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My self-summary
I'm a bit of a rebel, so I'm going to break convention, and against all advice to the contrary tell you mostly what I'm NOT rather than what I AM.

-I'm not a 'godly' man, but I'm spiritual in my way. I'll respect your faith so long as you don't ram it down my throat constantly.
-I'm not a 'good' man, but I'm also not a jerk. If pushed I can be.
-I'm not 'hard working' because I'm retired, I'm retired because I'm partially disabled.
-I'm not 'Mr Right' but I'm also not 'Mr Right Now' either. Who 'Mr. Wrong' is will largely be up to you.
-I don't believe hate solves anything, but I'm human enough to know what it feels like...and I hate it.
-I don't believe VIOLENCE solves anything, particularly in a home environment but I can't honestly say it's never touched me.
-I've never tried being a dad, so honestly I may just suck at it. Then again, where do parents get trained?
-I can see very clearly the color of your skin, the weight and truth of your words and actions mean a lot more to me.
-I don't care where you're from, I don't care where you live, I don't much care if you look or dress like some supermodel. Show me your eyes and your smile and I'll tell you who I think you REALLY are. On the other hand I know too well what I look like, try not to sneer and offer me the same in return.
-I have done marriage (badly) and I have lost a partner who died in my arms. Try not to judge me for being so gun shy
-I have more need for a 'friend than a 'girlfriend', I have more need for a 'girlfriend' than a 'lover', I have more need for a 'lover' than a wife. I refuse to marry in haste ever again. If you need the pomp and circumstance to feel loved I hope you find him.
-I have no need for someone who's too good for me in their own mind, but if you feel that way, what does that say about you?
-As for "being a real man" or "keeping it real" do you honestly know what that means or are you just saying it out of habit? Yes I keep it real, yes I'm a real man, but if you have to place those limits on people, are you a real woman or just a little girl? Real women love to be held and taken care of, but only little girls really NEED it.
-I pride myself on being truthful, but if backed into a corner and asked leading questions I'll lie to prevent a fight. I hate lying because the truth is so much easier to keep track of. On the other hand, I'll likely let you lie to me for an awfully long time before I call you on it. I was raised to treat calling someone a liar as a very serious act, and one you really had to be sure of before you voiced it. A person's reputation is the only part of who they are you can affect even if you don't know them, it's not a responsibility to be taken lightly.
-I do NOT equate sex with love, but over time love without sex starts to feel like a lie. Ask me about my never consummated marriage if you don't believe me.
-I don't wander, it's not in my nature. I leave though if I have no other choice, so give me a better option instead.
-I'm not too good to cuss, but I don't believe it's a sign of something wrong in a person if they do. If we disagree, I'll disappoint you.
-I can't dance (my disability is a bad back and leg) but that doesn't mean I don't want to. I also can't run or leap tall buildings in a single bound.
-I'm not slender, athletic or genuinely youthful. At my age I feel lucky to look as young as I do and THINK as young as I do.
I don't have any tattoos or piercings, on the other hand they have to be pretty bad for me not to like them. At this stage in my life, I can't see getting any myself. How about I just admire yours instead?
-I hate conflicts and fighting, they invade and overrun my calm. Sometimes there's no choice but to stand up and disagree, even if you're wrong.
-I am not 'plain vanilla', but the differences aren't really all that shocking and honestly only your business if you choose to make it so.
-Age is just a number, it's how you deal with it that matters. I've known 50 year olds that threw tantrums like a toddler, I've known 20 year olds that were more mature than I am. It's not the number, it's how you've applied it that matters. You can gain a LOT of experience in a short time, but it's rough on the soul.
-Not all passion is a good thing, but it's sign of good things. I may at times seem so placid as to be free of passions. I'm not, I just keep a tighter rein on them.
-If you judge me based on a flash of my face, a handful of my words, or some vague clue in my profile that makes you run away screaming then you've learned all you're willing to about me. Your loss. I'm not perfect though, I've made those mistakes before too. The trick is to look past it and see the person.
-I will try to overlook your flaws, if you'll try to overlook mine. One or both of us might fail, but hey, at least we tried!
-I don't have a lot going for me outside of who I am by some standards, but you may have noticed I haven't given up yet either. Maybe that's worthy of notice. It's not arrogance, but curiosity and pure stubbornness. It's what keeps me alive and makes me hope for better.
-I'm smarter than I look, but it doesn't make me a genius. I still make mistakes, I expect you will too. Perfection isn't a realistic standard to hold you to either.

My 'true age' test says I'm really 41, what's up with that?
What I’m doing with my life
Disabled/retired, for the large part whatever I like and can afford!
I’m really good at
Listening actively, distilling meaning from the vapor of nuance, creative writing of several kinds.

There are several unlisted talents of course!
The first things people usually notice about me
in person-my size (hello? overweight? get your mind out of the gutter!)
otherwise-my personality
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books-SciFi/Fantasy/Horror/ some Mystery (Niven & Pournelle/William Gibson/Neal Stephenson/Anne McCaffrey)
Movies- Almost anything provided it's done well
I've never seen a live show, so no telling
Music-Almost anything I've heard to one degree or another, prefer folk/rock/jazz. Not a huge fan of Country/Western and only like selected hip-hop/rap
Food- what I don't like would be a much shorter list.
The six things I could never do without
Something to read
Water (the last four not necessarily in that order)

(I didn't mention air or gravity, but I live on planet earth, so I don't think I have to do without them at this time =P)

By the way, Ladies? This is one of the first sections I read in any woman's profile, it tells me a lot and warns me away from those whom I will tend to disagree with on one particular point. I hate fighting over what someone else finds important, so I don't.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
I'll reserve this for people I really know well; the answer while startling isn't in any way harmful or dangerous.
On a typical Friday night I am
Home, unless fate intervenes! Often in front of the computer to keep my mind active.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I've been homeless twice in my life and never will again if I can help it at all. I'm nowhere near as 'vanilla' as I seem, but I keep that to myself unless I know it's welcome.
You should message me if
Hint: Ladies, if I 'Like' you on OKC it means I'm curious, it's my low impact way of saying I'm open without making you feel 'creeped on'.

You LIKE older men, aren't fixated as much on appearance as substance and prefer someone literate with a sense of humor and the faintest touch of kink. My age range is not hard and fast, but there needs to be that spark. Eyes and smile, hearts and minds pretty much rule over any physical attraction for me but honestly, if you're stunning I'm gonna notice!

Just so we're clear, smoking or any sort of fanaticism is a 100% deal-breaker. Fanaticism? "Go peddle your crazy somewhere else, we're all stocked up here..."

I don't normally message if:
"Y'all got issues"
"God/Religion" appear in your six most important things
Despite OKC 'matching' us I'm not in your age range or you're not in mine. (this offends you, sorry, but you need to change your numbers) Call it prejudiced, but these are clear deal breakers too