRS agent, a missile system operator in the Navy, worked in steel mills, was a bouncer, taught English in China..... lots of weird stuff.

In the near-term, I'm probably going to end up back in corporate life, but I'm enjoying working with hands again and sneaking off the job-site in a suit to go on interviews.

Outside of work, I'm interested in re-engaging in political activism after a long absence. I'm non-partisan but concerned about inequality in the U.S. and unsustainable economic practices. Fun stuff.
I’m really good at
Guessing people's ethnic origins. I would have been an amazing spy during the Cold War.
The first things people usually notice about me
Vigo Mortenson. People stop me on the street and tell me I look like Vigo Mortenson. Could be a lot worse (sometimes I get Crispin Glover).

Please don't reference the homo-erotic, naked knife fight scene in the movie Eastern Promises starring Vigo. Thanks.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Blood Meridian, The Plague, The Naked and The Dead, For Whom the Bell Tolls, A Death in the Family, The Moviegoer, Fierce Invalids Home from Hot Climates, etc..

Houses, Future Islands, Kavinsky, Hot Chip, LCD Soundsystem, Wild Nothing, Brothertiger, Youth Lagoon, Twin Shaddow, Lotus Plaza, Memory Tapes, Teen Daze, Small Black, Metrenomy, Magic Bullets, Chad Valley, We Were Promised Jetpacks, Phantogram, Young Galaxy, etc…

8 ½, Step Brothers, Bladerunner, Blue Valentine, The Guard, The 7th Seal, Blue Velvet, and anything else with deep existentialist themes (because I'm so deep).

I really like art. Cuai Guo-Quiang, Damien Hirst, Matthew Barney, Won Ju Lim, Paul McCarthy, Franz Kline, Doug Aitken, Tracy Emin, Rineke Dijkstra, Elizabeth Peyton. List goes on for a while.

I'm omnivorous, but really like traditional Chinese food. Most other people don't.
The six things I could never do without
Periodic travel to weird places overseas.
Driving - I really like riad trips up and down the coast..
Fancy shoes - see "Down by Law" for fancy shoe example.
I drink a staggering amount of Trader Joe's soda water.
Beard trimming tools.
It's cliche / maudlin but my friends are very important to me.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The size and age of the universe relative to moi.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I'm pretty unconventional on a number of fronts. I don't wear any of it on my sleeve.

Also, I don't drink. I go to bars all the time, but I'm drinking diet coke and probably way over-caffeinated.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 23–38
  • Near me
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
You're smart, artistic, well traveled, and pleasantly eccentric